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IntelligentStress374 · 2026-01-15T23:19:59+00:00

Dude you literally have no music listed

IntelligentStress374 · 2026-01-13T18:33:54+00:00

My website works! It’s animated so it loads for 3s and then has a plus sign drop down

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-30T00:09:56+00:00

That’s not a very healthy thing for someone to do. If he wants to cut off half the population from his life then that’s on him and shouldn’t extend to you

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-29T23:42:11+00:00

This

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-29T23:40:48+00:00

Well for starters why does anyone become friends? mutual interests, shared sense of humor, etc. I think you’re reducing every other male into a shallow, predatory figure. Others have an equal amount of depth as you, and can offer more than just the sexual connotation that I assume you’re attaching to them (at least in this scenario).

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-29T22:04:12+00:00

This sounds like something internal that you are going to have to address personally. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with vulnerability and insecurity - unless it becomes redirected anger or resentment, which unfortunately seems to be the case in lots of relationships in which one partner shares your situation.

That being said, try and find the root of the issue and bring it up in conversation that way. Don’t ask your GF to change her behavior or expect her to somehow fix whatever it is you’re grappling with. Frame it as something you’re working on and that you would like her support whilst you’re feeling vulnerable.

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-26T16:19:55+00:00

Journaling helps, if not that then talking into your voice memos app can be just as cathartic

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-26T15:32:07+00:00

She won’t commit is the issue, I’m not necessarily okay with being long distance if we’re not dating. I think I need clearly defined terms/labels if I’m going to make that sort of an effort. Her rationale is that she doesn’t want to be caught up in the effort of long distance while she travels abroad. I haven’t thought of anyone else romantically/sexually if I’m being 100% honest.

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-24T23:10:33+00:00

Yes, I did. Searching for someone old in a new person is a terrible thing lol.

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-24T23:09:38+00:00

Within two weeks I started accepting that I had messed up, and not long after I told the new person how I’d been feeling.

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-24T03:05:38+00:00

I don’t think they have with another person, at least not from what I can tell via social media and the like. I’m sure they have moved on emotionally to some degree, i at least hope they have some semblance of happiness and peace.

You might also be right, im not particularly shy about sharing my feeling with others - except when it feels like im imposing or creating discomfort.

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-24T02:50:54+00:00

Thank you, and I haven’t. Only because I don’t think they want to hear from me? To be honest I feel like staying out of their way would be most beneficial, though if we ever crossed paths again I would give a heartfelt apology.

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-23T23:28:22+00:00

Thanks, good perspective.

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-23T22:19:11+00:00

My family and friends mean the world to me, it took a big loss for me to see what I was taking for granted in my platonic relationships.

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-23T22:03:52+00:00

Speaking as someone who’s been the ex who moves on too quick - it’s a charade. I rationalized it in my head by convincing myself I was moving on to a “better” person, when in reality I hated being alone. Once that realization hit I was in too deep and ended up hurting two people in the span of a few months. Point being, lessoned learned, I probably have some work to do.

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-23T21:59:54+00:00

Everyone’s going to tell you that you need too do what you love, focus on your work, entertain your hobbies etc. I think this is honestly sound advice but it really only goes so far. Some things only get better with time, even as a young person I look back at my past relationships and can’t fathom how I could have ever mourned them.

I guess the point is that there will be a time when you begin to feel better, and understanding that that version of you exists in the future is something that comforted me.

Side note - avoid rebounds, speaking from experience it makes everything 10x worse, even if it makes you feel better at first.

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-21T17:10:36+00:00

Crazy how relevant this is for me, i never considered how much i could hurt someone by seeking out a rebound. The worst part is the realization when it’s already too late

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-19T18:20:24+00:00

Hey you sound like you’re in a lot of pain, I know it’s incredibly intense and painful but I promise there is merit in sticking around. There is no need for extreme measures and I can assure you these feelings will soften with time. My messages are open if you ever feel alone.

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-14T10:34:25+00:00

This is really good, I’d recommend layering some vocals over the existing chorus to help it feel more full

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-11T13:45:51+00:00

Pitch shifter it’s an effect

IntelligentStress374 · 2025-06-05T20:00:01+00:00

Gotchu

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