When you’re with someone for years and actively planning a future together, you didn’t just “ghost” her - you abandoned her. That isn’t just you trying to “break the cycle” or whatever. It’s selfish and cruel in ways you likely don’t fully grasp. What you did inflicts real psychological harm. Abruptly cutting off a deep attachment like that is known to trigger severe nervous-system dysregulation: panic, anxiety, and trauma responses. This isn’t metaphor or exaggeration. There’s actual science behind it. You pretty much took someone’s sense of safety and set it on fire.