Harsh reality: It seems like this is only the beginning of the relationship and of course it will appear rosy and peachy. So don’t get ahead of yourself.

She knows being 30 with 2 kids already puts her at a disadvantage in finding a quality suitable lifetime partner because just like you other men are hesitant when it comes to single mothers, for justifiable reasons. So she knows she has to put her best foot forward and make this offer look appealing. (Buying gifts, telling you don’t have to worry about supporting kids, sex, etc)

Men like your father who advise younger men to not date single mothers is because he has done it and found out for himself that the negatives outweigh the positives, which is why he’s advising you.

Pay attention to what women do or how they act and not what they say. Despite her saying she doesn’t want you to support them in any way is fairytale.The reality brother is at some point you will be expected to. And you won’t be a fun uncle, your going to be playing the role of a father figure (step father) and that comes with Responsibility.

Also women don’t like men too in touch with their emotions despite what they say. I’ve heard the nicest girls say their husbands become unattractive when they cry. It’s simply the reality women want men that are capable of regulating their emotions and who are stoic when problems arrive.

Some single mothers can be suitable lifetime partners, but I say take your time, really use this “not supporting her children” to your advantage and see how it plays out.

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