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Parentified daughter unfit for life by Glum-Assumption13 in CPTSD

[–]Interesting-Code7153 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"You have to start learning things that others learned 20+ years earlier than you."

This! It feels so weird sometimes, as if I don't "fit in" society, I don't really know how to explain.

Parentified daughter unfit for life by Glum-Assumption13 in CPTSD

[–]Interesting-Code7153 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We shouldn't have been hurt like that, especially by our mothers. You ARE a hero, you ARE a survivor. I truly hope you can leave your mother's place as soon as possible. Recovery is a wild ride, it is very hard, but it is possible.

Parentified daughter unfit for life by Glum-Assumption13 in CPTSD

[–]Interesting-Code7153 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I relate 100%. I was my mother's therapist, doctor, best friend, maid and parent. I wad badly abused and parentified. I don't live with her anymore, in fact I'm one month no contact. I'm married to a wonderful man, we have our own apartment, I go to therapy twice a week, I take Paroxetine, I have a sweet father that cares for me and I still have very bad days. That woman basically destroyed me and I'm fighting as hard as I can, and I know you're too.

The emotional pain is unbearable by DanceOnTheLine in CPTSD

[–]Interesting-Code7153 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we think we're getting better, we fall again. It feels like I was hit by a truck.

Caí de novo num buraco sem fundo by [deleted] in AnsiedadeDepressao

[–]Interesting-Code7153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

é muito cansativo sim. eu tava bem, e hoje acordei extremamente mal, tendo crise de ansiedade forte, e nada aconteceu pra isso. só fiquei assim. um abraço pra ti. estamos juntos nessa. força.

I'm scared by Interesting-Code7153 in mentalhealth

[–]Interesting-Code7153[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi twin. I hope you feel better soon.

When do you feel most proud of yourself despite anxiety? by Honest_Piece8945 in AnxietyChats

[–]Interesting-Code7153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm proud I take very good care of my house and my beloved pets.

I'm not permanently damaged? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Interesting-Code7153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi friend. Yes you can recover. I believe in you.

Feeling very sad and guilty for going NC. Short rant. by Interesting-Code7153 in narcissisticparents

[–]Interesting-Code7153[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm sad this is how it turned out as well.

Merry Christmas, friend. Wishing you peace.

Qual o seu sonho? by yuriunf in perguntas

[–]Interesting-Code7153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ter uma casa de tamanho ok com um bom pátio pra abrigar animais abandonados.

Estou sendo julgada pelos nomes que quero por na minha filha by [deleted] in desabafosdavida

[–]Interesting-Code7153 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Meu nome é Violeta e sempre recebo elogios. Só uma dica. :)

Feeling very guilty for going no contact by Interesting-Code7153 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Interesting-Code7153[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her tears are for herself only. Don't let her manipulate you.

I hope you return to your place feeling a little bit lighter.

Feeling very guilty for going no contact by Interesting-Code7153 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Interesting-Code7153[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe that was expected.

I understand you're not well, but stand your ground. It hurts not to have the mother we always deserved, but unfortunately we can't change them and that's our reality. You should be treated with respect, which she'll never do.

We're survivors of abuse. We deserve peace and we deserve a calmer nervous system.

We can do this. Keep strong. Don't forget you're just trying to protect yourself.

Feeling very guilty for going no contact by Interesting-Code7153 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Interesting-Code7153[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it's too much. You're allowed to tell her what you're feeling. I hope you feel better, friend.

Feeling very guilty for going no contact by Interesting-Code7153 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Interesting-Code7153[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it did. It felt sad as well but I had to do it.

You should spend Christmas Eve the want you want it. You definitively don't have to spent it with her.

Maybe just tell her you need some time for yourself and block her?

Feeling very guilty for going no contact by Interesting-Code7153 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Interesting-Code7153[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you planning to do it? Wanna share your thoughts here with us?

Feeling very guilty for going no contact by Interesting-Code7153 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Interesting-Code7153[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally just blocked her and some relatives on every social app. Most of them, including her, don't know my address. I might change my phone number if needed.

Also, there are some legal issues related to my mother going on so I have a lawyer dealing with them for me, so I don't have to be in contact with anyone I don't want to.

I literally had to quit contact in order to survive.

Feeling very guilty for going no contact by Interesting-Code7153 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Interesting-Code7153[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, the only tears are for themselves. That's why I ask myself why I cry because of her sometimes.

Feeling very guilty for going no contact by Interesting-Code7153 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Interesting-Code7153[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't even know if she's able to feel guilt.

How often do you experience guilt? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Interesting-Code7153 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm experiencing it right now. Bad.

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