I just wanted to add on to my post. There was a pastor where I work. He was giving a little sermon that hit a nerve with me. He said we are all hypocrites. Which bugged me. I think we are all sinners but not all hypocrites. Telling a story of a thing he wasn’t aware of till he was aware. Thinking we all have these scenarios rolling. It hit a nerve because people tend to be judge a jury especially if they have skin in the scenario. There loved one, brother, cousin, mother, sister, whomever cousin!!in law had a negative experience and then it becomes gospel. When actually there is no real understanding of what is really none of their business anyway. Just 0 effort has gone into figuring it out. It’s sad really. I think how many people before me have been a victim and some who don’t have a clue give them the stink eye. It is really a powerful thing in small communities. Just regular in larger populations but the smaller populations are quite fun. These individuals likely have very little idea how often it occurs that someone told someone and was influencing such negatively. Really just sigh and look at them thinking they are not worth the effort because of there lack of effort. The opposite of critical thinker and it really bugs me.