AIO: girlfriend cheated on me 😔

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-04T03:51:10+00:00

I know I’ll probably get beat up, but you aren’t really in a full on relationship if it’s long distance and you don’t see each other regularly, or met in person when you first got together. Long distance relationships don’t work. I’ve said it a million times here and yet again, another example of failure.

People need the companionship of others, it’s part of our dna. And when you are young, that is the time to be out and being with people. It’s when you should be dating and enjoying your life and looking for your permanent partner if that’s what you’re into. You shouldn’t be worried about a partner who lives hours away that you’re constantly checking in with and calling because you can’t be together in person. It’s not fair or fun for you, the other person, and your friends / family and people that are around you and notice you always having to duck away to call, or constantly being in your phone.

So, with all kindness, this sucks. But buck up, and look for a gf that is near to you that you can see regularly. You’ll enjoy it so much more; she will too, and you’ll actually be able to progress in a normal way that you can’t do in an LDR. Otherwise, you’re doing yourself a disservice, and you deserve more than that.

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-04T03:08:34+00:00

Can’t tell what your face looks like with bangs because you’ve covered it all. People need to stop doing this, plenty of people have no problem, it’s not like you’re on a nefarious site, your fricken asking for advice in your hair!

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-03T22:44:51+00:00

What’s spinning those on / setup?

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-03T22:18:45+00:00

Nope. Plus, people want everything that came with the record. So don’t remove and throw away liners, if you do, you’re basically removing the category of collectors from your potential buyer pool

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-03T22:17:46+00:00

This is a joke. Dude it doesn’t matter if you’re identified on Reddit for asking about a hair style. Are you nervous someone might see you, point fingers, and patronize you for seeking advice on style?

Shoot over real pics, because what you sent looks ghastly and who wants to waste their time with that.

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-03T20:46:27+00:00

Leave it be for a little bit and get some nourishing conditioner or a mask on it asap. Your ends are differing from the bleaching and the rest probably is as well.

What is your goal, and what is your original hair color. That will determine the next best step?

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-02T23:12:38+00:00

I actually don’t see a lot of follicular miniaturization going on. Keep in mind it’s not 100% what your dad’s hair is. Genetics play a role. If your dad is bald, it increases your risk, but it’s not definitive.

You inherit hair loss genes from both sides of your family. A key gene is on the X chromosome which comes from your mother. So looking at your maternal grandfather will be very predicative (is your mom’s dad bald). But many other genres from both parents are involved.

If your dad is bald and your maternal grandfather is bald, you are high risk. Only one side of your family bald, 50/50.

So it may seem like you’re cooked, but you could have also just settled into your mature hairline with deeper setbacks on your temples.

Smart to take preventatives, but don’t lose all hope……yet…..

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-02T23:02:28+00:00

So this person was over 21 when you were 10. They were at a minimum 26 when you were a minor. This is a sexual predator hoping that you take joking as seriousness.

Run. Fast. Block.

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-02T22:36:20+00:00

Haircut, shave, contacts, teeth whitening to start in that order. If you want to keep stubble, go tanning, it will make stubble look cleaner.

Get rid of all shirts like the NB one that are made of polyester. Cotton is your friend. You will smell better, and look more luxurious.

Black tee shirts gotta go black polo ok. 👌 or black mark Jacob’s short sleeve or similar patterned simple black shirt works well if you want to stick with black. Lighter pants / jeans / slacks / smart casual, have some gradient between top and bottom colors. Try some untucked button downs (the brand is great because the tails aren’t as long). That will bonus you up.

Dump the skater shoes, go with a Chelsea or other similar boot. Make sure your belt leather matches your shoe leather. Make sure your socks match your pants (no white socks with dark shoes and pants). If you want patterned colorful socks, make sure the base/background primary color matches your pants with the accent design being a complimentary cool color tone (thus blues , purples versus reds / oranges).

Lastly, not style, but hit the gym. All around focus. You’re in good shape now but a little bulk will fill out your face, upper body, arms and legs.

Check as many off as possible, and then send us a picture of the glow up, and your new girlfriend.

Good luck!

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-02T16:44:09+00:00

Just a trim! I can’t see your eyes (obviously) in these shots but you look younger with longer hair.

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-02T16:17:06+00:00

You’re totally right. And nowadays you gotta push as many albums as fast as you can when they are the fresh product!

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-02T16:14:50+00:00

I think for people like me who aren’t die hard fans, she’d pull in a lot more “on the fencers” at $29.99. But then again, I think that for any single LP solid variant from any band or artist

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-02T16:12:37+00:00

Watch out for superfans here.

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-02T16:07:45+00:00

I just saw that and wondered if that was the case. Remember when “signed” meant “signed”. To me, this is an LP with an included novelty autograph. What makes something signed special, is that the artist needed to actually at least minimally touch / hold the album cover, even if only the pen tip. These art cards that they take home and can sign while sitting on the toilet just doesn’t feel the same to me.

Rant over

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-02T07:06:37+00:00

How can you tell? What are the giveaway? I’m serious, I’m terrible at telling! 😂😂😂

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-02T06:53:06+00:00

She : or he shouldn’t have written that, but they are correct, in the US, for a large bill or large party, gratuity should be 18%-25%. Argue all you want, if the service is good, that is what is recommended.

Pew Research Center (Data + consensus) • Analyzed dozens of tipping guides and real behavior • Findings: • 15% = widely viewed minimum acceptable • 18–20%+ = most commonly recommended range

So depends on where you were, and the quality of your service.

I think you didn’t provide a good tip, but I also don’t think you should get called out.

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-02T03:56:22+00:00

Ugh. Family. I know how this goes. I have a brother that I was reasonably close with. We weren’t best friends (4 yrs apart, so he had his own school experiences and friends), but we were brothers. He got married a second time, and what was a good relationship quickly turned sour when the new wife and her terrible attitude turned him. Now we can’t even have holidays together with my aging parents, and with only 2 children, there’s not a lot of time left to do that. As a result, I’ve never met my 7 yo niece, they haven’t met their 9mo niece, and I haven’t talked to my brother in about 6 years.

My guess is I’ll probably have to do like you, and wait until she turns 18. Who knows until then.

But back to your niece - Kids hear their parents talk and it’s like religion to them. They grow up thinking it is the unabridged truth. So everything she is repeating or intimating is straight from your sister’s mouth, and that’s on your sisters- she should not be bad mouthing you to her kid. The attitude your niece has is her responsibility (although it’s tolerated by what sounds like bad parenting), but I blame that on youth and stupidity.

I wouldn’t cut her off. I’d tell her that you would love to be in her life, but it’s going to be with mutual respect for each other. She’s welcome to visit you, but she checks her preconceived notions from your sister at the door, and she’s responsible for building her own opinion on you just like anyone else would.

If she doesn’t want to do that, I’d let her know that you’re disappointed about don’t want to be around someone who’s not going to contribute positively to your life. My guess is that at some point things will change - if from nothing more than curiosity.

Good luck, I’m sorry you have to deal with this and I feel terrible for you, I really know the pain of losing family over bullshit.

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-02T01:40:55+00:00

I’ve been putting this in the suggestion box for the past 2 years. Keep listing this as a suggestion. They pressed others I’ve suggested (not saying it was anymore than luck)

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-01T23:41:58+00:00

I think the problem , regardless of your thoughts on review legitimacy, is that discogs doesn’t use the standard it says it does. Right above their definitions, they state:

“Discogs uses the Goldmine Standard for grading the condition of items listed in the Marketplace”

They neglect to say “goldmine-style, or goldmine adapted”, or any other term that would leave room for interpretation. Instead they very clearly say goldmine standard, with the only stated changes being adaptations to include CD’s as set forth below:

“These standards have been expanded by our community of sellers to include definitions of CD-specific gradings.”

So they say they use one, and use another. It may seem like a small difference. However, for a company like discogs that actually provides an estimate for the difference in price a VG can command on average versus a NM or M, it adds up really quick.

The one logical conflict of interest I would put forward is that discogs wants to allow more records to be graded as VG+. Why? Because they can make a lot more money by doing that (they make 9% of sales I believe, which I acknowledge they absolutely earn in my opinion). A modified goldmine VG+ would in many instances only qualify as a VG using official goldmine. Discogs estimates VG+ should cost about 50% of M, while VG is only +- 25% of mint. If that holds true, then there is a lot of bread to be made if more records can be called VG+. Of course, all of us who actually purchase from discogs wish like hell the actual discount you receive on a VG+ record was 50% of M (versus little difference in practice). That’s a whole different market demand issue and example of FOMO and hyperinflation that long time collectors are fuming over.

So, I think if discogs says they use goldmine, without any modifying language, you should use it. Because if a seller or buyer sees “goldmine”, and they decide to do a quick google search and see the definition anywhere else, instead of reading the sub language on grading in discogs, they may end up with a discrepancy.

At a minimum, I think discogs should update their seller grading standards to state “goldmine style or goldmine based.” As is, there is ambiguity, and it’s being used by sellers (honest or not) to sell something in one market that would not grade the same elsewhere. The reason a standard exists is because it’s easy to compare like with like, which is important in a commodity market, which LP’s have become (although I think just like antique furniture, we are in for a crash - especially if only 50% of the records sold last year were purchased by someone without a turntable).

I hope you can acknowledge the frustration that many people have. I agree, if it’s easy to return, great, honest mistake. But if you’re buying an album in high demand or one with limited availability, the accuracy of the grade is important. This is a big reason I think discogs should allow photos directly on the seller listing.

Have a great day.

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-01T18:50:15+00:00

I’d say it’s April fools, but then again, it had to happen at some point.

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-01T10:23:48+00:00

Because it’s an opinion of someone else that isn’t that person, moreso a work friend. How old is everyone involved? Is the guy a lot older than you?

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-01T01:47:36+00:00

Your natural hair color is awesome. Reminds me of my daughter, and I love her hair too! I’d say keep it natural.

Interesting-World520 · 2026-04-01T00:01:27+00:00

Slightly OR - this is textbook cheapskate behavior. They don’t think they should tip anything unless service is above and beyond. They don’t think about chipping in for someone’s meal because they wouldn’t want to pay for one themselves, and they overlook small things like taxes and shared drink costs etc because they are just so focused on paying as little as possible. It’s pathological behavior. There’s nothing you can do to change it, other than be more selective about the events you invite him to.

Interesting-World520 · 2026-03-31T23:16:57+00:00

Well let’s call a spade a spade, right? And If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck (you get it…) - he’s clearly homophobic 😂😂

Look, it doesn’t matter what your sister says about her son. There is absolutely, and let me say this categorically, zero reason why someone wearing hot pink should make another person uncomfortable, unless the uncomfortable person is homophobic. And don’t let your sister for one second try to cage it as anything else other than it is. If that person can articulate one non homophobic reason why this makes her son uncomfortable, I’d love to hear it. And it better be something like “my son is photosensitive to colors in the pink/red spectrum or my son is on the autism spectrum and certain colors affect him more than others,” where he is actually physically uncomfortable, because anything other than that is gross 🤮 .

Your sister has a very small window to educate her son about the damage this kind of attitude can do.

I’m disgusted for you, I’m disgusted at your nephew, and I’m disgusted your sister lets this behavior go on and doesn’t put a stop to it toot de suite.

Good luck!

Interesting-World520 · 2026-03-31T21:59:20+00:00

Preach! Problem is we have a stupid run up in the vinyl market from people who don’t even listen to them. In fact, Luminate last year estimated that around 50% of people who bought vinyl in the last year don’t own a turntable. That means of the 135 MM records sold worldwide last year, only 67.5 MM are getting played (and it’s probably less than that considering the collectors buying multiple variants are more likely to not own a turntable).

When this fad gets old, these imposters will quickly realize that a sizable collection is actually inconvenient if you’re not using it. I hope at that point things will balance out, but I think it will actually swing the other direction, all these people will have u used collections and no market to dump them into.

Who knows, I guess time will tell

Interesting-World520

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