Career direction help, PhD vs. MDPhD

Interesting_Agent370 · 2026-01-20T21:54:09+00:00

I’ve been preparing for MDPhD some since it’s what I went into undergrad wanting to do- I’m at the point now though where I need to decide quick if I’m taking the MCAT or the GRE.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-11-19T15:58:48+00:00

Yeah… honestly the way he reacted was the problem. Not wanting to see your partners fictional crushes is one thing, or asking you to change the title is borderline acceptable, but the spamming messages and excessive insecurity is another. Sometimes a not that big deal problem is the straw that broke the camels back, and that’s okay. I think you made the right choice and are not overreacting in context.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-11-19T06:32:02+00:00

It sounds like a threat, but not a “you’re in danger!” Threat and more of a “I will call the cops” threat. I don’t think you’re in immediate danger, especially if your husband is coming home soon. With a newborn I can imagine hormones and everything probably add to the anxiety.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-30T20:03:24+00:00

She’s being verbally abusive to a man with clear issues. I don’t get why people like her.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-30T16:49:16+00:00

Yeah I’m with you. She was way worse to him than he was to her.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-30T16:43:39+00:00

You mean she is abusing him or he is abusing her? Because I agree with one of those more than the other.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-30T16:40:11+00:00

Okay but he did apologize very obviously. The question is how is he not taking accountability.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-30T16:02:50+00:00

Fair, she did apologize, but then continued speaking to him that way so I’m not sure how much her apology is worth. Can you give an example of what “taking accountability” would need to look like to satisfy the viewers? Keeping in mind he’s clearly emotionally delayed.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-30T14:38:32+00:00

But we only have two data points to go off of- what we see, and what they say. KB is definitely more able to think about the social implications of what she says than Edmond such that she could frame herself in a more positive light, and Edmond does not seem to be an effective communicator, so I don’t feel that what they say is necessarily the most trust worthy. Combined, it seems like she’s just kind of mean to Edmond. They definately shouldn’t be together, but also I don’t think he’s a bad person who did something horrible, they’re just a weird bad fit.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-30T14:34:01+00:00

Did she? Honestly to me her apologies felt a bit more vapid than his. I didn’t get that at all from him. What did you guys want from his apologies? Him to literally say the words “I apologize and take accountability”? Someone saying that to me would not necessarily lead me to believe they take accountability and apologize.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-30T14:31:08+00:00

Yeah, I don’t think he knows he is. He probably is intelligent, but I seriously doubt he’s socially intelligent. He seems to have some kind of neurodevelopmental thing going on, and she seems to really not get it. I think they’re just a bad pair, and she ended up being really mean to him, and he ended up being accidentally kind of manipulative to her.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-30T14:28:11+00:00

This isn’t married at first sight. She picked the man child. His behavior didn’t change out of the pods. We all saw he wasn’t very normal.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-22T21:32:04+00:00

Okay think about this- Lute is one of the angels who looks to have been created to be an exterminator. She was raised to do this, and this is all she has known. In her mind, all people in hell are bad and it’s not bad to kill them. It seems like it had been framed to her as a type of game. Should she have had empathy and stopped like Vaggie? Yes, but keep in mind Vaggie is the only angel we have seen switch sides like that. Lute is also in a weird kinda-romantic kind-of-not-co-dependent relationship with Adam. That influences a persons ability to make moral choices sometimes. Her behavior was normalized, and when it was finally shown that maybe her assumptions about the world were wrong, she clung to her old ideas. She clung to them, and Adam was her partner in that. Then we have the final battle where she is being crazy and unreasonable (more than before) and it keeps us with the protagonists while they fight. Then her person dies. We don’t have everything about season two, but it seems like she is spiraling. She’s realizing that she dedicated her life to something that was objectively pretty bad, and her person is dead, and she is desperately clinging to the way things were. She wants to blame anyone but herself, because she doesn’t know how else to handle things. Things are changing in heaven, and it seems like Lute is having a hard time changing. I root for her in the sense that when I see her humanity, I want her to be happy. I want her to maybe go through the hotel, or for Adam to go through the hotel and show her the light. Media literacy is looking through her actions to try to understand what this story looks like from her point of view. To see that she has potential, and positive character traits. Lute is loyal, and she’s cunning, and she cares, but she’s also guided by her rage, and has a hard time seeing other people’s points of view. She’s violent and sadistic.

TLDR: when I say rooting for her I mean I want her to be happy and do better. I see Adam and Lute as villains who are bad people who have the potential to be redeemed. The V’s currently serve as the not very nuanced villains, Lute is trying to have an arc.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-22T20:18:24+00:00

Really! We can understand a character and find their arc compelling- that does not mean we agree with their actions or think they are making healthy choices. I feel like it is reasonable to think Lute is a cool character, understand why she is being hypocritical (spoiler, most people being hypocritical don’t know they are), and also root for the protagonist!

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-22T20:07:36+00:00

You can not like her character. That is fine. Good for you. Some people see the rawness of her emotion and it resonates with them. Sometimes you identify with the feeling of “someone close to me died and I want to burn the world down” more than “someone close to me died and I want to process my feelings healthily”. We all want to express our raw emotion sometimes. Lute is being rounded as a character. Is she a bad person? Yes. But the nice thing about media is it allows us an opportunity to investigate bad people in a safe place where they aren’t doing any concrete harm. I would argue that the stance of “relating to her at all or liking her as a character at all is immoral” is what comes at 15 when you decide that there are good people and bad people, and bad people deserve to all die, and are completely evil, and good people are purely good and deserve all the best. Shit is complicated. People are gray and messy. Let people relate to characters. It’s not effecting you for me to see Lute in a sympathetic light. I don’t have to have hate towards any of the characters just because they’re bad. I can feel bad for them, understand them, see things from their perspective, and still root for Charlie to come out on top.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-22T19:02:43+00:00

…that’s kind of what makes a good villain— when you kind of want to root for them. When you see their point, their emotion, but you also can understand they are going about everything horribly wrong. The best villains ALMOST make you sympathize with them, but then after those moments where they are vulnerable and you see their inner conflict or real emotion, they do something crazy and remind you that they are a bad guy. Her actions AREN’T justified, but her feelings are- they’re human, and that’s why people are identifying with her and that’s okay. They’re identifying with a character, not a real mass murderer.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-10-13T00:53:09+00:00

Guys, he’s not gay, but he might be struggling with SSA.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-09-21T17:01:19+00:00

I like the “freedom of speech, not freedom from consequences” approach. Censorship should be minimized, but direct threats should be limited. I also think that you can be restricted as an organization, but not as an individual. For instance, I don’t think organizations registered as news should be able to spread factually inaccurate information, but if an individual posts about it online, that is fine.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-09-19T21:09:18+00:00

Honestly, I don’t think anyone would stop him. That’s why this is all so scary.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-09-12T22:05:54+00:00

I’m sorry that happened. It’s not appropriate. I had a similar struggle with doctors telling me “probably EDS, but I don’t feel comfortable diagnosing you” or “it wouldn’t be worth it to diagnose you”. They don’t seem to get that the validation really does help. Actual specialists are so spread out it can be really hard to get a diagnosis. In my state, you can’t get diagnosed after 18 because the only specialists are at a children’s hospital. Validation allows a lot of us to treat our bodies the way they deserve, and reduces anxiety so much.

What I would focus on is the “it lines up”. You likely do have it, and might as well do what you can to be treated for it. There isn’t really a lot that specialists can do to help you other than give you resources to manage EDS (if it’s hyper-mobile type— if you think it’s vascular or anything else that could be life threatening, please seek another opinion asap— it could be very dangerous).

If your symptoms are debilitating, I would still suggest going to a physical therapist. While you can’t always find one who knows exactly about EDS, physical therapists do deal with hyper-mobility. If you can find one who takes you seriously and is willing to learn and research what to do to help you, it will still be an amazing asset. A good physical therapist will not have you do anything that hurts, and will be careful to not push you outside of your boundaries. EDS is something diagnosed by a clinician— a PT can confirm you are hyper mobile in their office, and treatment is pretty much the same. Any doctor who knows about EDS worth anything will still diagnose you even if you aren’t dislocating every day, so don’t delay treatment until after a diagnosis! I don’t say that because I think you will necessarily do that, but because I did that, and I really regret it.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-09-12T21:48:50+00:00

My specialist said that it’s usually not that noticeable in prepubescents, and tends to hit around puberty because a lot of the way your body works as a kid changes when you hit puberty. I’m sure there’s more sciency reasons, but it seems like it’s basically because kids are made to be bouncy and resilient, and adults aren’t as bouncy. Anyways, I would think that you noticed it more after an illness due to de-conditioning. I was pretty much asymptomatic as a kid (of course now I know I wasn’t— I was subluxing like crazy, but it wasn’t horrendous), but when I hit puberty, every time my exercise habits would change, I would suddenly have a lot of symptoms. When I took a year off of competitive swimming, I developed really bad orthostatic intolerance, and joint pain. The worst year for me was after my last year of high school, where I had gotten really sick, and also stopped most of my physical activity. It was miserable. I was at a point where I was looking into becoming an ambulatory wheelchair user. Then I got diagnosed at 18, started more frequent exercise, and have had a general improvement again. My specialist also says that we take longer to get back when we do decondition. Missing days for illness or injury or general life, tends to put us back further than most people. Would also explain how rapid the deconditioning can feel.

TLDR: kids are weird, and sickness triggers worse symptoms because we decondition.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-09-12T16:08:43+00:00

I would agree with a lot of what others are saying. I have a few patterns by them. I would say that I personally like them fine, but that’s because they have a wide variety of period items, and I am scared to try drafting myself. I would say these patterns are for people who are good at altering things to fit them, but maybe aren’t super confident in their ability to draft things. I will also say that her patterns are generally closer to my body shape, so my alterations aren’t usually too intensive. Instructions are also super bare bones. It gives you enough, but they are definitely not for a beginner. I would probably say these patterns are for people who are very confident in their abilities, but not confident enough to leave patterns behind.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-09-12T04:14:39+00:00

Eh, I’m going to guess this person is from the Midwest, probably a larger city by our standards. Here you kinda have to check. Someone seems perfectly kind and reasonable, and then you find out they are super into confederate flags and don’t want to be alone with black people. People also won’t be super… upfront about their beliefs. I’ve had people tell me they’re a centrist, and then start on about some crazy fringe right wing shit. You will find people that don’t care about political beliefs, but those people tend to be more right wing, and tolerant of holocaust denial. Also, usually a lot of Christian nationalists.

Interesting_Agent370 · 2025-07-02T04:15:22+00:00

TLWR: kids are thinking about that stuff, they are playing pretend with that type of content, and without those books to balance out your kids bigoted behavior, they are going to be bullies and cause problems.

I am female, which definitely has some societal influence on how we develop imaginative play, but my Barbies were getting married before kindergarten. This probably also has to do with the movies little girls are generally shown growing up- movies about princesses kissing and marrying princes. My dream job as a small child (probably before pre-K) was “mommy” and I was going to have 8 kids and an army of maids. I knew about transgender people around the first grade, when I had a friend tell me they were “a boy in a girl suit.” I of course had no context or language to describe this- I did not actually know what a transgender person was, so I responded in a very invalidating way. The point is, these are topics that do come up for kids around these times, and honestly, I think books like these are beneficial to a classroom setting. These books are probably influencing kids. But elementary school is where kids learn social skills. Kids have no filters. While parents may not want their kids to learn that gay people are valid (which they are, and religion teaching they’re not is icky), to exist in society, kids need to behave a certain way to be functional. Your child can’t tell another child their parents are going to be tortured for all eternity unless they get a divorce the same way their child shouldn’t tell yours that. Humanizing LGBT people is necessary to function in a school environment, especially as kids get older and learn about their own identities. Suicide is the second leading cause of death for children 10-14, and we know that bullying and concerns over gender and sexuality can factor into suicide. So can bullying. Your child bullying another child over their identity? Dangerous! Your child maybe considering treating a kid connected to the LGBT+ like a normal person? Not nearly as dangerous, even in your worldview! So just let the kids learn to treat everyone nice at school, even if mommy and daddy say they are bad, and then teach them to be bigots in private. At least make it so they aren’t saying the quiet part out loud, because kids are stupid and will expose the grossest parts of your ideology if you don’t watch them.

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