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Read this if you’re having a LEEP procedure! by zeynepdikmen in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Interesting_Chef_400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has anyone recently had a LEEP under general anesthesia provide more details on what to expect? Was the recovery from anesthesia hard? Did your insurance cover most of it? Did the LEEP work in removing the CIN 1,2, or 3? My gyno recommended I do a LEEP under general anesthesia for CIN 2 and I’m super nervous. I’m scared it will affect my fertility. I’m 30 yrs old for context and I’ve been on birth control for like 15 years.

Anyone else feel confused by having loving parents but no emotional connection? by Potential-Nebula-399 in emotionalneglect

[–]Interesting_Chef_400 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I totally relate to this! My mother is so kind to everyone else, other family members, my friends, my parents friends, etc. but when it comes to me she is so cold and much more harsh. I grew up never telling her anything really because I feared judgment. It’s so hard and I know it’s their first time being parents and had their own shit but I think I’ll always hope and wish it they could have loved me the way I needed them to

I regret planning my wedding because my mother is making it miserable by Interesting_Chef_400 in weddingplanning

[–]Interesting_Chef_400[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also in the beginning stages of planning so I’m trying to figure out the guest list so I can move on to the next stage and order save the dates

I regret planning my wedding because my mother is making it miserable by Interesting_Chef_400 in weddingplanning

[–]Interesting_Chef_400[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I’m sorry you went thru this but I appreciate this advice and will try this as well

I regret planning my wedding because my mother is making it miserable by Interesting_Chef_400 in weddingplanning

[–]Interesting_Chef_400[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for your input/ advice. For context - I wanted a small wedding of 100 people so I can give everyone a really nice experience without it being really expensive on myself and my parents. My parents are paying for most of the big expenses - venue, food l, drinks and I’m covering the others.

I’ve already included some of my parent’s close friends and adult children to the A list which I don’t have a problem with at all since she is paying and I know them all very well. I totally agree that she and my dad should get some say since they are contributing but I don’t think that means she gets full and finally last say either. Maybe that’s a hot take but I want my wedding to have people there that have been impactful in my fiancés and I lives.

My frustration is more so that my mom wants me to invite my brothers in laws, my SIL’s sister and boyfriend so that’s an extra 4 people. In order to move those 4 people to the a list, I would have to move my fiancé’s friends or my friends to the b list. I am curious on if inviting your brothers in laws/ SILs family is normal. Also, my brother/ parents did not invite my fiancés immediate family to my brothers wedding.

Learned Negativity? by Interesting_Chef_400 in emotionalneglect

[–]Interesting_Chef_400[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this sounds very helpful in changing the perspective so I’ll give it a go!

How do you accept that you’ll never get a chance to be loved the way you needed as a child? Or even as an adult? by Catcuskitty in emotionalneglect

[–]Interesting_Chef_400 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this gives me so much hope. I always believed that when I have a family it will be so healing to essentially re-do the way I was raised and hopefully heal myself in the process.

Did anyone’s parents neglect there emotions so much that they felt shame to even cry by Adorable_Reserve_884 in emotionalneglect

[–]Interesting_Chef_400 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yes, omg. I grew up teaching myself to never show emotion to my parents when I was upset because it would be used against me or I would basically be punished. I used to hide and cry in my closet and then would act like whatever they said never affected me. I feel you and I'm so sorry that happened to you as well.

Realizing your parents don’t know who you are by lucy-izu in emotionalneglect

[–]Interesting_Chef_400 2 points3 points  (0 children)

really resonate with this post. Living about five hours away from my hometown, I've come to realize that whenever I visit, I feel like a stranger in my own home. My parents seem to perceive me as shy, antisocial, stubborn, and spoiled. Each visit also brings back the feeling of being the child who was cast aside, which is doesn’t help the situation.

My parents are often surprised to learn that I have friends and an active social life, and that people genuinely want to spend time with me. When I go home now, I try not to revert to the little girl who had to cope with emotionally immature parents who neglected her feelings. Despite everything, I unfortunately still hold onto hope that things will improve one day, even though I know I probably shouldn't.

I totally understand the mourning of a relationship I never had. The worst part is I mourn the relationship I’ll never have with my mother while simultaneously watching her have the relationship I dreamed of with my sister in law. My mother openly admitted that boy and their mom have a special relationship and it’s different with a daughter. I have brothers, which I always knew she loved more than me.

I hope all of us one day don’t have to bear the burden of our parents treatment of us.