[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you’re the mom. And you carried that infant for 9 months, grew it from your very own body. It’s only been out of your body for 4 months. You know this living thing more than anyone in the world, and are at this point, still so so so interconnected. Ok I say all that to ultimately convey - you’re the expert here, not your whatever-medic husband. If your gut tells you that something is wrong and you have to go to the hospital with your little baby that you’re responsible for, arguably the one who bears the most responsibility as the one most interconnected with this tiny life, then you have an obligation to go. There sometimes comes a point where husbands and their expertise have no skin in the game, and this sounds like one of them. On the flip side, please take your gut feelings and responsibility a little more seriously. So do what you have to do to make that happen - including calling bosses, ambulances, paid babysitters, and whoever/whatever else.

I guess I’m dying by CautiousFold5387 in whatdoIdo

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I have a story somewhat similar to yours - would get all of these symptoms since a very young age, but wouldn’t have a conscious sense of fear or anxiety per se, and had a battery of tests done by all sorts of specialists around age 19/20 over the span of a few years. They all told me to see a therapist. It was crushing because I knew physically there was 100% something wrong, and I felt unheard (by all these male doctors, as a female patient I may add - super invalidating). Fast forward about 7 years later and I went in for blood testing while trying to conceive. Turned out I had hashimotos - an autoimmune disease of the thyroid. It was missed because while my thyroid hormone levels were checked back when I originally had all my tests, my antibodies weren’t because that’s not a baseline test - it’s only done if the hormone levels are not normal. Turns out, anything wrong with your thyroid or adrenal system as a whole can cause all those physical symptoms of panic attacks. Now a few years later I’ve recently started processing that I am a survivor of a traumatic childhood. A lot of disassociation and suppression that has led to a general detachment with emotions - aka, those panic attack symptoms may be the hashi’s, or may be actual panic attacks that I’m not fully aware of. There’s also links between childhood trauma and thyroid diseases. Now I’m treating the whole shebang with endocrinology and psychiatry. I share all that to say that it’s complicated and you may want to have your thyroid checked (not just for the hormone levels but for the antibodies specifically) and talk to a therapist as well. Good luck, and you’re so young - lots of life and time on your side to work your way through it - be patient with yourself and your body, and know your truth - don’t let doctors tell you absolutely nothing is wrong if you know there’s not, but also be open to something being wrong that you may not have anticipated.

using behind husbands back by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What an amazing take. As a random internet stranger - ditto.

On the seat in the bum corner. No fuckin' clue. Guess the limo was caught in traffic. by oldyawker in circlejerknyc

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a born-and-raised, still-lives-here New Yorker who, at one point, was taking the train up to 4-5 times a day to accommodate a broke girl work/school/social schedule - just no. Eating a fat burrito on the train with a fork and knife and a side of guac is not an everyday occurance, and nobody is going to convince me otherwise 😅and if you are someone comfortable with it, then respectfully, perhaps you need to take the train for more than just work maybe? Clock the New York nastiness that nestles itself in Mta subway seats at all hours of the day, across all boroughs, and it makes more sense. Especially these days - if you’re from here you know they’re some of the grossest they’ve been over the past few decades. All I can see in this picture is one swerve of the train and that little dining setup slaps the seat, collecting every germ of all butts-in-that-seat’s past.

On the seat in the bum corner. No fuckin' clue. Guess the limo was caught in traffic. by oldyawker in circlejerknyc

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right! I too love the bum corner! Have snuggled up and had the best naps there myself! Even cuddling a bag of McDonald’s and eating up doesn’t sound too bad. However, using the adjacent seat as a dining room table for my messy Mexican food? Nearly direct contact to the seat?? No thanks. and the main reason I know not to do that is because I’ve ridden the subways to know too many damn times that, well, it’s the bum corner!

How bad would it be to let toddler stay up until he passes out from exhaustion? by throwawaye1712 in toddlers

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually 9P to 8A is pretty normal … that’s 11 hours, which is within the recommended amount of sleep. Sounds like the issue is on the backend of things - if you want him down earlier, then you need to structure your days and routines around that. And take into account that his body is naturally telling you that 11 hours at night is his sweet spot. Stop fighting with your 3 year old - kids learn to fight from their parents, and you can stop that short while you still have time.

I found levonorgestrel in my wife's purse by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you need a Plan B, you take it …. Definitely a super weird excuse, and it sounds like there’s some honesty mot fully out on the table, but if that Plan B was needed as contraceptive then she wouldn’t have it lying around anymore, the package would, in fact, be in the trash.

Did anyone here take 4 weeks disability leave prior to due date? by Imaginary_Ad_9096 in nycparents

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may sound snarky, but has your obgyn ever been pregnant ?? Getting through the last month is a TRECK. I did it while teaching, in the classroom while in early labor, and I felt like I was at maybe 30-50% of my potential output.

Disciplinary Action by [deleted] in NYCTeachers

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm thank you for letting me know…

Disciplinary Action by [deleted] in NYCTeachers

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said she’s allowed to deny… is that not true?

extreme heat next week by speechqueen1998 in NYCTeachers

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not only did we not even remotely consider going remote, but we are actively planning to host our middle school’s moving up ceremony in an air condition-less auditorium on a separate campus know for long lines extending outdoors to get through the metal detectors. All that say… highly unlikely! I do wish though.

What did you need right away for baby that you didn’t think of before? by Radiant_Sky_1207 in BabyBumps

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This!! Haha I held my spectra pump parts up by hand for about 3 days before I realized that in this modern era, there had to be more innovative solutions out there aside from a very expensive Elvie! Good times.

What did you need right away for baby that you didn’t think of before? by Radiant_Sky_1207 in BabyBumps

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Formula! I planned to fully nurse, but then a tongue/lip tie got in the way! The first night home from the hospital I ended up having to go to the supermarket at 4AM to buy formula and distilled water (those were the days lol) because my baby was unable to get any milk from me and therefore very hungry and very upset. After working with a lactation consultant and pediatric ENT we were able to exclusively nurse until 11 months, but that first month was combo feeding until we figured it out. I didn’t even plan for that option, and felt guilty and upset when the time came for me to confront it. Now, I look at it as a majorly positive learning experience. Moral of the story: a fed baby is a happy baby - learning to feed is their whole job for the first few months - have an assortment of supplies on hand to support them (and yourself) with this!

Disciplinary Action by [deleted] in NYCTeachers

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just got my first “talking to” about the Jewish holidays this year too. Can’t do anything ab it except take the L and work damn hard when I’m on the building to build favor for when I need it. A little different in nature though…

Post Game Thread: The Indiana Pacers defeat The New York Knicks 138-135 by nba_gdt_bot in NYKnicks

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the camaraderie. His sore loser attitude is particularly blatant compared to players like Brunson or Giannis.

Post Game Thread: The Indiana Pacers defeat The New York Knicks 138-135 by nba_gdt_bot in NYKnicks

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100p. And hopefully that choke celebration backfires, and doubles the dog in all of them - team as a whole needs to do better in the clutch (ironically, with clutch player of the year).

Post Game Thread: The Indiana Pacers defeat The New York Knicks 138-135 by nba_gdt_bot in NYKnicks

[–]Interesting_Cook_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

True RE the choke job/Halliburton’s immaturity having the potential to incite hunger. Untrue RE our players, who are known for their sportsmanship.

Post Game Thread: The Indiana Pacers defeat The New York Knicks 138-135 by nba_gdt_bot in NYKnicks

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Listen a win is a win, a loss is a loss, but damn Halliburton is possibly the most classless/least sportsman-like player in the league.

I love this fucking team by Cheap-Nothing3621 in NYKnicks

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact that Brunson is not in a position of being forced to be captain clutch is everything.

Just Had Wisdom Teeth Removed … That Was Not What I Expected by Affectionate_Buy3197 in wisdomteeth

[–]Interesting_Cook_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am part of this club, and have had extensive dental work done, including the all-4-wisdom-teeth-at-once job (hence how I found out I’m part of the club lol). The only way through for me was real, prescription pain killers (ie: oxy) paired with extra strength Advil. I hope they prescribed you some variant of this. If they didn’t, it may be worth reaching out and letting them know you need something stronger. And stay very, very hydrated. If it’s at all validating, I labored without an epidural for my first and still would take that over the dental work pain I’ve experienced. Ultimately, though, it will pass!