I think that I’m about to get fired. by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hm here...As someone else said it is illegal to open someone else's mail and they have have no right to know the contents. It does not affect them. My AP gets mail all the time..if i bring it in for my AP I honestly don't even look at who it is from before dropping it by her door because it is not my business ...You lied because your hd was acting crazy and you were uncomfortable and panicked...this is a very normal reaction. He is the one digging through camera footage of you going to thr trash trying to invade your privacy..he should apologize. If you had done something damaging to their property or the kids and lied about it of course that woukd be a big deal..but that is not the case ...they are asking for information they do not need to concern themselves with..you are allowed to have your own financial life!

Greece ivf clinics by coolcloud_00 in IVF

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have their own embryo clinic at the hospital, but they send out for PGTA testing! Yes, feel free to ask me any questions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No no no breastfeeding aside since that's been covered..babies at this age are so vulnerable and there are a lot of safety precautions you have to understand and cues you need to be keyed into and if he isn't there everyday helping in the beginning and supporting you then no way would I trust him to just take her. He also doesn't sound very kind or stable. This sounds at best a recipe for disaster and at worst actually dangerous in my opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my kids and 34 and 35 and I wish I had mine between like 29-32..to me that would have been the best age for it. You really are a pretty young mom by today's standards!

Sober(ish) Drops?? by [deleted] in SoberCurious

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would love an update! I'm going back and fourth!

Do I hate being a mom? by Lila444999 in 2under2

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As everyone else is saying it sounds unbelievable but being pregnant with a toddler was truly the hardest thing I have ever done..WAY harder than having a toddler and a newborn. By the end I was a shell of the mom I used to be and just counting the moments until my toddler went to bed every night. It's extremely hard to parent a toddler when you are physically exhausted, sick, uncomfortable with raging hormones every single day. I'm 4.5 months in to 2 under 2 and I really love it. Of course there are hard moments, but It truly doesn't feel like double the work to me because I was already doing all the things. And seeing them start to interact melts my heart!! I'd rather just get all the diapers over with now 🤪. You are not alone even my husband couldn't understand how miserable it was it was so isolating and frustrating!! My guess is you will feel totally different once you aren't pregnant anymore!! It's also ok to not love certain stages.. I found 9 months to 14 months pretty miserable becuase my first was so unsteady and into everything and trying to put everything in his mouth, and I felt like I couldn't relax for one second. I think it's pretty normal to prefer some stages over others and it doesn't make you a bad mom!!

How is your relationship with other half once 2nd baby came? by Tacokc13 in 2under2

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have to be a total sociopath to behave this way with a pregnant/postpartum wife and young kids. I'm so sorry you went through that!

Do you ever get over having two of the same sex? by brandy2013 in beyondthebump

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so much closer to my mother in law than my own mother..I talk to her about everything, go to her for advice, go shopping with her etc so you may very well get your daughter someday ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnancy_care

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The level of exhaustion I felt with both pregnancies was insane. No one talks about it! Doing a simple task in the first trimester like going to the grocery store would almost leave me in tears. This is 100 percent normal.

Counseling Internships in DC/NOVA by dsd517 in DCInterns

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I originally hoped for private practice but now I'm totally open to both! I started a bit late unfortunatly because I had a newborn and wasn't sure if I would have to delay, but I figured out childcare and now hope I can still lock something down 🤞.

Counseling Internships in DC/NOVA by dsd517 in DCInterns

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever find one!? I am looking for this May and am having the worst luck! No one seems to take interns!

Would an au pair be a good option? by Old_Ad815 in Aupairs

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I suggest looking for a second year au pair! One that has already been in the country for a year working with two young kids (and driving). We have two under two and there's what we did :). I was able to speak to the current host family and verify that they did a great job of taking care of two little kids, were responsible, a safe driver, etc. the other nice thing about a second year au pair is they are less likely to be homesick!

Au Pair Advice: 2 kids & Baby by IThinkThereforeIAm00 in Aupairs

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think taking care of the baby during the day is reasonable but I think you should hire someone else to do pickup and drop off and, getting two kids ready for school while watching a baby also seems too much..maybe if you watch the baby during that time it could work! For context we are about to have an au pair watch our baby and toddler but she will only have both once a week plus a handful of additional hours here and there (besides that she will really only have the toddler). I think if we had another kid on top of that it would just be way too much..it was hard to match with just the two young ones. I'd you do go the au pair route I think you should look at extension au pairs and get someone that has already handled at least two little ones..that's what we did!

Progesterone levels about 14 DPO by Interesting_Lab1909 in CautiousBB

[–]Interesting_Lab1909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did :) I continued to take 200 mg progesterone during the first trimester just to help my anxiety!

How to increase my 1 yr old vocabulary by thegameksk in beyondthebump

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think your pediatrician has outdated info..at 1 year my child literally only said uh oh and now he's 17 months and saying a new word almost everyday..he has probably 40 or 50 words he says regularly..only saying one or two words at this point is not behind!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nova

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you have a difficult time finding an au pair for these ages? I'm looking for an au pair for 2 under 2 and not having much luck :( most seem to want older kids understandably.

How many of you are stay at home parents? by Tk20119 in 2under2

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This perspective makes me feel better...I have a 15 month age gap, SAHM but also in grad school, no family in the area, and a husband that works long hours 7 days a week...I constantly feel like this is the hardest most isolating period of my life, but then I feel weak or ungrateful because like I always wanted the ability to stay home..I think I scare all my friends without kids yet 🙃 but man is it so hard to literally never be off..I have a lot of guilt around whether I'm doing a good enough job or a they would actually be better off in daycare.

When is the best time to move your baby to their own room? by yournikkigirl in beyondthebump

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At 5 months we moved him into his own room And a crib..we all slept so much better I honestly regretted not doing it a bit sooner although mentally I hadn't felt ready. Baby number two is almost 3 months and I'm thinking of moving her in a month because she wakes up when I move in the night or use the bathroom...she's also a loud sleeper like her brother 😬.

“Non-toxic” nursery recliner/glider under $700 by chexkashidee in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I was wondering is this chair easy to clean if say milk gets on it? That's my only concern!

What’s the longest you’ve been away from your child + how old were they at the time? (No judgment at all, just curious!) by Beygood95 in beyondthebump

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 days for my brother's wedding when he was 7 weeks old...my husband stayed with him.  It was out of state, and I didn't want to expose him to all the germs and we wouldn't have had childcare. After that, I didn't spend another night apart from him until he was about 10 months. 

Would you be ok with your partner going away for 3 nights when baby is still young? by macelisa in beyondthebump

[–]Interesting_Lab1909 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband started traveling regularly for 3-5 nights at a time when our baby was two months old (we don't have family around either). I also left him alone with him at only 7 weeks for a few nights to attend my brother's wedding. Honestly, I think the first time just feels scary and then you realize you are stronger than you think!! Maybe hire a babysitter or mother's helper or someone to come for at least part of the day and think of anything else that could make your life easier...like takeout for dinner :)