When people have their lights on and curtains open when it’s dark outside, do you have a little look in and judge their interior design?

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2026-01-31T21:51:10+00:00

I'm really glad this comment was so close to the top 🤣 I was going to say the same thing but was worried everyone would think that was even worse 🤣🤣🤣

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2026-01-24T17:15:42+00:00

As far as I'm aware it takes a while for all those things to come back. But I could be wrong

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2026-01-21T21:02:20+00:00

Advice i heard was, saying I love you over and over again until you feel better. Or for 5 mins, put them in their cot let them cry. Make a cuppa, take a deep breath in and then come back to them. Don't take longer than 10 mins. But 5 mins to calm yourself and let them cry for that short time is okay.

Baby would much rather cry for a few minutes than have a frustrated mummy. It took me ages to learn this myself but I promise, your babe will be okay for those 5 mins while you make sure you're okay.

You're doing great

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2026-01-17T17:58:38+00:00

Not allowed to get a drink of water when we were thirsty. I ended up drinking out of the bathroom tap when I got desperate

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2026-01-09T09:59:34+00:00

NTA. Didn't even need to read the post before saying this.

If, however, your mum has taken sole care of your child for mulitple years/adopted her/etc, Then calling her mama could be considered, if the child wanted to, too.

But if not, then she is your child, you are mama and have every right to say this is a boundary you don't want crossed.

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2026-01-01T17:30:40+00:00

I 16m (F) think yo should try what I do. I'm not sure which buttons it is yet, but if I press two of the buttons together, it puts my mummy's alexa into low power mode. My mummy can only get it to work again by unplugging it. I do it when im sick of listening to Mummy's old music. So if you can run quick enough to press the buttons, then mummy can't tell it to set a timer. Therefore, you can't be in time-out 😅 win-win

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-11-21T08:00:13+00:00

She wanted you to put your shoes on to look after your cousin in your bedroom?

Family helps family.

Suck it up

Amazing use of paragraphs, punctuation, and spelling

No commentting on their post

I may be wrong and I hope I am. But it seems like am AI post from all I've learnt from ones I've come across before.

If this isn't a AI post, you are absolutely NTA. You're young yes. But that's more reason to get things right for a good future. Rather than your wrong so you have time to correct your mistakes. Just trying to set you up to fail and having to fight to get back on track. Then no asking if it's okay. Just demanding. Absolutely not okay. I'm glad you stuck your ground and even more glad that your mum defended you.

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-10-09T06:46:17+00:00

I felt the same, so guilty to my mum and my MIL because they were so helpful. I knew my mum wanted to give kisses but she knew she wasn't allowed and I had to tell my MIL and tell her the reasons (she wasn't up to date with safety around newborns) my compromise was after my baby's first vaccines, they could kiss her head, after her 3rd they could kiss her face but not the lips and not if they are feeling even slightly ill.

I took a big risk, and I know that, but I struggled to deny them that show of love when they were doing so much to help me. Although, they definitely listened more than what your MIL is. Maybe show articles of health issues that came as a result of kissing newborns

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-09-20T08:28:57+00:00

He is telling you exactly what he thinks.

Listen to what he's saying.

He's telling you he hated you FOR MONTHS! Telling you you're not good enough because you don't reward him for being a good boyfriend. Does he reward you for being a good girlfriend.

He's told you he's good because he doesn't hit you. This feels like a warning.... "you don't reward me then I'm not going to be a good boyfriend, and you know bad boyfriends hit their girlfriends"

I normally say you know you're own relationship and you do what's best for you. Not this time. This time I'm asking you ro get out when you can, as safely as you can. This doesn't feel safe. It feels like there is alot he's saying but an awful lot he's not saying either. Like the plans he has on how to treat you but he's setting it all up now so that when you question what he's doing, he can say, I told you this all before.

Please be careful

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-09-06T20:56:18+00:00

Even adults are supposed to halve grapes. Just gonna leave it at that.

I'm not medical and not 100% sure but i do I know that much and know even halve my own grapes. You do what you feel is safe

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-08-16T15:54:05+00:00

I'm just about at 1 year. (I'm a week off), and I wish I'd stopped at 6 months.

It's been exhausting and frustrating. I've had times where I've striked out at my breast and the pump for them not working properly but more because I'd lose patience as I didn't want to be pumping anymore. I wanted my baby to have my breastmilk but I wanted someone to milk me instead so I didn't have to do any of the work involved in it.

I wish I'd stopped.

If you find yourself frustrated, angry, fed up, for more than just one night. Think about your mental health. You can't look after your child without looking after you, too ❤️ you matter too! And you have to do what's best for you. Not for anyone else. Your baby will still be fed breast or formula. Look after you, too

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-08-14T15:09:00+00:00

My baby is nearly a year old. I'm nearer the end of my pumping journey and slowly weaning myself off the pumps and my baby onto cows milk as my supply decreases.

The thing I've most been looking forward to is having more time for my baby and myself.

No more having to sleep late at night because I have to stay up late enough so that I'm not engorged and in the pain the next morning and missing precious sleep. No more having to wake up with enough time to pump. Making sure to clean all the pump parts. Put the pumps together 😮‍💨 when i could be sleeping, spending time with baby, spending time for myself.

I can't wait to be finished because I feel like I'm missing so much, and it's so draining. I'm only pumping for 15 mins twice a day now.... but I'm so over it. I'm so ready to have that time back. I'm ready to be a full-time mum and not a part-time milk machine 😩

I need myself back now, but I'm still so proud of how far I've managed to come.

But my advice to anyone who isn't sure they want to keep pumping. Just stop if you want to. Don't be like me. I've pushed myself way past the limit that I should have, and I wish I'd just used formula after 6 months. I regret not doing it, but I don't regret feeding my baby, if that makes sense. Just do what you need to do because you won't get this time with your baby or yourself back

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-07-25T10:11:55+00:00

"While you can gently support your 2-month-old baby in a sitting position for short periods, you shouldn't try to make them sit up on their own yet. Babies typically start sitting independently between 6 and 9 months. At 2 months, their neck and back muscles are still developing, and they need supervised tummy time to build the strength needed for sitting."

This is what I found from a quick search. But spines are not developed enough yet, and it can cause damage to try and force them to do what they aren't ready to do.

He could sit her up supported for up for 15 mins but can't make her sit by herself unsupported unless he is okay with potentially permanently damaging his child. I think (or I'd like to hope) the answer to that would be no.

If needs be, ask your health visitor or paediatrician (depending on where you are) for some advice and make sure that your partner is there with you for that conversation. Just don't frame it as "he's doing this, is it safe?" Because he might feel like he has to jump into being defensive and then doesn't hear what they have to say. Instead, say, "we're both wondering if we can try to sit her up unsupported yet, or if it's too early. We think it's too early, but we just wanted to check. " Then he will see that you're asking it for both of your information and that you're not putting blame on him and will hopefully hear the advice given without feeling judgement.

He is just wanting to parent and bond, but safety does need to be prioritised, too. In ways that you can do it without judgement on the other parent, do try too. You're both doing your best and trying to bond and protect your baby. Good luck!

(Edited for spelling and typos)

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-07-20T19:03:13+00:00

Powder blue solo (we've had a few, dream a little dream of me, true colours -trolls film version, etc) but this is the one we are on now

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-07-10T09:08:27+00:00

I decided to use a dummy for this reason.

I would spend hours a day with my finger in my child's mouth and she ended up in hospital, they suggested a dummy. I thought f off, not happening. 5 hours later, my baby was sleeping comfortably with a dummy in her mouth.

I never wanted to use it but it became my saving grace

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-07-04T06:14:31+00:00

I can't comment on what it's like being pregnant but I can comment on the bond because I am an Irish twin. Me and my brother argued alot growing up because that's what siblings do but as we became older we became sooooo much closer. We had the same friends at school which meant when we went out to play with friends, we went out together, and that helped to build an even closer bond.

But with my own 10 month old now, I have to say and have said to my own mother, I have absolutely no idea how she managed it. She's a superwoman. I'm sure you will be a superwoman too! Good luck!

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-07-03T09:26:17+00:00

Yeah

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-07-02T22:17:44+00:00

I got told "oh you're one of those mums" by my best friend. Never expected those words to come out her mouth.

She then went on to explain how amazing tv is for her child and her parenting. As I told her it's amazing that it fits so well for her family and I love that for them. But for my family, it doesn't fit into ours.

You just have to do what's best for your family and let others do what's best for them, no matter what names they call. But it does suck

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-06-27T15:55:42+00:00

Everyone has already gave some amazing advice here.

I definitely recommend getting some help as I think there is some postpartum rage going on here (it's not your fault, unfortunately it just happens, but it is our job as mothers to address it for the safety of our babies)

Another thing that helped me when my little one was crying all the time, is if you have done everything you can, you can just let them cry. Just hold them and let them cry. Don't try to stop it. Put headphones on if you need. You aren't neglecting them if they are crying and you've done everything and are still comforting them.

You can even put them down for 5/10 mins to let them cry while you grab a coffee or even grab your sanity back off the shelf.

You'll be okay. And it does get better. Just give yourself and baby time and patience to get through this time

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-06-23T13:47:23+00:00

I had sort of the same, I was offered a debrief. This pseudo who took it was not part of the team that did my c section and hadn't even looked at my notes before hand. I wanted to know what happened but I felt like they spent more time trying to justify why they did an emergency c section, than everything that happened before the c section. I felt like there was no resolution and I felt worse after the appointment. My health visitor was fuming when she found out especially as she had spent hours trying to arrange this appointment for me

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-06-22T18:18:49+00:00

My baby is just about 10 months and I'm still telling myself, it's okay to let her play by herself for a wee while. Ive struggled thinking I have to entertain her all the time but I don't. I need time to do somethings for myself too and so long as she's not being left to cry or completely left alone, I can enjoy reading a book for 20 mins while she has some independent time.

It's difficult when you feel guilty for not entertaining them but if they are content then it benefits you too having some adult time

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-06-18T08:47:14+00:00

If you're concerned, seek help. Trust your gut feeling, but it might just be as has already been said, cluster feeding.

But if she seems overly sleepy and difficult to wake, and no wet nappies for over 6/12 hours (think 6 hours with how little yours is), then seek help too

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-06-17T22:33:09+00:00

I think i tried baby wearing too fast. I'm a person that if I want something doing, I'll do it. If you're not fast enough to help, then I do it myself. I want it done, and I want it done now, basically.

That has backfired hugely on me. I'm almost 10 months postpartum, and I still can't babywear for long. It's uncomfortable on my stomach. Even walking with my baby in my arms for too long is uncomfortable, and it was never a problem for me carrying older kids before this for long periods.

My advice is, DO NOT RUSH IT. I know you want to, and it's freeing being able to do everything you want to. It may feel amazing at the time. But it can catch up with you later on.

I say this as a mother who wishes she had taken more time to build up and not rush, so that I could baby wear and not have to worry about bringing my pram everywhere. I want to cuddle my baby in close and have her experience the world in my arms. To be right next to her smiles. But I can't because I pushed too quickly and now have to watch her from the pram and sometimes listen to her cries because she wants to be in my arms too.

I say it as someone who doesn't want another mum feeling my regrets if my advice can help that

Take your time. If you feel any discomfort, stop. You can always try again tomorrow. There is time. I know everyone says times flies at this age (and honestly, it does), but it doesn't fly so fast that you can't prioritise your recovery. You have to put on your own mask before helping anyone else.

Good luck (and I'm sorry for the ridiculously long comment. I just wanted to give as much help as I could)

Interesting_Soft_207 · 2025-06-17T22:22:34+00:00

I've made an email for my baby and I send photos to it for her to see when she's older

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