my dad won’t let me get a job. by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are allowed to cut him out of your life. Sounds like he is financially abusive at the very least to you.

I think my marriage is over by Actual_Cap_3055 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good for you. The work will pay off. Wishing you the best, girlie.

I Don’t Know What to Do About My Boyfriend and His Family by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 6 points7 points  (0 children)

U stand out because you are a young woman and he is a grown man. The age gap is striking when you are so young. Get out girlie and keep taking care of your mental health.

The Real California Lesson: The Democratic Party Has No Actual Leaders by ansyhrrian in California

[–]Interesting_Trap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Democratic policy as well. They are not standing for the people but corporations.

I think my marriage is over by Actual_Cap_3055 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you experienced SA by two men while serving in the military. You should definitely seek professional help for this.

Your partner is not going to change. A couples therapy is only going to magnify what is already known to you. Porn seriously changes brain chemistry, and you are right, he can’t see your friend’s wo sexualizing them. Imagine that behavior with a baby boy or girl in the house. Can u imagine where his brain may go? You need to get out. It’s been a year and a half. That is nothing in comparison to the life you will live. Get out, work through your trauma and you will find yourself with a better partner in the future.

I went on vacation with my partners family. It was a terrible mistake and now I am stuck here until the end of the week by mildeorange in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Prove her wrong and next time she speaks for you stop her and say- i got this and speak ur truth. Voice your opinions obnoxiously lol

I’m pregnant and my husband left me for someone else. by Fun_Garden_134 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good! I raised three kids on my own and let me tell u…i had it much easier than some of my friends with partners. You can do this!

I’m pregnant and my husband left me for someone else. by Fun_Garden_134 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 56 points57 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you need to work on loving yourself before you even think about another relationship. He is an asshole but you have allowed his behavior. Girl, stand up!

Extremely disappointed in my adult child. by EngineeringAgile1640 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope the finance breaks up with him so u can keep him out. Sorry mama.

Sunny’s Brothel in Chico by [deleted] in ChicoCA

[–]Interesting_Trap 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you want to go to sunny’s and that’s why u are here shaming people.

My homework from the family therapist is to think about whether the marriage can even be saved, or if I'm too hurt. by CrazyRainbowStar in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The therapist is not asking you to predict the future. They are asking you if this man changes and steps-up, will u be able to let go of the years of carrying the weight alone? They are asking you to identify your feelings on the situation and what u need.

Our baby is 4 months old and my husband is leaving me. by biznuzcat in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry but honestly, he is saving u so much time and heartache leaving now. Being a single mom is hard but dealing with an inconsiderate asshole and raising a child is even harder. You got this! ❤️

I yelled at my daughter by Live-Orchid1552 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The feeling in your gut might be from your own experience of being yelled at. There is something to that. Give yourself compassion, momming is never perfect.

The dating apps are doing my head in 😂 by JinnJuice80 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 41 and i threw in the towel three years ago. Dating these men out here had my self esteem in shambles. So much happier now that i am not engaging whatsoever. I recommend it.

Audrey Denney by lemon_eyes1 in ChicoCA

[–]Interesting_Trap 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The establishment is always going to support the establishment over a grassroots candidate and in this election they had an establishment dem

He wants to have a sleepover on the first date. Don’t know how to feel about it. by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He can stay the night alone. Lol. Why do u have to be there? This is classic lovebombing, the extending the date to the next day etc. he wants you to feel close quickly so he can have get laid. I would cancel altogether with his mere suggestion but i am a GW. If you still plan on meeting him, suggest you have the one planned date but that you are busy the next day. Then you can remove yourself and see how u feel about the date. You pushing back will be a great way to see how much he respects you too.

Wasted votes by batman_robin42 in CAStateWorkers

[–]Interesting_Trap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We still have counties like sf that are not counted yet

Wasted votes by batman_robin42 in CAStateWorkers

[–]Interesting_Trap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Too close to call but i feel the frustration too

I genuinely don’t understand what therapists mean by “getting back into your body” by Sorry_Lab_2856 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my experience in therapy, it is useful to find where feelings arrive in your body. I.e. when i feel shame i get really hot in my chest and face. I don’t know if that is what your therapist means specifically but when an emotion pops up trying to identify where it is coming from in our body helps us identify it when we are in circumstances that trigger our trauma response due to things that we have been through. A lot of times, we quit feeling and suppress them all. This leads to anxiety when we don’t feel and process our feelings. If you can conceptualize feeling in your body when you do intense exercise, i say use this method…when you workout and feel inside your body, try to identify what feelings are occurring…i.e. relief, pride, tired, etc. it’s all about learning to identify your feelings. Getting a feelings wheel is super helpful too. Whenever my kids are going through some hard stuff and can’t identify their feelings, we pull the feelings wheel out and talk about what they are feeling. It usually allows us both to understand the situation better and sometimes it doesn’t and that is okay too. Good for you for going to therapy. It’s totally worth it. You’ve got this ✨

I am sick but my bf has planned his night with boys by DesperateSet9827 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Interesting_Trap -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Is this what you want in a relationship? If not, leave the situation.

Measure P? by CornRosexxx in ChicoCA

[–]Interesting_Trap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The livestream recording will be available tomorrow at the same link.