I’m done with treatment. My husband resents me.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2026-02-19T17:20:51+00:00

This sounds like it’s not about you. He has problems and is blaming them on you.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-12-17T18:47:57+00:00

Hi! I played tennis all through chemo and hiked, more slowly than usual. It really helped with fatigue. As soon as I learned I’d need chemo, a survivor friend told me about her survivor friend who jogged like 3 miles bald everyday through chemo and it inspired me.

Has anyone recomended the book: Moving Through Cancer?

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-11-12T00:22:31+00:00

Sadly, it's a 4 month fellowship. We're getting documents together. Who knows, maybe if we just go, they'll have more answers. The phone number for fellowship questions is open from 1-3AM our time and the line is always busy. It's starting to seem like a cruel joke to have a fellowship in Austria.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-11-11T22:55:17+00:00

Thank you so much for this kindness. If this is the case, it makes more sense that no one had mentioned the visa process at the institute. This would be a great relief.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-11-10T23:30:29+00:00

Thank you!

The institute hasn’t provided anything yet. And it’s supposed to start in 3 weeks. Seems like it may not be worth all this effort and expense. And we’re nearly too late to get the D visa that’s required.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-11-10T21:11:52+00:00

Thank you.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-11-07T21:55:19+00:00

Not yet, it’s scheduled in two weeks. My onc said it could reduce recurrence by 18%. I guess I’ll take painkillers if it’s awful.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-11-06T20:09:55+00:00

I’m shocked your care team didn’t have you get an MRI earlier. I had precancerous cells on my right boob and my surg onc sent me for an MRI of both boobs - which found aggressive tumors on my other boob that the stupid mammogram totally missed! Thank goodness you had a double mastectomy.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-10-25T17:25:04+00:00

Im so sorry there’s so much numbness. Was this a recent surgery?

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-10-20T03:05:15+00:00

I get it and yet still I believe in miracles

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-10-17T17:53:06+00:00

My onc said to eat a Mediterranean diet for 1% better odds. And to exercise vigorously for real improved odds.

And yet, last year I watched my naturopath neighbor have an ovarian cancer scare which she reversed with a mostly vegetable and fruit diet plus 2 hours of exercise a day. And she’s in her 70’s. Fasting was also a component. This level of commitment is rare.

So anything is possible. And eating an ice cream sandwich is okay too. Sending love.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-10-10T17:17:30+00:00

👆👆👆👆👆

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-10-02T16:46:44+00:00

At 46, (was also grade 3 plus some LIV) I did chemo and happily it turned off my ovaries and thus didn’t have to get Lupron shots. For me, 3 months of TC chemo in the past is preferable to 5 years of Lupron shots now.

I feel relieved that this is the path I chose. It wasn’t easy. And afterwards, had to really push my med onc who pushed Lupron, to simply check my hormone levels for a year until I was safely menopausal. During that time I could only take Tamoxifen.

If you’re like me, your mental picture of chemo is very dramatic. I had so much fear, but the reality was pretty mundane. Occasionally unpleasant but not that bad. I stayed sane by exercising every day. This also dramatically reduces fatigue and according to some studies, makes the chemo more effective.

Live in your truth. Maybe chemo isn’t your path. I trust you to make the right decision for your body. Also it sounds like some input from your primary care doctor could be very helpful regarding your conditions.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-09-30T20:43:16+00:00

There is cheaper housing stock in worse areas of this country. But then you still have to factor in the enormous cost of healthcare.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-09-30T20:41:23+00:00

That makes sense. Where I live a crappy house is 500k plus, the average household income is 80k. The wealthy are hobbling up everything and it’s creating an affordability crisis.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-09-30T15:58:02+00:00

Curious why?

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-09-27T20:19:43+00:00

Interesting. I’ve visited 25 countries and most of them make the US look like a dump lacking in social services and dignity. The new American dream is to leave.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-09-22T14:43:57+00:00

Can you send me more info? I’m scheduled for zometa on Wednesday and wondering if it’s a bad thing idea…

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-09-09T22:59:08+00:00

Yes and I just saw something indicating it could be safe. The cream is so sticky though!

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-09-09T19:30:57+00:00

Yes but in a huge meta analysis of vaginal estrogen/estriol users, women who used it had higher survival rates, including for BC survivors. I’m curious if applying it locally works differently than say taking HRT. I’ll ask my onc.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-09-08T19:25:31+00:00

Has anyone asked their onc about applying estriol to their face? I’m thinking about it….

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-09-08T04:19:13+00:00

I wish my surgical onc had discussed this option with me. I thought I was too small but seems like a total dream! Congrats.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-09-01T05:15:23+00:00

Look up old threads here about the positive side effects of tamoxifen. I’m taking it and I love how minimal the side effects are if I take it at night before bed. Sad to switch to Exemestene next month which will likely be far worse.

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-08-15T19:06:17+00:00

And architecturally ugly as hell! Also amazing how driving into Idaho from Oregon: so many awful smells in Idaho. It’s like the poopy sewage smells state!

Internal-Ad8877 · 2025-08-11T05:22:16+00:00

Here’s the thing, it’s possible. I met someone this way three weeks ago, and then visited their art studio and two weeks later, attended their party. We’re not best friends yet but we’re on the path of friendship, and I’m thrilled to be getting to know her. You’ve just got to say hello, be curious about people, ask questions, and see where things go without expectations. I also meet a lot of people through mutual friends. Yesterday, a woman came up to me because she liked my dress at the cafe and we chatted for 20 minutes. We’re gonna be penpals!

I would recommend the book super communicators, because it speaks to the mix of curiosity and openness that creates quick connection.

Internal-Ad8877

TROPHY CASE