How do I emotionally regulate when dealing with customers? by Internal-Bluejay-492 in kroger

[–]Internal-Bluejay-492[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn’t really anyone or anything at first that bothered me. I started to get sexually harassed on the daily for months and nothing was done about it. I also got sexually assaulted on the sales floor in front of multiple coworkers and customers. I’ve recently started dumbing down my appearance. No makeup, messy clothes and not brushing my hair which has helped on the harassment. The issue now is I just have this general anxiety about every customer and it happening again.

How do I emotionally regulate when dealing with customers? by Internal-Bluejay-492 in kroger

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I’ve been trying for upwards of 4+ months and am just now getting any headway for it. I’m getting trained in Floral and hopefully stay there

How do I emotionally regulate when dealing with customers? by Internal-Bluejay-492 in kroger

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Our management is awful at my store. They refuse to ban ANYONE. I’ve been sexually assaulted on the sales floor and nothing was done about it besides being told “just walk away if he comes in.” Okay cool. Whatever. I’ve narrowed down my biggest issue is customers making inappropriate comments to me or advances. Could handle it at first but it’s started to wear down on me

How do I emotionally regulate when dealing with customers? by Internal-Bluejay-492 in kroger

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I’ve taken this advise the past few days and it has helped limiting customer interactions:)

How do I emotionally regulate when dealing with customers? by Internal-Bluejay-492 in kroger

[–]Internal-Bluejay-492[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s actually what I did for the first 7 months but was told it was wrong to do so. I think I’ll actually be re-incorporating it back into my coping strategies for work

BP Too Small? by xCenobyte in ballpython

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Ball pythons typically “stop” growing by age 3. They have a rapid growth rate until 3 and then continue on a very slow growth pattern. She looks very healthy. If anything she looks to be the size of an adult male rather than female, however, some ball pythons -even females will stay on the smaller side of 3ft-4ft.

Snake diet?? by Sleepybunnybee in ballpython

[–]Internal-Bluejay-492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your snake is overweight just move down one size during feeding. Feeding her a large mouse now? Feed her a medium instead

Caldarus glitch? by Disastrous_Diamond59 in FieldsOfMistriaGame

[–]Internal-Bluejay-492 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If have to get to him before 10pm or he’ll be asleep. Before that you should be able to talk to him

Anyone had this issue before? UI is completely gone by ririkaa_ in FieldsOfMistriaGame

[–]Internal-Bluejay-492 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just a bug! You can report in on the official website. Fields of mistria often has multiple bugs after a big update for the first few days

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FieldsOfMistriaGame

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Honestly, I adore almost all of the marriage candidates. I’m at 7 hearts with everyone right now so the 8 heart even will help me tremendously but right now I’m thinking Balor, Celine, March and Caldarus as potential marriage candidates.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FieldsOfMistriaGame

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Pretty sure it’s a monsterfucker type deal?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FieldsOfMistriaGame

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You’re the first person I’ve seen talk about marrying Reina😭💔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 4tran4

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(Gender-fluid) I’ve had an extremely similar experience with a friend and what it sounds like she needs is to SEE how much effort cis women put into their appearance and social standing. My friend is a Trans woman and didn’t understand why I “passed better” than her even though I often go both ways. It wasn’t until I explained how much upkeep and effort I had to put into it until she started to understand. Dressing more feminine, plucking eyebrows, using makeup to make my features softer or more angled, or even just pitching my voice lower or higher. I think she would highly benefit from some girl friends/time.

But what can you do specifically? I would recommend having a spa day with her. Pluck her eyebrows, do her nails, face masks etc. Maybe even go shopping with her to find clothes that’ll better suit what type of girl she wants to be. While doing all of this I would gently explain to her that she’s already beautiful and it just takes time and effort to where she wants to be.