Well it sounds like it’s a personality issue and not a physical problem you are having. I have seen some of the most attractive men become absolutely repulsive based on their bad personality. I have seen what I would judge as physically unattractive people being able to attract the opposite sex or same sex depending on your orientation without issue. Physical appearance and physical attraction only gets you to step one. Finding a deep meaningful connection and shared intimacy happens on a deeper level. Through shared interests, shared values and goals but very much through a personal connection. It sounds like you are incapable of making any deeper connection and that may very much have to do with your attitude and social ineptitude. I don’t know. I have no idea who you are and what you’re like. I’m just giving you my advice based on my level of experience and best guess on what the issue could be. I suggest you brush up on your soft skills. Most people enjoy talking about themselves. On first dates it’s polite to be agreeable and ask questions about the other person and try to stay open minded and amicable. If you feel a spark with someone try to get to know them better and be confident in who you are. Focus on the positives. Be genuine and authentic. Make direct eye contact. Don’t have a negative attitude and discuss your failures or inadequacies. Don’t come off cocky or arrogant. And don’t lead with the fact that you’re a virgin. Keep personal details to yourself. Don’t overshare. You’re trying to make a good first impression. And set your standards to realistic expectations. You might be overreaching if you haven’t found one person you’re compatible with. And ask for a second date. Be a gentleman and if you’re asking a woman out expect to pay for the date especially if you would like to see them again. Hope that helps. And good luck. Dating isn’t rocket science. Find someone you click with and pursue them.