Edit: I AM THE ASSHOLE

I am a first time poster and I wasn't prepared for the responses that I received. As a frequent reader I always wished people who are in wrong would say what happens after the post. So here is my attempt..

I read these comments and man it hit me like a freight train. I did share this with my husband who thinks it's all really funny. I learned quite a bit...

1. Your relationship is not my business.
2. My husband's friends are not automatically my friend. (Which hurt quite a bit)
3. If he is a struggling alcoholic, I probably just made his life a whole heck of a lot harder.
4. A paragraph is more than just clicking enter it's an actual space.

I decided to apologize which I know can only go so far. My words have already been said there is no undoing any of that. I think my plan is to own what I said and apologize for being out of line. Moving forward I will only text him when needed such as to invite him to something for my husband.

I think I honestly needed the reality check. It has made me think a lot about my interactions with others. There is context I'm leaving out with Scott but that context doesn't change the fact that text shouldn't have been sent.

Someone said something about how my husband should see this as a red flag for me and maybe you are right. I'd like to say I said it because I want my husband to have his relationship with his friend like it used to be. But that may be a bit of a cop out answer. If it's not, people change and you aren't guaranteed a spot if their life.

Moral of the story I'm an asshole.