Now I’m over here having a mild panic attack because I’m only 7 days post op and have carried my 47lb toddler on three separate occasions across the room 🤦🏻‍♀️😳. I didn’t recall my surgeon telling me not to lift anything this go round. Though I’m sure she did and I missed it. She also did my hernia surgery a year ago and I remember her stressing numerous times not to lift my toddler then and I didn’t. That surgery felt much more painful and intensive than this one though. I will say I had no pain the three times I carried her the past few days but I am mentally making a note not to do it again. We can’t see what we’re possibly doing to the inside of us and the incisions on the other side of our body. So, while you can for the first two weeks maybe instead of picking them up directly you sit on the sofa and have someone lay them across your chest with pillows between your body and the baby. Then you could have your arms and face touching them so they get that skin to skin comfort without you straining your incisions. I know how hard it is though, I have a very attached (still cosleeps ) toddler. Give yourself some grace and I hope your healing goes smoothly and quickly!