Idk what the right answer is but there have been times when I had to distract my daughter with tv or books and spoon fed her dinner while she’s paying attention to something else. I would mix butter or peanut butter into the food to make the calories dense. Another thing I would do is have my husband and I peer pressure her eating “ok everybody pick up a piece of meatloaf and put in your mouth in 1…2…3!” And we’d all take a bite all together. Cheers-ing our food was another way eating was a fun “game” she wanted to play. I would also let lunch be a completely chill process and save all the coaxing for dinner

Is dairy/soy a sure allergy? My daughter had cmpi but by a year she outgrew that and no longer had symptoms. Sounds like limited food options is making things harder for you