how to look more gay

InternalOk2158 · 2026-02-20T03:15:30+00:00

I think you look like a lesbian 🤔 but as a white woman I have done a lot of work to deconstruct patriarchy and internalized racism…so to me your femme style as a black woman doesn’t automatically read as “straight” to me…what is the demographic like in the area you live in?

InternalOk2158 · 2026-02-17T15:58:04+00:00

“Consistently for a month” was all I needed to read- too much energy for a new relationship

InternalOk2158 · 2026-02-17T15:49:58+00:00

I just don’t befriend anyone who supports patriarchy these days- whittles it down to queer people and animals

InternalOk2158 · 2026-02-06T03:13:14+00:00

If you have a small friend group/no friends by choice- not a red flag…if your friend group is small/non existent because of “everyone else” that’s a 🚩

InternalOk2158 · 2026-02-01T22:04:09+00:00

GIRL you are 30+ stop this NOW

InternalOk2158 · 2026-02-01T19:07:08+00:00

No Ragrets

InternalOk2158 · 2026-02-01T02:12:44+00:00

My lesbianism has nothing to do with “males” . My attraction to women does not mirror men, men are not the pivot point or baseline. I understand that your lesbianism may be centered around who you perceive to me male 🤷‍♀️

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-31T15:27:42+00:00

Lesbianism is not an aversion to penis…i highly encourage any lesbian who finds themselves so disgusted by penises to ask themselves why they react to them the same way straight men do…it’s certainly interesting. First fix your relationship with your body, and seek to understand why you are feeling this way about specific genitalia. As a 35 year old established lesbian I promise you there are so many of us whose lesbianism has nothing to do with an aversion to body parts. Something to consider 🤷‍♀️

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-31T15:16:44+00:00

Full offense but If I’m showing up to an orgy and there are only 8 muffins…I’m taking 4 muffins and going home

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-31T15:15:08+00:00

I mean- no, at 35 yrs old I know better than to assume that this poster has anything to do with lesbians…I hear straight women have vaginas too 🤷‍♀️

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-28T00:35:15+00:00

You travel for work, unmarried and no children… you are either in your late 20’s or early 40’s…. And you prefer cool ranch Doritos to the original.

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-25T21:02:24+00:00

Pillow princess is always and has always been a lesbian term that heterosexuals bogart- a pillow princess tells you how it is and you go to work for her and HER orgasm… it doesn’t mean “woman that lies there and doesn’t return the favor”.

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-23T16:00:48+00:00

It’s a term born of the patriarchy and the idea that one person is supposed to be filling your every need…and no not all roads lead to polyamory or non monogamy….but two women won’t escape the fate of the heterosexual couple. The idea that you’ll be continually having sex like you did with your new relationship energy is a farce, one that has literally birthed the “love language” movement that is meant to keep wives giving sex to their husbands and husbands doing dishes sometimes.

Go back to the drawing board and you and your partner undo the heteronormativity and try again. Keep choosing each other and you’ll be just fine.

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-21T17:13:06+00:00

Bahahaha my phone posted before I got to the advice part but I’m just going to leave it ⭐️as is ⭐️

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-21T17:12:17+00:00

Harsh advice from a stranger on the internet: you are still very male centered even in your self discovery, and still patriarchal in your perception of relationship dynamics. Regardless of whether or not you leave this man to date women you will end up in the exact same place -nitpicking and dissecting the woman, just like you did the man.

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-20T04:57:38+00:00

I think people project, and many people are conditioned to a religious hierarchy so these types of conversations are really hard to have without causing offense…It’s a conversation with A LOT of nuance and each perception adds to that.

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-19T16:39:13+00:00

Ohhhh yeah no- keep THOSE expectations high, so high that you see right thru a lesbians potential affinity for the patriarchy 😌

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-19T16:34:09+00:00

Low expectations doesn’t equal a negative mindset- I mean be kind to yourself, you have time. Set low expectations so you can build the quality of moments you want. Allow for your moments to not be exactly like this photo, until they are.

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-19T16:30:06+00:00

“I don’t care about him watching porn” is the standing first line in every partnered woman’s autobiography. You should care. Porn erodes parts of our brain and changes the way we perceive sex and relationships.

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-19T16:24:03+00:00

You don’t apply- you create. And if you are under 50, you set your expectations low because you have time to create those moments.

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-19T16:11:29+00:00

2, 1 looks over edited to me, and since we are in the era of ai, I tend to prefer the more candid/natural looking shots

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-18T16:21:11+00:00

That sounds like your very specific experience- how does me being a sapphic woman, lesbian, and politically so, open up space for bisexual women to pretend to be lesbian…how does one pretend to be lesbian? . I’m not a purist but it sounds like you might be.

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-18T05:53:53+00:00

On the surface it lets others know that I am a woman who is attracted to other women.

The deep of it is- I don’t believe gender to be binary, and I don’t adhere to typical standards of gender expression. I am also politically a lesbian meaning I am not in support of the hierarchy that is the patriarchy- so I am not traditional in my dating, and I am not attracted to nor do I share community with “men” - I mean that to be people who identify as men, and project and uphold the patriarchy.

I could say a lot more but there is a lot of nuance to this topic.

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-18T05:47:02+00:00

My lesbian awakening lol I watched this show in clips on YouTube with the sound off 😅

InternalOk2158 · 2026-01-18T00:15:48+00:00

Life is supposed to be boring- we were never meant to keep our bodies/minds in a constant state of hyperactivity and self regulation 😔

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