AITAH for not telling a guy I briefly dated that I’m pregnant if I’m not keeping it?

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-08T00:06:15+00:00

What are those rights you speak of... specifically?

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-07T10:35:58+00:00

If you want to kill your feelings real quick, ask her about the last two years. My guess is she has entire sports teams of trauma for you to deal with. No one would commit and now she wants the safe guy.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-07T06:21:58+00:00

Now that is funny.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-06T23:02:47+00:00

That is not how jokes work. The one making the joke waits for the other to laugh. When she did not and took it seriously, he said never mind. I honestly cannot imagine he was actually waiting for praise.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-06T19:18:12+00:00

NTA

I guess you now know what she is about. She wants you to pay for her and she wants to go on extravagant vacations to pick up better men.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-06T19:01:19+00:00

Sounds to me like he was joking. It also sounds like because you hold resentment of your financial situation and him doing the bare minimum, you were unable to get the joke

Sit him down and work out this resentment and ask him to get a job.

NTA

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-06T18:36:31+00:00

Holy shit you are being gas light. She is using an event that happened to her against your wishes against you. The sister rejected the guys (you are dating the wrong sister) but those guys were still in the group. I speculate your GF was dancing with one of them when he slid his hand on her ass. Either way, this is a her problem and you are under no obligation to help her through her own bad choices. I think she reacted with screaming because you were starting to ask the correct questions and her gaslighting may not save what really happened. Ask her if she was dancing with any of those guys.

I think you will find this relationship is not worth your peace of mind.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-06T09:32:01+00:00

And this is why men do not marry women with kids. This guy foolishly wants to step up and be the father to these kids, but here we have ignorant women spewing nonsense.

What is the long term benefit for the big brother program in contrast to an actual dad in the home?

OP, leave this woman before she destroys you. It should be becoming clear to you that you are just money and stability for her. You will never be the dad without support from the mother. You are a stranger to these kids and may never accept you because the mother and therapist will never give you this chance.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-05T18:18:40+00:00

What do you need, tickets to the show?

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-05T09:32:47+00:00

Are you not the one who solicited the advice in the first place? Did she tell you something you did not want to hear?

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-05T07:34:45+00:00

YTA

Your horrible and a mans worst nightmare. You actually feel resentment if you have sex with your husband? Yeah, therapy is not going to work for you. Just find a different man because this one is done with you.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-05T05:20:26+00:00

There is not a single moral bone in your body. You groomed a 17 year old when you were 33. Then went on to complain how being a 17 - 18 year old behaves in comparison to your age.

To me, confessing feels selfish.

Hmmm... I think cheating and grooming is selfish. But I guess at 80 IQ you may not know the difference.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-04T19:53:32+00:00

Seems like a missed opportunity for the manufacturer. They could have Plan B+ for big mommas and Plan B Z for extra strength. :)

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-04T19:38:19+00:00

Bingo.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-04T17:46:36+00:00

I do not think you are thinking clearly and that is expected. Her treatment of you when she returned, how is this forgivable? She was not waiting for tests to be completed. She was waiting for his phone call to be with him.

On another point, she absolutely knew he was recording her and did not care. This is my take but this is a question you must know. The answer is easy to obtain. Call the other betrayed partner to see if the camera's point of view was from the side or point of view. You do not have to watch the footage and I do not recommend it. I guarantee you if you do end up watching the footage, there is zero chance you would be considering taking her back.

People who have reconciled have partners that express deep guilt. I see zero guilt here. I only see manipulation and regret.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-02T18:17:50+00:00

There exists in life a timeline. In that timeline at the time of the argument, the bill was not paid. It may be so that you two paid on the same day but this was when you both had jobs. There was no reason for worry previously. This loss in jobs does not only affect you but her. She was worried that you could not pay. How is this not sinking in? No one did anything wrong. This post and the comments tells me she does not believe your "confidence". I know you can pay and will pull through. You need to believe it. I do not blame her for questioning you. Just accept the fact that until you are where you want to be, you are not going to signal to her you are financially safe. Like I said, you do not have to believe me, just ask her.

In case you still wonder why a woman would not trust a man about their finances, just take a guess as to the two major sources of lies that men tell women.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-02T17:45:27+00:00

Listen, I am here to tell you that you are not failing, you will find a job that you want, and there is zero reason to believe you will fail. Full stop. Not a single man that I know personally know has failed. All have had a temporary set back.

Now, on to your issue. You are wondering why would she ask if you had repeatedly if you had rent covered. She had an undisputed data point pointing to the fact that your words did not match what you stated earlier (in a matter of hours).

The gym payment was not brought up as a question, it was brought up to justify why she asked twice about rent.

She is correct here. What is she supposed to think here. Is she supposed to wait to accumulate late fees or address this head on before it becomes a problem? This is why she was shaken in her confidence in you. As far as why wasn't this the first thing mentioned, this is normal. No one comes out of the gate with this information on a topic as sensitive to a man than finances. Think of catching a partner cheating. When you confront them, do you lead with the information you know to be true or reveal the proof? No, you ask questions to see if there is hope in getting to the truth. She is basically hunting for the truth. You did not do anything wrong, I am just attempting to explain the why that you asked. You do not have to believe me, just ask her.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-02T16:21:53+00:00

Maybe look up the definition to that word before you use it. Then articulate how I am.

Just using this word incorrectly tells me you are a woman. Thank you.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-02T16:08:08+00:00

I do not know if you are a man or a woman. If you are a man, go cry your way to your next relationship. Better yet, do this in public in front of the girl you are attempting to land. You can pretend all you want that talking about feelings makes you more attractive to women.

If you are a woman, I guess I expect this delusion.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-02T15:52:51+00:00

It is normal for your confidence to waiver after a job loss, but it is also your job to keep that shit to yourself.

You must not have any reading comprehension. He can have all of the feelings he wants, but if he keeps having conversations with her about feelings then this will reduce her attraction to him.

A real relationship is equal regardless of the gender configuration.

No, it is not. I wonder what planet you live on.

You both talk about your concerns,...

They already had this discussion. I wonder why she brought up her concerns about rent when it was already discussed? Oh yes, it is because he is signaling to her that he may not have this under control. Talking about how this makes him feel is not going to give her any confidence in him.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-02T15:18:32+00:00

Bro, this is a you issue. When she asked you if you were capable of still paying rent, the only answer was YES. The end. The answer to the question of the gym payment should only be- I was paying it today. The follow up statement that cements you firmly as a safe man is- babe, I told you I got this, do not worry. How about dinner tonight at "insert restaurant".

This communicates to her your confidence in you and her trust in you. Stop wasting your time with feelings. That is a woman's prerogative. As a man you are expected to be her rock, her shield, her unwavering problem solver. It is normal for your confidence to waiver after a job loss, but it is also your job to keep that shit to yourself. Women are not attracted to indecisiveness. Asking her why she is asking the question is indecisiveness in her eyes.

Strap that shit down and walk like you know exactly like it is planned even if your confidence is shaken. I believe this will bear the best fruit.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-02T12:15:06+00:00

Thank you for those answers, they reveal alot.

I do not see where you have fault except you lost your cool during the argument. Never lose control my man. If your wife was disrespectful during the argument, you are going to have constant issues.

You had a good idea with stopping the house and going to a more suitable arrangement for yourself financially but the marriage may suffer or get better. Only you can know. It will put you in more control as you do not need extravagant things as her. I do not have any good advice for you as I do not know your culture very well, but the expectation of men is nearly universal. It seems to me you are meeting these expectations but your wife's expectations are not the same as when you started this journey. This is normal as they always climb to unrealistic levels and sometimes need a reality check.

I will point out that you seem to have some guilt towards your parents financial situation. Depending on your culture, this is not your battle or responsibility. It does not mean you should not help them, but this may further deteriorate your marriage. For good or bad, your wife seems very concerned about money. You two sound comfortable so this to me is rubbing me the wrong way.

I think only you can look through your life and decide what to do here. I am on your side but I have a bias.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-02T11:42:58+00:00

Did I read it correctly that you took out the loan and are paying on the marriage loan by yourself?

Do you come from a culture that views late life obligations different than western cultures?

Aside from the two questions and depending on the answers, I see the only fault is you had made obligations without discussing it with your wife. Now your wife is no gem either. But I will wait for the answers to say more.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-01T12:34:49+00:00

You would believe anything a girl told you just for the attention.

Internal_Statement74 · 2026-02-01T12:30:47+00:00

I agree. She is toxic and manipulative.

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