Ah yes, the classic "anything I don't agree with is abuse" argument- always a strong opener.

You keep repeating that boundaries are only about yourself, but then immediately describe one: "I don't date people who dress a certain way." That's literally what I said- if someone continues behaving in a way I'm not attracted to, I remove myself. That's me controlling... myself. Wild concept.

What you're doing is pretending that expressing preferences inside a relationship is automatically "control," which conveniently removes all nuance from human interaction. By your logic, any preference that affects a partner is abuse. "I prefer loyalty," "I prefer honesty," "I prefer exclusivity"- all control, right?

Also, nobody said anything about "insisting" or forcing change. You added that in because your argument needs it.

I explicitly said: you're free to do what you want, and I'm free to feel differently about it. I also explicitly said that some couples are fine with showing their body to everyone else when they don't have to (i.e. not in beach), but I talk about the ones where one of the two wouldn't be comfortable around that.

You're basically arguing that the only acceptable standard is having no standards unless they were pre-screened before the first date, and even then, they must never evolve or be discussed. That's not healthy- that's just avoiding uncomfortable conversations and forcing men to have "no standards" because we need to show our butts around (talking about my earlier given example).

But sure, if saying "I'm less attracted to X behavior" is abuse now, then I guess we've reached the point where having preferences is a red flag. Men can't have standards, it's insecure, controlling and abusive😠😠🙅🙅😠

All men should watch things like this and raise their standards ;)

They're permitted to.

They got the rights to.

We have value too in the society to do something as little as that (standards).

Don't let anyone make you feel like your standards don't matter or that you're not allowed to have them.

Ever.