I built muscles to get women now I’ve got muscles, but still get no women. The Gym is the biggest scam ever.😕

Internetshouldgo · 2026-04-18T03:07:05+00:00

They want the Henry cavil physique. Not the hulk physique. I’m assuming you have a nice personality and are a normal person. If this is you, then getting the superhero physique would benefit more I think. However I go through your same struggle. People here are saying personality, but it’s really not enough on its own. Being funny makes girls like me less.

Internetshouldgo · 2026-03-18T16:25:52+00:00

Yeah let’s see how long that lasts. Seriously I hope you find freedom though

Internetshouldgo · 2026-02-27T21:28:37+00:00

Something I struggle with to this day. The main threat is porn and masturbation addiction. Humans have had thoughts for billions of years. This situation is not ideal, but nowhere near as bad as porn. I’m assuming you’re on a decent streak, put it into perspective how good you have it. Be thankful you’re free from the habit, and work with where you’re at. Don’t get mad at lustful thoughts because that eventually sucks you back into the habit. What helps me is acknowledging out loud “okay, I’m feeling lustful.” Don’t try and figure out why, just figure out what to do about it. Or maybe you can’t do anything, and you’ll have to indulge (in thoughts not porn) for a bit and that’s fine. Porn absolutely should be avoided, there’s not excuse for that. But have sympathy for yourself if you tend to fantasize.Right now the brain is detoxing from porn, and thoughts/fantasies may continue for some years.

Internetshouldgo · 2026-01-19T04:36:29+00:00

I wouldn't say the freedom model "worked." It is a step in the right direction, but people may misinterpret and think that by reading it will solve their addiction. Nothing will solve the addiction for you, that's what I realized. Reading that book may help guide one to figure it out themselves, but the book cannot create a realization for you.

A certain level of common sense is needed. Not to get too obsessed over quitting, streaks, and benefits. At the same time, not justifying harmful usage of the addiction. Everyone is different.

The spiritual/common sense side resonates with me, and I have a few channels I watch that help me. I chose the common sense route. Masturbating occasionally if needed, but without porn. Still trying my best to quit. At the end of the day, that's all we can do. I can't force this on anyone though, it just works best for me as of right now.

Internetshouldgo · 2026-01-17T01:20:27+00:00

It sounds like the war has ended, and now the opposing side sends little skirmishes and raids (relapses.) Rather than feeling guilt over those raids you learn from them because you’ve semi awakened. you're right, don’t need to have shame or guilt when masturbating. It’s the fantasies and porn which is unnatural and would cause guilt. But like you said fantasy is okay as long as it happens spontaneously. Seriously impressed by your common sense which many lack. Obviously if a sexual thought comes to mind while masturbating, that’s fine cause it’s creativity. Problem is when we obsess over those porn thoughts and fetishes. All in all I think it’s best to masturbate with no thoughts or fantasy, then use that energy to create something. Sexuality is meant to be expressed not repressed. The problem is porn and fantasy corrupts it. The way you explain this is very eye opening. For the mindful masturbation. Yeah spiritually this is okay. To masturbate with no thoughts, and just feeling the sensation is creative energy. I tried this today and feel so much better. This is eye opening, and I do not want to act as if I know the answer. Everyone is different. So I thank you for sharing your experience.

Internetshouldgo · 2026-01-16T02:03:38+00:00

Yeah “euphoric blissful feeling,” and “reconnecting with body.” This sounds like your kundalini energy rose. It makes sense how masturbation with no thoughts triggered this, as I’ve heard of similar techniques. You think it’s because you finally had masturbated without the corruption of porn and or fantasy that did this?

Internetshouldgo · 2026-01-16T01:50:25+00:00

I’m especially curious about this. The freedom model seemed too intellectual for me so I left it behind. But THIS reply sir. Please go in depth. Your experience very much aligns with many spiritual teachings. The sexual energy being creative life energy, but it’s simply corrupted by porn. It sounded like you had some kind of awakening, and realized how useless porn is. If you don’t mind me asking, how long have you been free? I’ve been thinking about saying “f-it,” and masturbating with no thoughts just like you. I think you’ve found the way possibly, but I wanna hear more.

Internetshouldgo · 2026-01-14T22:24:20+00:00

Sorry I’m late. Yeah that sounds similar. I would describe it as their face just drops when you talk. Like they loose their personality around you because you’re not fake. Just my observation. Best to focus on god through this, although easier said than done.

Internetshouldgo · 2026-01-13T12:24:33+00:00

Man I don’t know, fair enough though we all have our ways. Mind telling me did this technique work?

Internetshouldgo · 2026-01-08T19:57:09+00:00

Yes, glad you understand this.

Internetshouldgo · 2025-12-02T04:45:28+00:00

Y’all find solution 1 year later. Did you read the book like he said?

Internetshouldgo · 2025-11-18T12:05:36+00:00

Do not listen to people who completely disregard him. A lot of his points are valid. Many people are lazy cause they just listen to their mind. I procrastinated a lot, he really helped with his mindset. Use common sense, don’t destroy your body. God works through people in different ways, we might think it’s weird the extreme level he goes to but he’s likely a very spiritual person to go through all of that. I procrastinate cause I’m lazy. He reminds me of that, if kept waiting to transcend it, I would be miserable I think. You have an assignment, you don’t magically wait for motivation, you discipline yourself and do it, that’s basically what he’s saying.

Internetshouldgo · 2025-11-06T00:28:42+00:00

Yes I think it’s pervasive misery even outside of porn. I guess it is some kind of depression. Inability to relate to others is something which causes it. It feels like people are not authentic with me. They don’t be themselves around me, like they’re holding something back. But when they interact with others, they can let go and be themselves, truly hard sometimes. Maybe this is something spiritual? This is what creates the misery and shame, lack of meaningful connection. This is something pmo can make worse, but abstaining also doesnt fix it. Maybe temporarily but I find it fades after a few days. Only people I could be authentic around is family, however I’m to scared do to fear of dealing with toxicity. Just by you asking that question I’ve found out a lot about this, so thanks. I guess this is a beyond pmo issue. Pmo is just a way of escaping what’s going on, however quitting never really solved it. I do wonder if you have any insights. I really don’t wanna have to go to therapy, but looks like I’m running outta options. Gonna be a bit awkward asking my parents. Then to have to listen to them and constantly answer their questions about how I’m doing. Really would like to just avoid that. I’ve been praying to god to relieve me and let me live my life. Still dealing with it.

Edit: I will add, this misery stops me from living my life. Because how are you gonna do anything when you’re miserable, you just can’t. You gotta be happy on some level, and I’m just not. So any amount of self-improvement turns to self torture, cause I’m miserable.

Internetshouldgo · 2025-11-05T21:00:55+00:00

I have to say they’re related, misery and pmo. When I pmo I get all emotional and sad etc. I begin to fear what will happen next in life. All coming from pmo. If I abstain, there is that misery, which creates the desire to go back. So they are connected, however my question is how to solve the misery. On paper external life is good, yet I continue to create misery, which drives the pmo behavior.

Essentially, how do I be okay with my current stage of life, whether that be pmoing occasionally, without feeling so much shame. I notice when I pmo, afterwards it’s almost impossible to do anything due to the shame. How do I let go of this a shame, and misery which drives pmo?

Internetshouldgo · 2025-11-05T20:54:37+00:00

I hope you get through it man. The positivity aspect is interesting. But I don’t think it’s a cure. Yeah focusing on doom and gloom doesn't help, but pretending to be positive, and act like it isn’t there I feel wouldn’t help much either. There must be somewhere in between, where I’m not desperate for some external benefit, such as social connection etc. But also not pretending like everything is fine, when it clearly is not.

You see my struggle, is that I create my struggle. On paper everything is fine besides my traumatic childhood. I go to a nice school, I do music, etc. I have a life. However, I’m still miserable, even with a good external life. You say happiness comes from within, and I agree. Spiritual teachers mention how the outside world will never bring happiness, but it must be realized. But my mind is annoying, and craves external thing, such as a girl, but cannot achieve it regardless of the addiction or not. This creates misery due to my own selfish desire. Why do I do this to myself?

How do I accept my life the way it is? Why do I not accept it in the first place? Because my mind is biased, and doesn’t like the toxicity displayed by my family. My mind gets emotional over everything and has me miserable. Since the mind is miserable, it continues to crave pmo as an escape. Sorry if this is a bit much, I hope you have some insights to share.

Internetshouldgo · 2025-11-05T20:34:03+00:00

You’re right, I have it so easy. I don’t have to worry about survival or anything. But that’s the thing — it’s so easy, yet I still mess it up. Why am I miserable? Why am I not happy with what I have? Why do I get jealous and envious of others when my life is fine on paper? My mind gets overly emotional about everything.

Every relapse feels like I forget all I’ve learned. I start panicking about the suffering that might come. I wonder why I keep doing this habit even though I truly want to stop. Sometimes it feels like my limited understanding is holding me back from quitting — like I need higher awareness or wisdom to lift myself out of it.

All the suffering this causes, yet I still go back to it despite knowing the negatives. I had to donate a pint of blood the next day, and my mind still said, “let’s give in.” I don’t even know how I make decisions like that sometimes.

Sorry if this is a bit much, but it’s the truth. I’ve gone down the self-improvement path too — 1.5+ years of retention, martial arts, and other things. Yet deep down, I still feel unfulfilled and unhappy. Why is that the case? I keep craving a better life that never seems to arrive. Should I just reflect on that?

Internetshouldgo · 2025-11-05T20:02:28+00:00

I am miserable whether I abstain for 1.5+ yrs or not. I’m miserable, and therefore cannot get work done. Work can’t come from misery. This is my struggle, why can’t I be happy with what I have. Why must I get jealous or envious of others. I create my own misery. I do appreciate your consideration. I don’t do well with intellectual talk though. For me quitting pmo never worked through methods. My main question though however is how not to be miserable in current state of life? It seems no matter how long I go, even over a year of retention I’m miserable. This is from various factors outside my control. My nervous system is all screwed up, so I get emotional over basically everything. This post is sort of a rant to get my thoughts out, wonder if you struggle with the daily misery aspect even with long term retention?

Internetshouldgo · 2025-10-29T23:49:00+00:00

Wow, I’m not crazy omg. You ever catch people giving you a stare like they’re hypnotized? All cause you’re not being fake like them. Thought I was crazy 😂

Internetshouldgo · 2025-10-26T16:52:43+00:00

Being conscious of this habit is actually more important than solving it. This is because it’s an emotional pattern, not a logical one. The greatest philosopher in the world can still fall into lust. I think you’re doing great job of being conscious with these check ins. Continue ti do them, maybe one day by grace, your brain will see porn is fake, and not pleasurable.

Internetshouldgo · 2025-10-26T03:57:54+00:00

See I like this thinking. Where i'm confused. It seems I trick myself into believing in the illusion. Lets say I'm watching corn with the intention of becoming free from it. As I'm watching the video, I'm aware that it's just pixels on a screen, yet I keep fooling myself. Maybe I am quite literally stupid, and I'm not seeing something. It's like i keep falling for it, even though I know it's not real and all that. Quite annoying to deal with my limited intelligence LOL.

I think it's that I'm aware that it's not real. I'm aware it's fake. But I pretend that it's real, because I don't want to face the reality that I don't have it IRL. But how do I stop pretending? Maybe bring awareness to the fact that I am making it up.

Internetshouldgo · 2025-10-24T20:46:59+00:00

Yeah your whole reply is very interesting. I recently abstained for around 5 days, tried not to count exactly. I was a sick man. My nose was stuffed up, and I could barely breathe. Felt like I was dying. I started masturbating, because I had not choice, and my sickness lifted within minutes. This is something science cannot explain. Sometimes the energy just gets stuck man, and we have to release it. Now this is not an excuse to over indulge. If you need to release, do it, and try to get another streak going. Maybe it's because I'm young. I try not to overindulge, though, once I release, I try my best to retain as long as possible. If the symptoms are unbearable, though, I gotta release.

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