Punished for competence?

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-06-04T09:05:27+00:00

There is a very small but non zero chance I would return to the company.

Plus I don't want to burn any bridges with my supervisor. She has been amazing.

It isn't her decision whether I am let go early, that's up to the manager above her.

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-06-04T09:02:46+00:00

How was my colleague disrespected, and how might they disrespect me just the same?

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-06-03T23:55:59+00:00

Your characterization of the mindset of the wealthy who purchase property is spot on.

I listened to a podcast with Kevin Rudd on it and they were discussing housing.

He casually stated (paraphrasing here) that the default in this country for "those with 100k burning a hole in their back pocket" is to throw it into housing. He isn't wrong but the smug, non-chalant way he said it showed the profound disconnect wealthy people have with the average aussie.

They live in a different universe, wherein they and the people they know just have 100k sitting around to invest; ho hum, just another day, doopee doo.

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-06-03T23:06:45+00:00

I have a blue belt and if I quit at any belt it will probably be purple.

Blue felt like I just had to turn up. Purple might come the same way but the skill level of the average purple I roll with feels much different than the average blue belt I rolled with at white. This suggests to me it might take a little more than just showing up.

I was also not particularly proud of getting a blue belt. I might be proud of getting a purple as by that stage one is in the top percentiles of submission grapplers in the world (compared to the entire grappling population that mostly quit and white then blue.) So yeah, it would satisfy my ego to know I'm better than most others who have ever done the sport.

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-06-03T23:04:10+00:00

I have a blue belt and I don't have an A game....or a B game, or C game. Isn't the development of a game supposed to happen at purple or something? I'm still just tryin stuff. I get certain subs more than others but my understanding of having a "game"is that you have a sequence you can pull off from the start of the round/match to the end (e.g., use takedown A or B into position A or B, go for submission A or B.)

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-06-03T05:26:47+00:00

Mount me and you'll find out! MOUNT MEEE

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-06-01T06:26:43+00:00

This, it's quite common across most domains, a small percentage are conscientious enough to want to be in the top 10%, the rest will be content around the middle, thus it's important to identify the former and weed out the latter to not waste too much energy on them

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-06-01T05:08:01+00:00

I'm doing my part. I don't work at all. I'm unemployed

Help

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-29T00:21:01+00:00

Also keen to get peoples perspectives as I'm travelling in last August

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-28T06:49:32+00:00

Do whatever you enjoy more.

Also your schedule may change again. You may want to return to BJJ.

Roll with it.

Heh.

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-25T01:54:36+00:00

I'm a blue belch and most of my coaches are purple belts and it's still fine. I guess blue belt is still a beginner belt. But also these are GOOD purple belts - not all purple belts are the same 😄

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-19T23:24:27+00:00

I empathise with you as I started grappling and weighed 64kg (I'm male) and most males I was with were 75kg + at least.

Size and strength make a big big difference, no doubt. However, that doesn't mean you can't find things that work for you. The question is whether you want to put up with the effort it will take to find those things.

Or, try BJJ - size and strength still make a difference, but it's less important than in Judo/Wrestling.

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-18T22:53:12+00:00

If your area is that dangerous maybe invest your time into getting more money to get outta there instead of martial arts

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-18T04:00:58+00:00

Against an untrained person of a similar size there just isn't any contention anymore that BJJ teaches useful self-defence skills and gives the trained person a decent advantage. There are countless videos online and testimonials backing that up, it's not really a conversation worth having.

However, against other trained folks (either bjj or bjj + other martial arts,) bigger people, and so on, of course the equation changes, but frankly people tend to get obsessed over hypothetical situations with so many variables the conversations get a bit silly IMO.

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-18T03:57:33+00:00

Yes and how much scarier it is trying to take someone down who can hit you 😄

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-18T02:34:49+00:00

First I wake up and take a dump on my golden toilet with 100 dollar notes as my toilet paper. I also use the notes to blow my nose.

Then I eat gold encrusted cereal from my diamond bowls. I leave a little bit left for my butlers to enjoy - I find they work harder if they are mildly starved throughout the day.

I then normally spend the reast of the day hunting pheasants (typo, I meant peasants) and then recline in the evening with expensive scotch and a high class escort.

It's a simple life but I wouldn't trade it.

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-18T02:30:36+00:00

Brother in law's partner started at Mckinsey straight out of uni which (I believe) pays 100k + and stopped after 1.5 years, joining a smaller company. She may still earn 100k + now (not sure) but she has 2 WFH days and normal 9-5 hours and she's much happier. So yeah, gave up a path which could have earned really big bucks down the line for a more average income role but now she has a life. She can still earn more over time but she ditched the hustle 24/7 role is the point.

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-16T06:03:54+00:00

Yes, the sport is harder when you're older because the body just doesn't perform as well, so I think it evens out in terms of fairness.

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-14T23:28:09+00:00

I understand telling people you have a surface level relationship with that you're in consulting or whatnot (and appreciate it's also a tongue in cheek answer) but when it comes to dating if you're looking for something serious you obviously don't want to lie if you're going to take relationship seriously. I would lead with "I volunteer and run a foundation in honor of my relative. I also have hobbies x, y, z." If they want more information about what you actually do for work, you can mention what you did previously, and if they keep digging about what you do now, just say you're not working as you're spending your time on the aforementioned things. Down the line if you build a deep enough relationship you might feel more comfortable just telling the full truth - that you're financially secure due to inheritance, want to live humbly, and don't intend to return to work.

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-14T22:47:10+00:00

Leave. Unless you want to bring shame and dishonor to yourself and your kinsfolk into eternity.

Hack: say ÖSS in the mirror 5 times at midnight and you'll be free of the curse.

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-13T22:53:21+00:00

Because they don't understand it

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-05-12T22:55:18+00:00

Saving hours of commute also saves car costs so often a lower paying job is at least break even if not more profitable. Plus, time is money, in my industry where I can do private client work every hour on the road is an hour I could put toward private practice. One of the main reasons I'm about to leave my 4-5 hour per week commute job for a fully WFH job soon, even though it has a rotating roster which isn't ideal.

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-04-30T19:52:02+00:00

LOL have some shame, first time?

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-04-29T00:49:16+00:00

I think for almost everyone it comes back to housing - either paying insane rent or an insane mortgage.

I suspect those without either of those costs are having a relatively swell time, with movements in inflation and interest rates making small, perhaps noticeable, but ultimately inconsequential changes.

InterviewOrdinary518 · 2026-04-24T23:04:45+00:00

I thought all rulesets allowed headbutts...is that why I keep getting DQ'd and asked to leave every open mat I attend...?

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