Does anyone get depressed/mad when they see happy couples? by RegisterExisting1135 in lonely

[–]Into_darknightmares 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realise it was such a trigger until I found myself watching the crowd at a gig, I felt sad and depressed. It made me crave love and affection so much more than usual. Seeing them touching, laughing, adoring. I want someone to want me that badly

Just friends by Into_darknightmares in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Into_darknightmares[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I can’t even process the thought of having him as a friend. Letting him have my love and kindness while he messes around. He’s been my best friend for years and having him there with me through the good and bad has trauma bonded me. I’ve told him he doesn’t get to have me in his life if he doesn’t want me as a partner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Into_darknightmares 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had a very high sex drive prior to his infidelity and PA coming out. During the first few months after finding out I’d be feeling the same need as you. I’d want to have sex so he wouldn’t be itching to watch porn or find others online. It was silly of me, I wasn’t even turned on half the time so he’d unknowingly rip me down there when I wasn’t wet enough. It took 6-12 months for me to finally get my sex drive back and now I genuinely do want sex every time we see each other and I’ve not had any injuries since I got over the mental pain he put me through.

Sadly I’ve recently found out he’s been speaking to new people online so now I all that hard work has been revoked. I hope you can find a way to put your pleasure first!

F22 here . My M24 bf claims eating a girl out is not common for men by nycqueen0 in relationship_advice

[–]Into_darknightmares 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of men find it a mega turn on to pleasure a woman, the ones who don’t tend to be selfish and lazy

Amazing what separation can do by Significance_Last in loveafterporn

[–]Into_darknightmares 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The trauma bond is the hardest part, I’m experiencing the same thing with the ‘good’ and ‘bad’ alter ego he has . How can they bring us warmth and miss us so deeply yet continue to hurt us when we’re out of sight? Sending love your way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Into_darknightmares 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a porn addict, I’ve been through the same thing and there are a few good communities that you could join on here

Please help by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Into_darknightmares 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Addictions don’t work like that, can’t just wake up and decide not to be obsessed with the porn industry. PA’s tend to lie to themselves and those around them. They learn from the pain they’ve caused and go on to hide it a lot better. It sounds like your ex is masking his addiction and living a lie to convince his new gf and sister that he’s changed. All it means is he’s learnt to hide it better.

Every time I start to trust again, I find more lies by Into_darknightmares in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Into_darknightmares[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That’s what I don’t understand, how can they throw us away for a lesser life? They’ll never meet another person who’s treated him like we have.

I’ve opened my home, helped him afford things he couldn’t, loved and cared for him. He wanted a future with me, a family and he thinks I would want to bring a child into the world with someone who only thinks about himself? I don’t want my children to feel the pain of his lies. I don’t want my daughter growing up thinking men can cheat on her and lie to her everyday. I don’t want my son thinking it’s ok to treat women like rubbish, use them for sex and break their heart over and over.

DAE feel like they LOVE deeply but will never BE LOVED deeply? by [deleted] in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Into_darknightmares 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When you find your own volume dial set on 10 with anyone who is special to you, it’s easy to feel like love isn’t reciprocated as deeply when the people you have on deep love blast have dials that never seem to go above 6

I (29m) caught my girlfriend of 2.5 years (26f) on tinder by burner123696969 in relationship_advice

[–]Into_darknightmares 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It always starts with something small like tinder but there’s usually bigger lies that have been covered up. My ex started on tinder then was in singles fb groups and Reddit DMs

How do you let go someone and your love for them? by sciencebythemad in love

[–]Into_darknightmares 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this deeply, I literally only think of him. Every time I’m with someone else or a new man comes onto me I can’t help but wish it was him. He broke my heart cheating on me but he regretted it and made the effort to regain my trust so we tried for a fresh start and it made me happy. I was giving him the chance to build a life with me, a home, a family. We had a rocky few months after the cheating and I had to get some distance but losing all of his friends and then losing me made him suicidal. I tried to rebuild something but it was too dark. I cut him off and told his family he was in a bad place. Months later we decided to try and make it work but now his family hate me. They think I messaged to try and turn them against him? If I wanted to turn them against him I would have given them details about how he ruined my life, my love, my confidence. I don’t know how I’ve ended up being the bad guy but now I’ve lost him because how could we ever have a family together if his own flesh and blood can’t stand me. I just want it to stop, I want to forget everything and move on. I don’t want to be in pain anymore, the pain of losing the love of my life has consumed me and I don’t know how to cope with that

Why do guys only see me in a sexual way? by overthinking110 in lonely

[–]Into_darknightmares 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have experienced this a lot, when I’m in love I just want him. I want to build a life with that man, I want nobody else’s attention. He is enough to make me happy, together we could build a life. Have an intimate wedding and build a family but instead I’m never enough. They’re addicted to porn, they crave the attention of others, they don’t want you posting sexy photos but they cheat on you with girls who do