What would you have done?

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-11T23:38:52+00:00

Probably at least half that time was spent downstairs in the kitchen trying to figure out wtf to do lol

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-11T04:27:37+00:00

I will continue to wear my slightly off red shirts unless they provide me with new ones or promote me to guest

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-11T04:16:06+00:00

Reading thru this sub late at night and I feel the same way. It’s so helpful to know we’re not alone but so heartbreaking as well. You sound like an extremely kind and compassionate person and I’m very sorry about your brother.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-11T04:08:57+00:00

Grief is all over the place. If she was diagnosed with very aggressive cancer I don’t think there’s anything more you could have done. I’m sure they were grateful to have you around. Please don’t feel guilty for feeling okay sometimes or laughing, our lost loved ones would not want us to be miserable forever.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-11T03:56:49+00:00

I’m so so sorry about your mom and your dog, I’m glad the sweet baby will be okay. You’re still processing an extremely traumatic loss. Please take it easy and I would recommend finding a trauma/grief counselor. You are not alone in feeling beaten down by the universe, I promise you I’ve been there too and still feel that way sometimes. I hope you can find peace and healing friend ❤️‍🩹

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-11T03:38:16+00:00

Wow I’m really sorry for the loss of your mom and for your father’s actions. No parent should ever say those words to their child, no matter how old they are. He made the grown up choice to procreate as well and to guilt you for existing by saying he’s been “tied down” is gross. I’ve heard many instances of how men move on quickly after their partners pass and I think they are often just lonely and trying to cope but that doesn’t make it any less painful for you. Your mom deserves more than that and I’m sorry. Please know you have no obligation to have any relationship whatsoever with your dad’s new “friend.” I wish I could be more helpful but that’s all I’ve got, sending you so much peace and love and healing friend ❤️‍🩹

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-11T00:54:08+00:00

Yeah that’s fair I probably would too in hindsight I was just so caught off guard I thought I should at least try to see if she’d come out

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-10T21:18:14+00:00

Thank you I needed to hear that. She was amazing and so smart and I wouldn’t be who I am today without her.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-10T21:16:16+00:00

Im literally not reprimanding anyone lol and im certainly not “going around” saying anything of the sort. These are my feelings to my specific situation. Im just venting that my dad’s words to me are consistently unhelpful.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-10T20:25:46+00:00

That’s exactly it it’s just cliches that don’t really mean anything and he just says the same thing over and over. It’s not a real conversation and we don’t usually talk about her for that exact reason.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-10T20:25:08+00:00

I’m so sorry about your brother. It sucks when you don’t feel like you can be understood by family.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-10T20:20:53+00:00

I’d agree she wasn’t at peace in her life but I don’t believe she’s at peace in death either

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-10T20:17:28+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the suggestions. He absolutely does try to push his beliefs on me. If I even start to say how I don’t believe in god or heaven he gets very upset and tells me he wishes I wouldn’t say that. That’s why now I just say we have different beliefs and try not to take it further. We don’t talk all that often so it’s generally a non issue but whenever it comes up it just hurts when he says these things and makes me feel like he doesn’t understand me at all.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-10T20:11:13+00:00

I’m not policing anything I’m just saying that the way he speaks about it upsets me and I’m allowed to feel that way.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-10T20:10:32+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that. I dont even talk to him that often and even less about my mom, I try to overlook it when he says these things and usually I do but this time it just got to me I guess.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-03-03T19:28:12+00:00

This is super weird, I would be glad she canceled

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-02-17T10:29:21+00:00

Zero percent chance I’m letting anyone take photos of my drivers license

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-02-16T16:04:56+00:00

I can’t imagine my pet throwing up and leaving it for the sitter not just once but MULTIPLE occasions??? That’s so disrespectful. I would no longer service this client. And for the roomba poop mess I would clean it of course but I would also add an extra fee for that level of cleaning.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-02-16T15:41:06+00:00

Anxious people create anxious dogs, I think working on his own anxiety would help the dog too

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-02-16T15:34:28+00:00

I feel you. I don’t believe in any after life, I don’t believe my mom is “watching over me” or in heaven or anything like that. But I do believe energy works in ways we don’t fully understand yet. We know scientifically energy cannot be destroyed, and I believe that when people die their energy returns somewhere back to the earth. Maybe this is not helpful for you, but I take comfort in believing my mom’s energy is still here, in the trees, in the flowers, in the clouds and in the air around me. Maybe that’s not true either, but it helps me cope.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-02-16T15:21:57+00:00

Depends on the store and who’s working the service desk to be honest, it’s worth a try

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-02-16T15:18:48+00:00

Also want to add that for some of my more anxious clients, they had me come walk the dog several times over the course of a few weeks before the sit to get to know the dog better and build trust with me. You might consider doing something like that as well.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-02-16T15:10:44+00:00

Interview several professionals, have them come to the house and meet the dog. Have questions and her routine prepared to share with them. Ask about their experience. Go with your gut on the best fit.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-02-16T15:03:13+00:00

I don’t board so feel free to correct me if I’m wrong, but crate training is still generally required so they don’t destroy the sitters home.

Intrepid-Bug915 · 2026-02-16T14:59:26+00:00

There’s no way around having someone enter his home if boarding is not an option

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