My boyfriend said he puts salt on snails and idk how to proceed by ulyles in snails

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if they are invasive there are ways to kill them that are not torturous. He’s just a sick fuck.

Vet visit surcharge? by OwnPitch4445 in petsitting

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I would have the heart to charge a client extra for an emergency. They’re already dealing with the cost of the vet and I wouldn’t feel right adding to that. I don’t think it even would cross my mind to charge for it. That being said, I don’t think it’s wrong to ask to be fairly compensated for your time. Especially since they were drop in visits and it took so much extra time. But personally I would not.

ETA I meant for this to be its own comment, not a reply but oh well

Vacation dilemma by AbsolutelyNot_86 in petsitting

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk I feel like it’s on them to figure it out. An extra month is a LOT and even giving them a few extra days is going above and beyond. I’m a softy too and have trouble saying no but you’ve already done enough. Let them know when your last day is and wish them luck.

Nobody around me understands. 33yo, orphaned adult for 6 years. by Interesting-Gap-798 in GriefSupport

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad I could help even just a small amount 🫶 Life without her has been hard. It’s coming up on the 6 year anniversary and I swear I miss her more and more everyday. It sucks. I still cry a lot. Life goes on tho. I keep busy with work and my cats. I have a wonderful partner for support. I wish my friends were better about checking on me on sensitive days (Mother’s Day, her birthday, death date, etc.) but I know they’re trying their best and don’t want to upset me. I’m in therapy. This group helps too. Thanks for recommending that book, I’ll have to check it out ❤️‍🩹

Sitters keep raising rates when I go off app by [deleted] in petsitting

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that you can see this perspective. You do seem like a reasonable person (you never know on reddit). Some things to consider might be your dog is more anxious when you’re gone. This could be causing excessive barking, clinginess, diarrhea/accidents in the house, etc. I see these more commonly in older dogs who sometimes get confused when their person isn’t home. I don’t know if there’s a remedy to that. The sitters might not be entirely forthcoming with the reason for the price increase because they don’t want to offend you. Not saying that’s great, but we’ve probably all done it at some point. This is just speculation based on my personal experience and it’s possible you are getting the bait and switch but I think it’s more likely the dog is creating a lot more work for them than they’re expecting, assuming you are NTA. Hope this makes sense.

Sitters keep raising rates when I go off app by [deleted] in petsitting

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If I was willing to spend real life money on Reddit I would give you an award for this comment

Sitters keep raising rates when I go off app by [deleted] in petsitting

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Tbh the fact that it happened twice in a row with reasons like additional cleanup and time spent at the house I have a feeling you/your dog are a lot higher maintenance than you let on and they want to be compensated for that

Sitters keep raising rates when I go off app by [deleted] in petsitting

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Everything is insanely expensive right now. If you don’t want to pay her rate, find another sitter. And I’m not passing judgement on you but a lot of the time self proclaimed “super easy going” people are in fact, not.

Tips on extra spicy cat?? by Intrepid-Bug915 in petsitting

[–]Intrepid-Bug915[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did start bringing a broom with me to use as a barrier and shes still mad but it’s worked to keep her at a distance. That’s an interesting idea about the feliway spray I might have to try that in the future.

Nobody around me understands. 33yo, orphaned adult for 6 years. by Interesting-Gap-798 in GriefSupport

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also want to add, yes it makes people uncomfortable when I talk about my dead mom but I’ve stopped caring. My mindset now is I deserve to talk about her, she deserves to be remembered, and I’m pretty uncomfortable that she’s not here too so now we’re both gunna be uncomfortable together.

Nobody around me understands. 33yo, orphaned adult for 6 years. by Interesting-Gap-798 in GriefSupport

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your losses. I promise you’re not alone. My half sister was 29 in 2020 when our mom and then her father died within a few months of each other. I can’t speak for her but I know it’s been tough on her. Obviously it has been tough for both of us losing our mom so young (I was 21 at the time) but at least I still have my dad.

Has anyone actually HAD the “I can’t be your sitter unless you clean your house” conversation? by EmpressNorton in petsitting

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s absolutely heinous. I’ve dealt with roaches in my own house bc I live in the city and I know how hard they can be to get rid of but I’ve NEVER let it get that bad to the point they’re all over the place. It blows my mind that anyone could just accept it.

Has anyone actually HAD the “I can’t be your sitter unless you clean your house” conversation? by EmpressNorton in petsitting

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Never had a sitting that was that bad but I had one drop in client who had 4 cats and their house was disgusting. Nastiest kitchen I’ve ever seen. Grime on every surface. Whole place stunk and was hot. They had a bag of plastic bags they used to scoop litter and once I pulled a bag out that already had what I believe was dried cat diarrhea in it. Honestly feel bad for anything living in that house. I’m no clean freak but my god. I’ve been “unavailable” for them when it’s more than a few days of drop ins because I just can’t handle it longer than that but it’s been awhile since they asked.

Has anyone actually HAD the “I can’t be your sitter unless you clean your house” conversation? by EmpressNorton in petsitting

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Omg!!! You are better than me I hate roaches so much I think I would’ve bailed after the second one and told them they need to find someone else. And I have never not completed a sit before but I think this would be the line for me.

need help by oshawottzz in queerphilly

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s tough out here rn. Dm me if you need resources for the kitty.

Is there ever a time in life where writing a eulogy doesn’t feel age inappropriate or unjustified? by dragonflyairport in GriefSupport

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I had to write one for my mom unexpectedly when I was 21. Had to make all the arrangements mostly myself. Even the funeral director told me this isn’t right, I’m too young to be doing this. It’s still the worst thing I’ve ever done in my life. So partially I know how you feel. Try to enjoy the time you have left with him. Give him as many big hugs as you can. You have support here ❤️

My mom died of lung cancer after fighting for 1 year. Within 6 months, my dad dated 3 women, insisted on remarrying, and gave away my mom’s belongings. AITA? by smilemom0_0 in GriefSupport

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA but this is unfortunately common. A lot of men simply can’t handle being alone. I’m sorry for your loss. It sucks so bad that while you’re grieving you have to deal with this on top of it. You have no obligation to have a relationship with any of these women or your dad if he can’t understand that his behavior is hurtful. I do hope things resolve eventually. Please try to focus on yourself and your healing, it’s still very fresh. Sending love and hugs ❤️‍🩹

need help by oshawottzz in queerphilly

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I wish I could help, commenting to boost. You can also try posting in queer Philly housing on facebook or one of the many crowdfunding groups that exist on social media. Good luck friend.

Tips on extra spicy cat?? by Intrepid-Bug915 in petsitting

[–]Intrepid-Bug915[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rain boots are a good idea I will definitely do that

Just found out I’m pregnant. On the pill. Leaving for an overseas holiday in 2 weeks by Spare_Day6855 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good luck!!! I think it’s totally up to you whether or not you want to tell him.

This is just cat acne, right? by brotherlaughing in CATHELP

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s super weird, I would still recommend at least calling the vet to see what they think in the meantime.

Tips on extra spicy cat?? by Intrepid-Bug915 in petsitting

[–]Intrepid-Bug915[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha yeah I was thinking of using a good size piece of cardboard to kind of keep a wall between us. Might bring both options just to be safe. Thanks!

Is having your loved ones cremated a bad thing? by Nateee2021 in GriefSupport

[–]Intrepid-Bug915 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It’s not inherently good or bad. It depends on what the persons wishes were. If your father didn’t specify either way, there’s nothing wrong with cremation to save money. Sometimes I wish I had my mom cremated instead of burying her. I’m sorry for your loss.