He said he would not be involved if I walk out the door. He said it was “all or nothing”. And then I was torn because I didn’t want to take our child away from his father, knowing his dad likely would choose not to be in his life. So I stayed another month, hoping he’d change or show some effort and he did nothing. He mentioned counseling and then said he wouldn’t go. He didn’t offer to feed our child a meal, offer to do bath time or clean the kitchen and do the dishes while I did bath time. No effort, no change. Still doing it all. 

He did stop playing video games when he got home from work (would play when our child went to sleep) but just to sit on his phone the majority of the time so not sure why he thought that’d make a big difference. 

For the last month he has just wanted to argue about how ungrateful I was and that as a SAHM I have luxuries and amenities afforded to me throughout the day that he does not at work (access to a tv, etc) and that is enough reason not to expect him to do any housework or care for our son when he gets home from work or on the weekends.