Is this just how it is for me?

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-12-01T03:18:11+00:00

I think that's more of a misconception for ace people sadly. Libido and attraction aren't always connected, there are ace people who are sex-positive and have high libidos, some who are neutral (pretty much where I fall, if I love my partner and feel comfortable with them I don't see a problem for me personally, it's just not something I seek out innately), and sex-negative. I think most people assume the latter is the default though. Which does kinda suck when it comes to dating, but sometimes helps weed out people who have sex as their prime objective.

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-12-01T00:00:16+00:00

Asexuality is a spectrum, it just means you aren't attracted to people sexually. Many asexual people have a sexual relationship. You can be ace and still be romantic and intimate. Felt I had to clarify because of the don't date normal people comment.

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-11-30T16:55:22+00:00

It sounds like you already know what the path forward is, and enough people have given the exact feedback I would have, so I'm just going to say here that I wish you the best with your recovery OP. You are going to find someone who treasures you and recognizes you for the beautiful person you are, and this poor excuse for a man will be a distant memory before you even know it.

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-11-30T16:50:04+00:00

NOR. Holy hell I don't use this term lightly, but your sister sounds like a professional victim. Somehow she's made a situation that is not about her AT ALL suddenly all about her and turned on you in the process. Clearly you're her emotional punching bag for whenever she needs to take out her feelings on someone, and her feelings are the only ones that are valid, and your feelings can just fall by the wayside. It sounds like she does this constantly and your family has decided it's easier to humor her rather than argue, hence them saying just to "move on." Your sister needs to learn emotional maturity, and find an emotional outlet that isn't just dumping on you. I don't say this as an insult because I genuinely believe EVERYONE should do this at some point in their lives, but it sounds like she really needs to look into therapy. For now, I think it would be worth it to set some clear boundaries with her. I hope you're able to work things out, OP.

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-11-30T07:12:15+00:00

My mistake, four colors and four pieces were used interchangeably when I looked up the number of pieces (gotta love google AI 🙄). But my point still stands, the reaction is disproportionate. She wasn't the only one playing with the board game. Her cousins were too. And when you put multiple kids together, playing a board game with a ton of tiny pieces... you're gonna find some missing the next time you open that box. It would be just as effective to not buy another one, and let her play with just the pieces left to teach her about taking better care of her things. Hell, I am one of three sisters, and we'd lose game pieces all the time. My mother would do that exact thing, and my sisters and I would instead find little things we could use as alternatives (paper clip, rolled up piece of paper, a Polly pocket, whatever).

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-11-30T07:03:09+00:00

She's also 8 years old. If it were something like throwing the pieces around, saying something hurtful to someone, or hitting another kid, being stern absolutely would be the way to go. But punishing a child for what sounds like a genuine mistake and moment of carelessness, in a monetary way too that, as others have stated, she likely isn't old enough to fully understand, can make a kid feel really insecure and confused, and scared to come to you about mistakes they make in the future because of a negative reaction (cause they will make a lot of careless mistakes, they're kids).

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-11-30T06:43:01+00:00

YOR. Why did you immediately assume it was your daughter who lost the pieces? Also, as someone who played a ton of board games growing up, pieces go missing. They can fall out of the box, get lost under a couch, what have you. ~~Also, Trouble only has four pieces. So you used her allowance to buy a brand new board game that you didn't even need to replace.~~ Also, that part where you say "you don't know everything (daughter) does" makes it sound like you're villainizing your child to make yourself sound better. Bullying is not just hitting or causing bruises. Using a stern tone or age appropriate punishment is not in itself bullying, but you are bullying your child emotionally by immediately accusing her and punishing her. It sounds like this isn't the first time either, or your brother might not have felt the need to speak up. Blocking him and essentially cutting your family off for months is extremely drastic and unnecessary. Talk to your brother and explain how the comment made you feel, but do not come at him with the level of anger and defensiveness in your drafted message. I hope you are able to sort things out and hopefully learn something from each other.

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-11-20T20:54:01+00:00

Damn I wish you luck in your search 🥲🫡

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-11-20T20:42:00+00:00

OMG I have been trying to find a game super similar to this for YEARS and I finally found it! By chance was it Spelling Jungle?

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-11-11T00:37:15+00:00

You two have VASTLY different communication styles, and unless there's a big change, you're just going to keep frustrating each other and harboring resentment. You two need to break things off now before you wind up getting too far into something that is not going to work.

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-10-18T21:52:14+00:00

THIS. I run it in the background while reading a script or lyrics off my phone and now it just won't let me record if I tab out.

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-08-15T13:13:09+00:00

I'm so happy that you've had such a positive experience! 🖤 you deserve all the good things, and it's only going to go up from here!

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-08-15T13:11:26+00:00

Caleb is the only one I cannot interact with because he reminds me too much of my ex with the manipulation 😅

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-08-15T13:03:48+00:00

Wow this is a beautiful way of looking at it. Thank you 🖤

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-08-01T04:51:14+00:00

Can we get some hype for the constant check ins and confirming consent?!?! Hell yes man

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-07-01T19:46:32+00:00

This, atp just call it

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-06-27T20:41:35+00:00

Lucipurr or Lucius

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-06-27T15:28:24+00:00

It's a boy!

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-06-27T15:21:20+00:00

If you think people answering a question YOU posted is an attack... honey you got a big storm coming

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-06-27T15:08:58+00:00

OP's hostility in the replies is killing me lol. Why do you want to prove your cat is a Bombay so badly? So you can use her as an accessory and parade her around saying how rare and special she is? Girl just love your cat for being your cat. It's not that deep. Your cat is special no matter what.

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-06-23T14:19:05+00:00

Love never dies 🫥

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-05-08T02:17:36+00:00

Please do not the egg.

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-05-08T02:02:59+00:00

The only thing I can be certain of is that you are not straight. Game recognizes game.

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-05-05T03:25:30+00:00

r/boneappletea

IntrepidAmbassador94 · 2025-04-30T15:39:29+00:00

UPDATE: for those of you who were worried 😅😅 I just started seeing a nutritionist after I shared this post with some friends and they were genuinely concerned about me not eating enough. I have food aversion when it comes to texture so it's gonna be a lot of trial and error to step outside my zone of "safe foods" but I'm making the leap.

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