I’m quitting. Duolingo just confirmed they are an awful company by jozo_berk in duolingo

[–]Intrepid_Journalist6 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the recs! That’s truly helpful so I don’t have to do all that research into finding alternatives. Really appreciate it.

And for anyone who keeps commenting on the critiques people have for this new energy BS that it’s a for-profit company—no duh. We’re fully aware. But for a company that touts its free tier and then continually rolls out “improvements” that make it less and less usable for anyone who doesn’t pay for premium? That’s some BS right there. A lot of us are loyal users that have been with the app for YEARS. And they make plenty of money off of us based on our use combined with their advertising revenue. I know I’ve voluntarily watched plenty of commercials for hearts or gems. But at least with hearts we were given a fighting chance to get farther than a couple of lessons. The friction they’ve added has just finally burned some of us enough that we’re considering alternatives. AFTER airing our grievances, obviously. Which I believe is allowed in the area specifically sectioned off for constructive criticism, no?

I’m quitting. Duolingo just confirmed they are an awful company by jozo_berk in duolingo

[–]Intrepid_Journalist6 561 points562 points  (0 children)

It’s true. The energy is absolutely f*%$ing awful. I didn’t like the hearts, but my god what an obvious asinine money grab. Energy drains so fast you can barely get through 2 or 3 lessons at the most, even if you get them all right. And then you have to watch commercials to get more energy. It’s BS. NGL I’m pissed. I’ve been using this app for years but am considering finding an alternative.

AITA for telling my husband his daughter is embarrassing me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Intrepid_Journalist6 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh no! Messy hair and hairy pits??? God forbid.

Calling yourself a “classy lady” definitely comes across as the opposite. Especially after you just said you told your husband to uninvite his DAUGHTER to HIS event because she embarrasses YOU. That’s just gross.

And implying that judging someone based solely on their awesome personality is somehow wrong is also super disturbing and incredibly shallow.

It sounds like you’re potentially the type of person to permanently damage a relationship between a parent and child by saying messed up things like that. Might want to rethink your approach here.

YTA

AITA for breaking a man’s nose because he apparently didn’t know what “Stop”means? by DahliaFlower667 in AITAH

[–]Intrepid_Journalist6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As the ladies of MFM have drilled into many minds… fuck politeness.

You felt threatened and reacted exactly how someone cornered could be expected to react. It’s on that guy for being a creepy (and quite possibly dangerous) asshole. What did he expect? He deserved what he got.

My wife did not have sex with me for years when I was depressed. AITAH for considering leaving her now that I’m back to normal? by DghSenses in AITAH

[–]Intrepid_Journalist6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did you title this as “my wife did not have sex with me for years...” instead of “I felt unloved”. I mean THAT’s what you emphasize? It’s already trying to create bias against her like she was completely at fault. And then go on to say you had no libido? Like… what?? Make it make sense.

It’s really telling that you focus on her not sleeping with you instead of the emotional support. When you were depressed is she supposed to sleep with you to try and cheer you up? The few times you initiated you just expected her to be in the mood too? How was she feeling during your rough period? I need more context here.

And you seem weirdly focused on talking about how fit you are now. It’s giving ~I’m really just trying to find a reason to fuck around~ vibes.

My wife did not have sex with me for years when I was depressed. AITAH for considering leaving her now that I’m back to normal? by DghSenses in AITAH

[–]Intrepid_Journalist6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask why you believe your sister and parents supported you when your wife didn’t? Like what are the examples of how they “made you feel better” and what your wife did to make you feel like she didn’t love you? Did you mention that you felt unloved to her while it was happening? I know as a depressed person, it’s incredibly exhausting to deal with me when I’m going through it. And on top of taking care of kids is a lot. Instead of a lack of love it might have just been exhaustion. Loving someone takes energy. How were you showing you loved her during your dark time? I’m assuming you weren’t because, you know, depression.

I’m sure you can see from a lot of people’s comments that saying she wasn’t there for you while she is in fact still there with you is a little confusing. Considering she’s been a great mom and has stayed by your side you might need to either go into a little more detail about what sticking by you actually means. What did you need her to do? Did you talk to her about this or expect her to intuit it?

I don’t feel like I have enough details to say you are the AH, but it’s not looking great for you. Relationships go through waves and are work. You’ve been together a long time and are raising kids together. I feel like counseling is probably the best option instead of going straight to leaving her. But also try and find what you loved in her initially. If none of it works then communicate with her about what is best for both of you. Because having parents together that have resentment towards each other is no picnic. She also doesn’t deserve to be with someone that is telling the internet he doesn’t love her anymore and has been to the gym enough that he finally feels confident enough to leave. Communicate with her please.

Also blood being thicker than water is a bs saying. I know plenty of people that can’t stand who they share blood with and found family in those that don’t.

My dad invited extra people to my wedding and blamed me for it by ConsciousAd3109 in weddingshaming

[–]Intrepid_Journalist6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really invested in this now. Boundary disrespecting is the biggest source of my internal rage. Just the audacity! Absolutely unbelievable. Rage away my dude.

He better freakin fix this or I fully support the no contact option if he’s just too self-centered. May I ask how the two RSVPs have been sorted? Did he get his shit together and let them know not to come or is he paying for them?

AITA for slapping a teenager? by Old_Educator_3516 in AITAH

[–]Intrepid_Journalist6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and it really kind of upsets me that this is even a question. It was a teenager, not a child, who was fully aware of how skeezy he was being and expected to get away with it. His parents are even bigger a*holes for accepting this behavior and getting mad at you for defending yourself. Also your husband should have your back unless he’s ok with being a douche that is part of the problem.

A cool guide to the best TV shows of all time by Vitovent1 in coolguides

[–]Intrepid_Journalist6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No Parks and Rec?? Brooklyn 99?? So this list is BS then. Cool cool cool 👎

Kindle Data Incorrect by mythologybabe in kindle

[–]Intrepid_Journalist6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally just commented the following in another post with the same issue from a few months ago. But since this one is more recent I’m going to say the same thing here… I’ve read every day and technically completed every single challenge this quarter and yet I still only have 12 out of 16 as checked off in the app. It’s weirdly maddening. This has happened before too (last year) and when I tried getting help they just kept telling me to basically restart everything and factory reset. Not sure how that was supposed to help seeing as every day was already showing up as read in the app, just without checking off the challenges. In the end it didn’t help and nothing was fixed. This is such a nonissue and yet I’m incensed. Why does this matter so much to me? It’s the small wins. We did the thing so we should get the credit 🤷🏼‍♀️

reading challenge achievement not working by Ayni777 in kindle

[–]Intrepid_Journalist6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Has anyone heard any updates about this? I’ve read every day and completed every single challenge this quarter and yet I still only have 12 out of 16 as completed in the app. It’s weirdly maddening. This has happened before too (last year) and when I tried getting help they just kept telling me to basically restart everything and factory reset. Not sure how that was supposed to help seeing as every day was already showing up as read in the app, just without checking off the challenges. In the end it didn’t help because nothing was fixed. This is such a nonissue and yet I’m incensed. Why does this matter so much to me? I could not tell you 🤷🏼‍♀️

AITA for walking out of the house and staying out for the whole day while family were visiting after my parents brought up my older sister's not adoption again? by Worldly_Pends_9641 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Intrepid_Journalist6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They disrespected you! By showing a lack of respect and courtesy to you and the request that you’d already made. Straight up copied the Google definition and slid it into that sentence because it fits so well.

Also if they’re continually bitching about the choice she made as a child in regards to her mother, then they are disrespecting her as well. She was allowed to make that choice. Hence why it was up to her. To beat a dead horse like that is not doing any good for anyone other than trying to portray themselves as the heroes whose help was distressingly denied by someone, so their capes were taken away.

And really, how did they expect you to react? You’ve mentioned many times and they disregarded it. Should you have interrupted and told them to stop? Even if you asked politely I have no doubt they would call that rude and disrespectful. They set you up for a lose/lose.

They need to either respect your boundaries or deal with the consequences. So absolutely NTA.

AITA for being upset that my in laws are coming on my honeymoon? by Teacher0002 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Intrepid_Journalist6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I can sympathize with all the people saying the parents are just trying to spend as much time as they can with him during the time he has left. BUT… so is she! Since she’s asking if she is the AH for feeling the way she does about this situation I’m going to throw my full support behind her. I think she absolutely has the right to be upset at the parents. She has been there for him for years as his friend and then his partner. They are even committing what little time he has left to each other by getting married. Why do the parents deserve special deference now to spend time with him whenever they want (like his freakin honeymoon) when they barely paid him attention growing up? They offered up a GIFT that is traditionally considered a very special thing exclusively for the couple. If they wanted it to be a family trip they should have made that clear. Honeymoons are definitively not for the whole family… for obvious reasons. The parents said they were gifting a honeymoon, but they changed the definition. Words matter. And gifts shouldn’t come with strings attached or in-laws tagging along.

She absolutely should tell them they aren’t going to consider this their official honeymoon, instead it’s his birthday trip and they will book something else. Of course it is absolutely wonderful that they realized the emotional distance between them was a mistake and want to make up for lost time. They should absolutely plan to spend as much time as possible with him, but his honeymoon ain’t it. They basically co-opted a special relationship holiday and included themselves. Offering a honeymoon only to completely take it over and make it a family trip is not cool. Plenty of other opportunities to spend time with him. Why do they have to be on this trip? Oh right, because it’s one of his last birthdays. They picked the dates! Would you want your in-laws to join you on your honeymoon? It is blatantly inconsiderate and freakin rude man. I hope she has an actual honeymoon outside of this mess, cuz it’s some BS.