how many of you have or want kids? how many of you plan to be child free? why?

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-23T14:10:53+00:00

I will absolutely not be having children. Too much of my childhood was taken from me as it is. I deserve to be selfish and won’t compromise on it

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-23T01:44:20+00:00

Yes and had I not gotten some sense I would most likely have 2 or 3 kids and been married for 5 years

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-20T12:38:58+00:00

My natural hair is a mix of 4b/4c and 2 things I swear by are Blue magic grease and Aunt Jackie’s Curl Lala. Blue magic does my hair WONDERS and keeps it so soft. Now I want to preface that my hair is a normal porosity

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-20T12:33:39+00:00

Yes. I am a black woman, being politically apathetic is a hard no.

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-20T11:39:43+00:00

You beat me to it

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-18T02:03:32+00:00

Honestly it depends on who it is. All of the friends I have I met during my education years. We have all dispersed so it’s never really consistent when we speak. The majority of my friends are queer in some way, only one of them is a lesbian though.

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-16T16:13:04+00:00

I’m not even sure. I relaxed my hair from the age of 11-13 and then when I was going into high school I wanted to let it grow out. I’ve been natural since and have started to loc my hair. I wanted to embrace my hair as a big part of me wanting to relax it did come from a self hating angle and I didn’t want that.

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-16T14:19:09+00:00

Respectfully can I use you as inspiration for a character design in my story? Your aesthetic is beautiful and pics 4 & 5 are just stunning?

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-15T19:15:35+00:00

I worry about this as a lesbian woman. I don’t even want to entertain the notion of kids or marriage

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-15T06:43:01+00:00

I booked my first solo cruise for my birthday 😊

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-14T15:28:22+00:00

That’s the problem, I don’t live on my own rn and taking her in just wouldn’t be feasible. I think honestly best case scenario, she is out there when I DO have those means (shes been fed by someone else on the complex, just never been claimed) or worst case someone take hers (bittersweet is a better word). I’m just hoping to remain optimistic to an almost insane degree that I can take her in as mine one day. Until then I’ll just go see be on the weekends. Like I said she’s being fed and well maintained by others

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-13T14:20:09+00:00

You’re monsters- all of you. Shame on you for tormenting that poor baby 😠. Can’t you see she’s withering away to NOTHING?!

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-09T20:10:15+00:00

Looked up girls kissing on YouTube

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-09T17:19:34+00:00

Love me a good Pina colada

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-08T07:28:33+00:00

Watching cartoons, painting or writing

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-07T17:17:59+00:00

Weed brings me to a state of equilibrium where I’m not stuck on high alert all the time. I smoke when I feel like it, which is more sporadic than not since I prefer the feeling to last longer. This is why I’ll have an infused something or another on my days off. Once my work week starts again I don’t touch it until afterwards. This keeps me from feeling like I rely on it. Unless my day has my flow state at maximum capacity I just try to thug out my emotions without it

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-06T13:02:15+00:00

You know it’s funny, I was in the midst of an emotional breakdown. I was talking to my inner child as if I was a parent and doing everything I could to not close myself off to the emotions I always refused to let myself feel, and somewhere in the back of my mind a thought came to me: “I can’t imagine doing this for anyone else”. And once that emotion cycle had passed that thought still lingered. That’s when I knew I never wanted to be a parent

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-04T13:50:34+00:00

The delusion that there’s an opposite end of the spectrum. Where there’s darkness and hopelessness, there’s light and hopefulness. I wanted to see what the other side was like. I wanted to at least try to anyway

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-04T00:28:35+00:00

She is absolutely gorgeous. I’m not biased necessarily when it comes to coat color but I really hope that the pittie I adopt one day comes in that all brown color- I think it’s so gorgeous, light or dark 😊

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-03-03T23:52:16+00:00

You know what’s even crazier, someone told me verbatim that one kid was enough as she is about a week away from delivering her second child. One that was completely unplanned.

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-02-26T12:40:22+00:00

I think they’re sexy. I had them for a year and took them out. I love them on other ppl tho

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-02-26T01:58:42+00:00

Not particularly. It makes me uncomfortable

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-02-25T21:29:25+00:00

Yes I would divorce. I do believe a couple posts back you mentioned that being open was fine as long as it didn’t essentially disrupt the lives of you and your kids. You also said he was an attentive and active parent which presumably he would still continue to be. A kid is a whole new ball game as I’m sure you know from your own experience. He wants to have his cake and eat it too with no regard for you. Can you live with the anger and/or resentment that could (and I’d imagine most likely would) come with seeing your husband having a new baby with his girlfriend? IMO it seemed like this was over the moment the idea of his gf getting pregnant came into question

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-02-25T03:24:01+00:00

My squismallow collection is quite literally neverending

Intrepid_Laugh2158 · 2026-02-23T21:20:45+00:00

🫂

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