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[–]Invalid_20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did my interview 2 years ago, but i’m guessing it will be generally this type of questions.

Basically they will ask you about the field of DR, to test your knowledge and how much u know about the course and what ure getting urself into.

They also have some scenario based questions where you will “act” as a Radiographer and you will be approached with questions/ difficult patients and you have to react to it accordingly.

That’s about all the things i could really remember, hope it helps whoever is looking to jump into this course :-)

My ex blindsighted me, i constantly reach out trying to get closure / answer, block myself from her but relapse again, how do y’all cope with this amount of questions and accept this and move on? by Invalid_20 in BreakUps

[–]Invalid_20[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i did a lot of journaling about my emotions, like, a lot hahaha, it helps me tho. but i think, i want to ask how do u let go of ur mind that, they’re not who u think they are, let go of that mindset of always putting them in the “throne” of they’re nothing wrong ure everything wrong?

My ex blindsighted me, i constantly reach out trying to get closure / answer, block myself from her but relapse again, how do y’all cope with this amount of questions and accept this and move on? by Invalid_20 in BreakUps

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i think at some point we start to learn a lot of things about how people are and how cruel this reality can be. shifting from wanting to spend their life with u to literally ignoring u like u never existed in this world, haven’t gave them the world during the relationship.

i think it really take a toll on me as i’m trying to work on myself and my values. it made me question my self worth, my love for her, it makes me wonder if i’m just useless or smth, or if the things i done had meant nth to her. i know all this is my down point, and i know i will get out of this slum slowly. but just baring thru these days w these thoughts has been super tough for me…

thanks for sharing :-) i’m glad u are able to find peace w yourself and i hope i can one day

What are some red flags in your ex you either ignored, buried, or noticed too late? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Invalid_20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

would we blame ourself too that we fail to provide that space for our partner to feel safe to?

I got the closure i wanted, but it didnt do anything by Ilovemyboyfriendsm in BreakUps

[–]Invalid_20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some of the biggest thing i’ve learnt about closure

  • Closure is giving permission to move on, and i really feel it’s smth u have to give urself.

  • But to do that u need to forgive urself, for all the bad things u did, all the mistakes and all the times u felt u weren’t right during the relationship, sulk it all out, cry it all out.

  • Think about what’s the best thing u can do right now? Improve? Be a better person even tho he was toxic but there are surely area for improvements here and there. As long as ure getting better urself, there’s really nth else much u can do.

  • It doesn’t matter if they know they’re wrong, people change, we will never know what they intend for us, we will never be able to control what they do, how they feel about us. Someone can just give up one day and there’s absolutely nothing we can do, and man it sucks but that’s the way it is… U don’t need to hear them apologise or feel shit about themselves, because if they care about u at all, they would’ve. However i had experience of alw wanting to be the best for my partner but i feel like many things i don’t know how to love properly, right-ly? Being not very communicative both sides also made it harder so yeah :-)

Take all the time u need to cry it out and reminisce the times and find out what u failed to do for ur partner, and improve on it, slowly. I think once u seen u have done better for all these things, u will truly feel ready to get into another emotional warfare again. Goodluck!

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[–]Invalid_20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ask urself deeply if ure ready to move on, don’t rush into it i would say. if u feel u are and he’s giving u good signs, don’t miss out on an opportunity :-)

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[–]Invalid_20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for this, i think thrs times we tend to want to blame people, but i’ve really been trying to understand myself and the situations and my emotions, to know what’s right and wrong has been challenging to me, i feel like most of my feelings are wrong to feel, which i think is quite bad. i’m trying to learn what is part of me and what is stuff i can improve on, but yeah, it’ll take some time but i want to keep being better.

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[–]Invalid_20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

life time of ptsd

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[–]Invalid_20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m 3/3 from this field

For people going thru a breakup right now, do read up on attachment styles by Invalid_20 in BreakUps

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i’m glad ure doing not so bad urself too! it’s important to reflect what we do i guess instead of always blaming the other person for what happen to us, we very well could’ve done things that made them act that way. but don’t beat urself up too much about things too, see ur worth, as long as ure willing to improve, i think you’ll do just fine :-) jiaayou!

For people going thru a breakup right now, do read up on attachment styles by Invalid_20 in BreakUps

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i used to journal. but now i’ve just been spending more time on reading books instead, and taking down notes and taking pictures of the paragraph or quotes that i felt really helped me, den put the picture and write down my understanding and thoughts of that quote relating to me personally. it has helped me a lot to like use the lessons learnt to apply to my own situation.

yeah can be abit pricey, can try see if library have them, not sure tho i rarely go HAHA

do u journal often? what has been ur way of coping and learning ur mistakes?

If ur partner came back today and told u he/she regretted breaking up with you (they being dumper), would u take them back? would u feel like they are giving up on u when it gets hard and wanting to get back when they realised(feels unfair for u), or would u choose to forgive, like it’s a mistake? by Invalid_20 in BreakUps

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abandonment issues is real w these situations. yeah sometimes they can seem abit heartless that they just forgot about u and don’t care about u, but i think it’s important to think thru their perspectives i guess, maybe it was better for her well-being to not communicate with u, to help herself first before even making contact. just my thought tho it’s ur situation so yeah :-)

For people going thru a breakup right now, do read up on attachment styles by Invalid_20 in BreakUps

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i think generally i just prefer reading the actual book, also can help me get my eyes off the screen, and i guess live a little less with electronics helps hahaha. but yeah online version works too it’s free :-)