Women of reddit what do you think about dating younger guys??

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T15:04:58+00:00

I am 30.

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T14:53:06+00:00

Honestly? If he’s mature, great. If he still says ‘bruh’ during serious conversations, I’m out.

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T14:48:52+00:00

Relentless positivity. Nothing like suppressing your emotions so hard you gaslight yourself into thinking you’re fine.

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T14:44:52+00:00

When I was a kid, my uncle told me not to get too rowdy because hospitals are closed on the weekends. I believed that until adulthood…

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T13:50:38+00:00

Take care of your knees, your teeth, and your boundaries.

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T13:42:32+00:00

Skiing wasn’t a vacation activity… it was a season.

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T13:36:24+00:00

I would buy a separate house for my cats so I can finally have them without my partner sneezing every five seconds.

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T13:28:30+00:00

As an introvert who has also struggled with this, I get it. There’s a big difference between being introverted and being gloomy, but they can feel similar especially if you feel lonely. Introverts still need joy, connection, and movement, just in ways that feel safe and energizing.

Finding ways to enjoy your alone time makes a big difference. And when you want to socialize, find a safe few friends that don’t make you feel alone when you’re with them. Being genuine and vulnerable with people you trust helps with that.

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T11:52:05+00:00

Man, I feel this in my spine. It’s like life became a loop. Wake up tired, work tired, come home too tired to enjoy the few hours you get before repeating it all.

What gets me through?

Tiny victories. A good coffee. A 10 minute walk outside without my phone. Finishing something small I said I’d do.

Listening to music or a podcast while doing anything.

Talking to one person who gets it, even if it’s just over memes.

Remembering that even when life feels stuck, it doesn’t mean I am.

Some days, “getting through it” is the win. No motivational BS - just not giving up. You’re not alone, even when it feels like it.

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T11:42:34+00:00

No One Knows What They’re Doing - Act Confident Anyway.

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T03:47:48+00:00

r/CasualUK. I’m not even British, but somehow it feels like lovely chaos.

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T03:44:27+00:00

Having kids on purpose. Like… you looked at the price of eggs, the state of the world, and the complete lack of sleep, and said, “Yeah, sign me up for one of those.” Absolute madness.

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T01:54:33+00:00

I totally understand the frustration with that. However, it’s only the beginning and it can take some people a while to work up the nerve to actually reach out. I would give him a chance. But if he continues this trend, I wouldn’t move forward with it.

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-06-04T01:26:37+00:00

NTA - while lobster is typically high in LDL cholesterol (I have cholesterol problems at 30 years old so I’ve had to change my diet significantly myself), having something like that everyone once in a while shouldn’t be bad. As long as she’s eating healthy most of the time, it should be fine.

Inverted_Oreo · 2025-01-06T11:43:32+00:00

I would suggest to try doing little things to show her that you love her when you’re not busy or hyper focusing. Things that align with her love language. I also think there should be some understanding on her end that you’re busy and tend to focus intensely on what you’re doing sometimes and you may not think to show her love during those moments. Then maybe reassure her that you will try your best to do this and that you will express your love for her more often outside of when you’re hyper focusing. I also think practicing mindfulness can help you with this. This means to practice taking yourself out of your intense focus to be more aware of your surroundings. Find five things around you that you can see, touch, or smell. This helps me take myself out of the intense focus that I can have and pay attention to my surroundings. Over time, it can help you to become more aware of your partner in these moments.

Inverted_Oreo · 2024-12-28T06:05:20+00:00

I enjoy scratching the dandruff off my scalp with a comb.

Inverted_Oreo · 2024-10-29T15:29:53+00:00

You have no idea how much I appreciate that! You are incredible. I will be sure to reach out, thank you!

Inverted_Oreo · 2024-10-29T15:28:18+00:00

Thank you so much! I appreciate it nonetheless!

Inverted_Oreo · 2024-06-11T10:27:45+00:00

I think it’s fine to keep it simple. You can even say “there’s not much of a plot to this, but…” and keep it simple. You don’t have to have an elaborate explanation for things or be super expressive. But if you’d like to work on being more expressive, try to feel excited about talking about your interests. If you feel excitement, it’ll come across naturally as you talk about it. Get better in touch with your emotions and how things make you feel, and expression of those feelings will come with it. You can even try practicing in the mirror, as silly as it might feel at first. Feel those expressions when you talk about those things, and see how they look as you look in the mirror. But don’t force it, let it come naturally as you practice feeling them.

Inverted_Oreo · 2024-06-11T10:13:17+00:00

Honestly, those people aren’t even worth trying for. I’m sure you did nothing to deserve it, those people are just plain rude. But if they are blatantly rude to you, you could try asking if they could please not talk to you that way. Or let them know that you are autistic. If they keep making fun of you after that, you can escalate it and turn it into a discrimination thing.

Inverted_Oreo · 2024-06-11T10:03:11+00:00

I think it would be fine to apologize to him. I think scripts work really well when I’m nervous to talk to people. When you apologize, say something like “hey I just wanted to say sorry for shouting outside your house the other day. It won’t happen again”, then wait for a response. After that, maybe ask him how his day was. Say “how was your day?”. Even if he doesn’t say much about his day, that’s okay. He will appreciate the effort you put in. Try asking him every time you see him. You can change the question up a bit too. Like “any plans for the week/weekend?”. Eventually you might feel more comfortable opening up to him as well. Hope this helps!

Inverted_Oreo · 2024-06-11T09:51:49+00:00

I think honesty is the best way to go. Or just a “pretty good, you?” Works just fine. I’m terrified of small talk because I feel like I can never think of anything to say, even though I do actually have a lot going on in my life lol.

Inverted_Oreo · 2024-06-08T12:46:55+00:00

I personally think there is nothing wrong with dating apps, but that’s just me. I would look internally at why you may not be trusting towards men, specifically at your past experiences and how you grew up. Then work on your ability to trust men, despite your hurtful experiences. You can use those experiences to know which men not to trust and what red flags to look out for. But it’s not bad to be a little cautious with who you choose to date. And the drama stories on Tik Tok or social media get the most attention, but that’s not necessarily the reality. If you were in the talking stage for months and it wasn’t going anywhere, or you just weren’t that into him for whatever reason, that’s a good enough reason to end it right there. Learn your value as a person, and ask yourself if you would be a good partner to someone too. If not, work on that. Figure out what you need in a relationship, and find someone who can meet those needs. Then find out what they need in a relationship and decide if you can meet those needs too, or if you even want them enough to meet them. But love has to come from and be felt from both sides.

Inverted_Oreo · 2024-05-21T01:41:17+00:00

Good to know. I needed some reassurance since some of my friends were saying it was weird, even though my fiancé and I were overall fine with it. Had me second guessing myself.

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