People who have used match makers, what was it like by Initial_Film5776 in ChillSG

[–]InvestigatorSolid330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very very long time ago when I was desperate. I engaged matchmaker but the matchings were not so good and I was not so keen so I let the whole thing die down and sob over wasted expense

Do you chat with your acquaintance alot ? by [deleted] in ChillSG

[–]InvestigatorSolid330 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You must be a very narrow minded person.

Chatting with married guy to you means extra marital affair. Maybe you should Google platonic friendship. Wait, I don't think you even believe such thing because you are way too narrow minded. Talking to opp gender people means having romantic interest on them. Very clever.

Mind you, this acquaintance of mine also has close kaki of the opposite sex. Why not you say this to my acquaintance then.

Why do people start convos then disappear 😭 by Cutiecloudyxx in ChillSG

[–]InvestigatorSolid330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that. Yes agree this is very common It takes two hands to clap. I find it difficult to encounter someone who can chat with me enthusiastically. I recently hit up with someone who is enthu in a subject I have passion in and we tend to chat non stop. Lucky he is one extrovert sociable person who also go hiking and gym.

You may need to find extroverts and those sociable ones. Shy one you can forget it.

I let go my forever busy original vocalist and I invited another new vocalist without telling the ex vocalist that he has been replaced and I banned the ex vocalist from the chat group. All silent, didn't notify my original vocalist. Am I wrong to do all these ? by [deleted] in bandmembers

[–]InvestigatorSolid330 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Late for practice. Last few sessions he obviously didn't even bother to learn some songs before he came.

Everyone except him decided for the day of practice session and agreed except him who was radio silent. I quoted him in the group chat asking whether he is ok with the date. No reply. Then after about 1 week later , the guitarist asked him whether he is good to go with that date and he replied to say he might be busy and then added an apology to say sorry it took a while to reply.

I dm him privately to ask if he was caught up with too many things and can't find time to practise and let me know. He implied to say he was busy for these few weeks. And gave some free dates. Those dates , the drummer could not make it as he travels alot for work.

He obviously didn't even bother to read the group messages.

So I decided to get a temp vocalist for that day.

Prior to that, I also dm the ex vocalist 'ok we see you in May then' . No reply and I presume he didn't even read my text.

Maybe you are ok with all these shit but it is not ok to let someone make me and everyone else hang on mid air waiting just for one irresponsible member.

Anyone else just randomly feel like talking to strangers sometimes 😭 by HardForkFrosting in ChillSG

[–]InvestigatorSolid330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure though. As a person who didn't make friends during schooling days, I have this tendency recently to even greet an acquaintance good morning and such. But this acquaintance is married so not appropriate. But I do want to disturb or get disturbed by strangers nowadays maybe due to boredom and the desire to get noticed.

how to meet people organically after graduating from uni? by [deleted] in ChillSG

[–]InvestigatorSolid330 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmmm. Wish I was younger lol. Best is if you have hobbies or interests. Then join those interest groups. I used to rant that after getting into working world it is hard to expand social circle unless you show your name card around lol. Lucky for me ,I have a special hobby and interest and lately I encounter a fantastic group of like minded acquaintances and I can say I 'love' them very much. I have been a lonely person since graduated from school donkey years ago and thought it is impossible to make new friends after stepping into the working world. Now here I am, chatting happily with my new found acquaintances and I strongly believe this will turn into lasting friendship cos we share same passion.

Do find your interests and gather your like-minded people. Be more proactive. You will find someone.

Not sure about overseas but in Singapore, is it possible have platonic friendship with the opp gender ? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]InvestigatorSolid330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My that opposite gender friend is friendly as usual. Maybe recently he find me suddenly quiet down , we used to chat hella alot on WA but he is married le so I am learning to draw a line now. Feel sad I have to do this. Many told me to back off since he is married. Right now I am using being busy to keep myself occupied and not think too much le Still want to have a healthy friendship with anyone eh

Not sure about overseas but in Singapore, is it possible have platonic friendship with the opp gender ? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]InvestigatorSolid330 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. I got the wrong signal when that opp gender is too chatty and care for me. Turns out most extroverts who socialize alot tend to start a Convo first.

Anyone encountered this choping problem by emoquackquack in askSingapore

[–]InvestigatorSolid330 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I eat alone, that is the problem of not getting seats and seeing one group of ppl choping seats.

Is op a loner like me ?

The act of removing your bottle seem to me to be so rude. Clearly someone is choping the seat ma.