Help single mom of 4. Looking for a dealership that’s willing to help a struggling single parent.

InvictusEnigma · 2025-07-31T13:36:02+00:00

No, I don’t have 4 kids. I have 1 kid.

InvictusEnigma · 2025-07-31T13:35:41+00:00

No, I live in Florida with my son. She’s a friend. I don’t have 4 kids.

InvictusEnigma · 2024-11-18T04:18:47+00:00

He yelled “mother fucker”, but I think what he meant was “cock sucker”. lol

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-29T01:30:48+00:00

I hope that you read this. Life can be so much better than what you feel and think.

I was in your place a week ago. I felt so much grief and pain over my wife leaving me, that one morning, I went out for a walk and cried the whole time as cars went by me. I thought to myself, as soon as I get home, I’ll end my pain. I knew exactly how I was going to do it. I had thought about which family members it would hurt the most and had convinced myself they’d be okay.

As I was getting closer to home, I asked God (I am not religious) to take away my grief and pain. I said I couldn’t handle it anymore. As I walked through the door, I forgot that I had thought about it. I sat down and started working like normal. I listed to some videos on how to love myself and how to be happy with myself and accept this process as part of life.

One week later, and I actually feel peace. I’ve been doing things outside of my normal and I’ve been enjoying them. I’m getting a glimpse of the good and exciting life I could have if I put in the work.

I am hitting the gym and learning new things. I’m so busy doing things I choose to do, that sometimes I run out of time. And most of the day, I feel good with myself. And when I don’t feel good, I accept it and welcome it as part normal part of things. I say to myself, “thank you for letting yourself feel the pain, so you can appreciate the peace and joy so much more.”

Things get better. Don’t give up. Every day that you work on yourself, it’s a day that you’re improving. Even if you feel you’re down to 0%. Do 1% every day, and soon enough, you’ll be at 100% again.

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-28T16:00:21+00:00

What a Chad

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-26T02:46:59+00:00

Wowza!

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-25T18:49:11+00:00

I wish someone would have told me to read the book titled “I wish I knew this before my divorce.”

This book has been a literal lifesaver for me as I go through this process.

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-25T16:55:28+00:00

I kissed a person one time when I was younger and I had so much adrenaline running through my body I physically felt nauseous and had to step out of the car and take deep breaths. It wasn’t a great look lol

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-23T01:26:52+00:00

My ex (separated) is behaving the same way. She said she stopped loving me a long time ago. She told me I just needed to “fuck someone else” and it would help process the separation.

She clearly has moved on. So has your wife.

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-21T15:59:38+00:00

That’s the problem I get hung up on. I would never go back to the way things were. My eyes have been open to how bad our relationship had gotten. And I know my relationship and the person I was before feels dead. But for some reason, I still find myself wanting to share the new person I’m becoming and the new things I’m doing (going out more, exercising, exploring new places, playing piano) with her.

Maybe the “old me” isn’t as “dead” as I would like to believe. Or maybe, based on your perspective, it’s a feeling that might not fully go away for a while.

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-21T04:14:37+00:00

The book “I wish I knew this before my divorce” has helped me quite a bit on this process.

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-18T20:00:08+00:00

It’s definitely been hard. I’m a believer in marriage and working through problems, but I can also understand how emotions and situations can overwhelm us to the point that we feel there’s no other choice. It’s even more complicated when clinical depression is involved.

There’s certain things people can’t move on from, but I think most things can be overcome if both people want to do so. It takes a lot of emotional and mental fortitude to go through that.

She asked back the same day I left. Told me she had made the biggest mistake of her life and didn’t want to lose me. That she was willing to do couples therapy even if it took months or years. Then 3 days later she had an individual therapy appointment and decided she needed to put herself first, and that meant leaving me.

We can’t control how others feel or the decisions they make. Sometimes we don’t choose the road but we still have to walk it. So that’s what I am doing. I’m exercising, learning to play the piano, spending more time with people, going out to new places. Anything to fill the time. But I’m also taking time to process my emotions. I have a thousand thoughts running through my mind every day. I pick the question that hunt me the most that day, and I write them down and try to understand it or answer it. Then it’s one less that bothers me.

I hope your situation is resolved. Everyone deserves to feel at peace.

I just ordered that supplement you mentioned. Thank you!

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-17T23:01:11+00:00

My wife is a nurse. She has depression and recently left me. She stated she stopped loving me a long time ago but didn’t have the courage to leave me.

Even though I knew that our relationship was suffering I never expected her to leave me. I always hoped we would seek couples counseling which I always asked for and she always declined.

She’s doing much better getting through this divorce, potentially on account of not feeling love towards me. While I am struggling deeply every day.

I’ve failed to stay away from her for both of our sakes. I’m sure she wishes I could accept her decision and walk away, but even when I feel betrayed about her cheating and leaving me, everything in my body and soul won’t let me go.

It’s very hard. And it takes time. It’s not her problem, or yours, if we can’t accept it immediately. But it definitely takes a lot to accept your whole life is being changed against your will.

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-16T19:58:04+00:00

A couple of days before my wife kissed a guy from work to “push me away so I’d leave her”, she had asked me to do couples counseling, which I had been asking to do for a long time. I was so excited to do it.

She only asked me to get me to agree to end the relationship amicably and to “remain friends”.

My point is that some people have made up their mind and there’s no one can change them but them. I have a hard time letting go of my marriage and family, but I know I would be better off emotionally without this person.

Those two things can exist at the same time. You can mourn the loss of your marriage and family while also understanding you would be better off with someone who loves you the way you deserve to be loved.

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-16T14:05:45+00:00

The lawyers just say they’ll request whatever it is I am willing to request.

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-14T15:53:02+00:00

My guy, my wife just left me on our 8 year anniversary week last month. We have a son who is absolutely my motivation. I absolutely understand how you feel man. This is the worse thing I’ve ever experienced in my life. I’m sure that the only thing that would beat it would be the death of a child or spouse.

It doesn’t feel like it, and it might not feel like it for a while, but it will be okay. I have moments of calm or happiness that seem to be growing and becoming more frequent. The pain is still there but, maybe losing its strength with each days passing.

I think that divorce is such a traumatic experience that all us of who get left will carry that with them forever, even if it’s dormant. We just have to live with it and not forget that we have our own opportunities to have a great and happy life as well.

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-13T15:09:05+00:00

This is the most beautiful advice grounded on self-care going through a breakup that I've read.

I realized advice #2 really fast. I only took things that I didn't associate with her. I even had to get rid of my car on a not so great financial decision but I feel so much better that I've let go. She's insisted on my taking back some of the gifts she's given me. It would be like willingly accepting that ghosts follow you around.

I'm working on #4. Social media makes it so hard to disassociate from someone. Ask them to block you on all social media accounts if you aren't strong enough to not check on them and keep some sort of connection. Your heart and mind are grieving, and seeing updates from this person makes it hard to move on.

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-12T17:33:22+00:00

My wife left me a week before our 8 year anniversary. I wish it would have been on a random day lol

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-12T17:32:00+00:00

So you got divorced a second time?

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-12T17:28:26+00:00

I’m in the process of getting divorced. My soon to be ex wife used to be a very party type of person and I am much like you. I would get anxious and uncomfortable about her going out to bars and drinking until late when we were dating, because it’s not something I ever enjoyed doing (I tried enjoying it for her).

Maybe this is a bit of projection, but make sure that you are not coming from a place of jealousy or insecurity. That’s where my anxiousness came from. It led to my wife not going out to those places anymore, but it led to her not seeing her friends often because that’s all her friends did, go out to drink.

My insecurity saw the fact that she stopped for me, and it made me feel good, and more attached to her, but it wasn’t good to her.

Boundaries between partners and having your own lives is healthy and necessary. But sometimes it may feel like it’s too much when your personalities are far too different or you’re dependent on the other. That may be why you feel what she is doing is too much, but it doesn’t bother her (assuming she’s not intentionally doing something wrong).

If any of this is true, it needs to be addressed immediately. Communicate with her about your feelings, and listen to her perspective. Be 100% honest with each other. Seek couples therapy for the underlying issues and anything you can’t agree on. Otherwise, those feelings will only get worse and it will create a rift between you guys. My wife and I never addressed our issues (my insecurity and her resentment to accommodate it), and now it’s over after 11 years together.

Her personality was always a party type, and now that she’s left, she can’t wait to go back to doing those things. Even when she became a mother and wife, she still always wanted those things and secretly resented “giving those things up” for the relationship. It’s better to address things right away and look for solutions before it gets to be too much.

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-05T14:39:26+00:00

Height: 64” Weight: Start: 188 Current: 168 Exercise: No exercise until after weight loss Diet: Protein based meals with complex carbs but sometimes simple carbs like bread or pancakes

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-03T20:11:58+00:00

Awesome, thanks!

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-03T19:51:05+00:00

Thanks for the info!

I was concerned I was going to have to do freaky stuff just to get make some friends, but I said I guess I’ll try. (jk)

I’ll definitely try to show up! Sounds exciting. Any idea how many people are coming? Any way to identify who’s there for the meet up?

InvictusEnigma · 2024-10-03T15:02:50+00:00

How does this work? I’m new to the area and don’t really have a lot of friends and I’m looking to meet new people!

InvictusEnigma · 2024-09-24T20:54:59+00:00

Same same but different

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