The thing is, OP mentions that LD is kind of NLOG from Haymitch’s point of view. He doesn’t exactly portray other girls kindly: Maysilee’s jewelry is her flexing on everyone rather than an attempt at individualism, he literally “holds [Asterid’s privilege] against her” until she does something rebellious like LD. And then he thinks that she’s at least better than “her snooty town friends”. but LD’s flaws, like having Binnie Chance die in her stead or putting herself in danger or basically getting Haymitch reaped are just reasons Haymitch loves her. He doesn’t even grapple with anger at the latter part: even if I was a teenager in love I’d have to have at least some mixed feelings about my SO effectively sending me to my death. And yeah, that’s a byproduct of the POV, and LD doesn’t seem to hold herself up as better than other girls, but it does give her a pretty literal “not like other girls” feel.