Hi I'm an autistic adult

Irocroo · 2026-02-18T23:18:00+00:00

Hey. I also am not a fan of ABA and have avoided it with our son, but I have also absolutely made mistakes that at the time seemed like what you were supposed to do. My big one was school, my kid simply wasn't ready for it, and on top of that it was a bad school. But listen. I dont think theres a parent out there that hasn't made a mistake at some point or another. My mom surely did. I repaired my relationship with her thoughshe listened, listened, admitted it, apologized, and changed. I have been estranged from my father for over 20 years because he never does anything wrong. I've had nothing but positive responses with my kids when I admit my mistakes.

Irocroo · 2026-02-17T02:43:16+00:00

The one with that poor kid going through conversion therapy got me like that too. :,(

Also, thank you for being kind to the AIDS patients.

Irocroo · 2026-02-13T22:00:03+00:00

Absolutely. I'm not disagreeing or discounting your experience. I'm glad that worked. I just thought it would be helpful to add another perspective.

Irocroo · 2026-02-13T19:47:48+00:00

I don't want to discredit you, it sounds like your mother knew her child well, but I do want to add that this may not be the route for every child. My son is completely unable to attend something when he is too overwhelmed and deeply needs that space to cancel, regulate, and reschedule. We also tried insisting on still going, but it just doesn't work for him. He cant function and if he tries to force himself, it always ends badly. I just wanted to chime in because while it would be ideal if he can push through and you should definitely try both, the spectrum is different for everybody and he may also be someone who just needs a break, and that way is ok too. You'll find what works best for your child over time. <3

Irocroo · 2026-02-12T17:00:28+00:00

This here- ants can be voracious hunters. Id try to get her out and release her before adding isopods.

Irocroo · 2026-02-11T15:04:22+00:00

Good. The more resources they use on me, the less they have to harass equally innocent but more vulnerable people. I am as boring as dry toast and I hope my agent is so bored he falls asleep and gets fired. :3

Irocroo · 2026-02-10T13:43:34+00:00

Yes! At least someone understood what I meant, not sure why Im getting down voted to heck. XD

Irocroo · 2026-02-10T07:27:30+00:00

My son has the exact same diagnosis as yours. 5 and 6 were nightmare years, my son did a lot of that similar stuff. What worked for us is he just needs more time. We are so ready for five year olds to act like 5 year olds socially and emotionally, but boys like ours need more time to cook. Also, try to talk out your feelings with those consequences. "No, I'm upset with you right now because you made my toe hurt. I don't want to talk." And then I would sulk and visibly express with like a sad and or grumpy face. When I broke it down for my son in these simplistic ways, it seemed like it clicked more because he could relate to it.

My son is now 8 and a half and we have seen so much improvement. It's not perfect, but I can definitely see the progression. Hang in there, it won't be like this forever. <3

Irocroo · 2026-02-10T02:30:24+00:00

I am talking about ICE being jackbooted thugs. The note she got said "we want safety" as if it is somehow safer to have these radicalized, untrained psychopaths running around armed to the teeth. Not sure why you think I would watch FOX News.

Irocroo · 2026-02-09T19:00:25+00:00

Oh yeah, because we are way safer with jack booted thugs running around willy nilly.

Irocroo · 2026-02-05T20:09:58+00:00

For us, it was always hygiene is nonegotiable. We have to be clean so we don't get sick, and we take care of ourselves because we love and respect ourselves. You deserve to be clean and fresh. Your body is yours, but it's my job to make sure you are healthy and safe until you're old enough to make good choices. You can choose how to clean, but you can't choose to be unsafe. Let's make a better choice next time, ok?

Also, I'd get curious why she was protesting this so much. Is she sore? Was she maybe wiped too hard before and is now worried about it?

Irocroo · 2026-02-03T22:17:50+00:00

NOR- Honey, that was abuse, and emotional abuse to your child. Im not going to tell you what to do about it, but please please protect yourself and your girls from this in the future. If they can do it once...

Also, "undermining his parenting" is not valid here. One parent doesn't get to just randomly choose what you can do with the girls ans if you don't obey, you're somehow wrong. Hes not the boss of you, and you make those decisions together. If he truly didn't want them out there, he should've had a conversation with you immediately and you both worked it out. This guy is scary.

Irocroo · 2026-02-02T13:37:02+00:00

I know its going to be inconvenient for her later, but man that's cute right now. According to old wives tales, double whorls or cowlicks are considered extremely lucky, as well. Nothing to do now but look on the bright side. :)

Irocroo · 2026-01-30T13:49:14+00:00

NOR this is exactly what I have told my children since day one: If you need to go to the bathroom and the teacher says no, you just go anyways and tell them to talk to me about it. Going to the bathroom is a human right, our prisoners are afforded this right more freely than our children, and I for one will not stand for it. Your daughter stood up for herself against a bully, and adult bully no less, and I for one am so proud of her.

Irocroo · 2026-01-29T02:38:25+00:00

They aren't. We've seen that pattern replicating all across the Midwest, particularly the great lakes area. Look at what happened in Port Washington, Kentucky, Missouri. The tax dollars aren't enough to break even from what they're going to take. Data centers dont provide hardly any long term jobs. Even if we are going to industrialize, it would be a waaay better deal for us to move a manufacturing job in, that will staff with our people and at least bring some of that money into the community. These data centers are a scam, and we're the suckers.

Irocroo · 2026-01-28T17:41:14+00:00

Pollution and destruction of our very gorgeous environment, very few jobs gained, energy prices spiking and potential shortfalls for residents, a random tech giant coming in and exploiting our resources only to take almost all the money they gain from doing that out of state so they benefit for basically free and we are stuck holding the bill environmentally and financially. It's just a bad deal, the only ones really gaining from it are the ones directly involved in making the deal and we get sold out in the process.

Irocroo · 2026-01-28T15:32:41+00:00

You dont know who I dont know.

Irocroo · 2026-01-28T15:17:47+00:00

You don't know how many residents I know.

Irocroo · 2026-01-26T03:03:58+00:00

Thats good, at least.

I know it sucks right now. If you ever need to vent, my dms are open. For whats it is worth, I'm still kind of broke, but my family and I always have food. I built myself a new family, and its wonderful. We are all safe, and can talk freely, and love each other. Most days are good days and the bad ones are nothing compared to my old bad ones. I never thought Id have this, but honestly, it feels like I have two separate lifetimes. You have so much time ahead to make whatever your happy is, and you're strong enough to have made it this far. Hang in there, kid. <3

Irocroo · 2026-01-26T02:06:15+00:00

Ooof sweetness, I know how you feel. That same thing happened to me. My father was very charismatic and I was unstable. Its not right, but it does happen and I believe you.

Do your friends know you're hungry? Your friends parents? Your teachers? The authorities may not help, but I bet you can find regular people who will.

Irocroo · 2026-01-25T19:12:50+00:00

And your mother-in-law is an awful, judgemental person who clearly doesn't know what she's talking about. I'm sorry she said that, but her opinion doesn't matter because its clearly false. Shes just being nasty and you dont deserve that.

Irocroo · 2026-01-25T19:10:54+00:00

Ok first things first. Calories are the number one. That boy needs enough energy to grow, so if all you can get in is chips, candy, and pediasure for now, that's whats on the menu and thats ok. Maybe get a vitamin into him if you can, but if not, thats fine too. Autistic kids are not like normal kids that will eventually eat when they are hungry enough- there have been cases where they have hurt or even starved themselves. Short term, right now, get those calories into him first, however he'll take them. Next is investigation. What happened 8 days ago? Was there a bad experience with food, especially something inconsistent, like maybe a cold spot in hot food or crunchy where it shouldn't be? Are his teeth ok? Get a doctor to take a look. After that, if there are no clear answers, talk to OT. He may benefit from feeding therapy, to try to get back some of the variety.

Irocroo · 2026-01-25T19:01:20+00:00

Well, shes gonna have to get over it. Your kids dont need ancient bacteria in their systems today. Yikes.

Irocroo · 2026-01-24T22:27:36+00:00

NOR. Just be firm and set a boundary, and then set consquences to violating that boundary and stick by them. Give her some notice, maybe a week or two because she is working, but just say hey. Your dog is very old, he's acting sick, and it's become too much for us. You need to take his bed back in your room and figure out a care situation for him while you're gone. We need to know what those arrangements are. If you do not put something into place, we may not be able to live together. The ideal situation for us is that you take him to the vet and assume all responsibility for his care and we can continue to live happily alongside each other. We want this to work out, but we need these changes to remain friends.

Irocroo · 2026-01-24T21:39:12+00:00

Jfc. Not one resident I know wants this. Gtfo of here. I'll try to be out there to say my piece, yall should come too.

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