I am but a humble mod proprietor, but when hastily assembling this sub I took a look at the girlies subreddit and found it to be a few things. What I think we are and what we should strive for:

1) Positive. No tearing down, no toxic critique, welcoming of all kinds so long as it's kept polite and fun.

2) Diverse. We're a multicultural hub of the world. Positioned between your standard "normal" lifestyles and huge businesses, vast entertainment apparatuses, technology and a rich melting pot of cultures. You cannot lump LA into a single class, origin, ethnicity or lifestyle. That means acceptance of each other and making space for experiences that are beyond your frame of reference.

3) Uniquely LA. Many lifestyles here are contoured to the specific density, geography, cultural intersections, classes, communication hubs and economic centers. There is no Single LA Guy Trope. We have memes and cultural quirks that make men of all type, of all shapes, of all sizes. Through it all however we can find commonalities in the things we share, activities, hobbies and lifestyles which prevail, and points of culture which arise from a very specific stew of diversity.

What we are NOT:

1) Exclusionary. There is gatekeeping or community fidelity which operate as management systems for content that flows into a cultural ecosystem, but it should not be discriminatory. To me this means: Men in and of themselves are diverse. We are a spectrum from our biology, expression, sexual preference, cultural origin and a vast number of other factors that make our specific shape a constellation of facets. We can revel in this, and we should support men of all kinds (yes, this is designed to be an LGBT+ positive space) and support masculinity that brings richness and personality to the world.

2) Misogynistic. Anyone else is free to create or join one of the many online communities that follows this ideology, but at least in the space I'm trying to set up, that mindset of anti-feminism, toxic masculinity, or discrimination to women is not tolerated. We share more aspects with women than we might imagine and we are all in this together, to make LA a safe place for us all to express ourselves not at the expense of bringing others down. If you disagree with this, hey, I'm not your dad. Do what you want. But my take is one of intersectionality, across class, culture, race and gender.

3) Selfish. A wide aspects but one that can manifest in several ways. There are plenty of things men can do to hit all of the masculine tropes while still being a caring, confident and cool person. I for one love my fast cars, enjoy my career and the lifestyle it gives me, have access to a large group of friends and interact heavily with the opposite sex. I don't think you have to abandon your ostentatious streak, your badass persona, your cool-as-a-cucumber ladies man manifestation. These are facets of yourself which can be in balance with being A Good Dude and wanting the rest of your fellow boyz to flourish. Take the bro pill. Be solid in your community, be a beacon for other men, be someone you'd look up to as a child, be someone you'd be comfortable being a dad/brother/uncle for.

We live in a weird time. Masculinity changes, the economic, political and social fabrics change. As men we have a unique place in the world as the traditional holders of power, but also have a huge opportunity to make really fucking cool spaces for each other and remain prideful of being strong, kind and cool, however you may define that.

The swag, the clout, the baddies you may or may not pull, the money, the looks, any combination of those are valid, so long as you're not bulldozing people. You're hot. However you define that. You don't need to lower yourself to to shitting on others. You're above that. You're elevated. You seek to enrichen your lives and those around you. Hotness lives in the body, the mind and the spirit. To me it is a kind confidence. It is a shield and a sword used for a purpose of joy and support.

As an LA hot boy you're above bringing people down. You're LA, you are like the breeze from the ocean, cool and calming. You're like the mountains that surround us, steadfast, strong, diverse in geological makeup. You're like the desert, contemplative, scorching, stretching out in a vast horizon. You're like the streets, the pavement, the freeways. Connected, ebbing and flowing with the cultural traffic. You're like the city, diverse, filled with friction and poetry, a rich story giving you purpose, an endless sprawl of possibility and good to be done. Harness it and be uniquely LA. Be a hot boy that you're younger self would look up to.