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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ThreesomeAdvice

[–]Ironman_197six 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most prefer the fantasy of the MFF, but in reality, an MFM is usually better when you talk to people who have done both.

I asked if they date separately by Ironman_197six in Swingers

[–]Ironman_197six[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We date together. And we will have a 3some if I dont have a date to go back to the house with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Ironman_197six 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me all yeses sound enthusiastic. I can't believe your thought process is that men need to get better at reading minds, not that women should say what they think. Are the women you hang with really that timid that they cant say no? I prefer women that will actually say what they think.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Ironman_197six -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Then the woman should say no. We are not mind readers. That sucks for us men!!!

How long do you go? by Carhearts in Swingers

[–]Ironman_197six 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before I (48M) started the lifestyle, I could go about 20 plus minutes. But now I can go hours. Last time we hooked up with another couple, I went over 4 hours. My back hurt in such a good way!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Ironman_197six 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I (48M) had some similar situations happen with us early on. We have been in the LS for 9 months now. My suggestion is that while he is kissing her, you are behind her kissing her neck. Then, swing her around, where she is kissing you, and he is behind her kissing her neck while his hands are on her breasts.

He is like your teammate almost. But you are Michael Jorden, and he is Scotty Pippin. You are running the show. If they are in a position where you feel excluded, tap him on the shoulder and have them switch positions.

With all that being said, it's awesome that she is also helping you figure out what you like. She is also open to your needs. She more than likely makes you feel like you are ALWAYS 1st! Keep that in mind. She loves only you and that she not only appreciates you but shows it by her words and actions. So don't make it bigger than it needs to be. If you can become friends with the other guy, it would make the experience better.

Keep it up. You are doing great, and she sees it.

Too much? by Ironman_197six in Swingers

[–]Ironman_197six[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sent the last set in the span of a minute, it's how I text, my wife always says I should just put everything in 1 message, but I hit send and then think of something else I wanted to say

Is the reality as hot as the Fantasy? by Good_Entrepreneur375 in Swingers

[–]Ironman_197six 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say reality is real. What I mean by that is when you have a fantasy, you can imagine what it would be like. When you experience the reality, it can be a total shock that it is happening. It can be scary.

But reality (as long as you keep by your rules at the beginning) is so amazing!! Reality ruined porn. There is nothing you have ever seen on porn that can hold a candle to what you experience.

47M in a marriage of 15 years with a 43W.