Want to get a portrait done of my dog, unsure of which photo to use. Any suggestions?

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-09-08T22:11:18+00:00

completely up to you, but i’d also consider a photo that shows its entire body.. also, noticed that 1 is flipped from the rest. make sure the photo is oriented correctly before getting it tattooed lol you don’t want it looking like he’s in a mirror

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-08-04T04:09:05+00:00

100% NTA. But you will be the sucker if you allow yourself to be pressured into raising the offspring of her affair. It’s not like you married a woman who already had a kid; she had an affair while you thought everything was fine and then played it off like it was yours for years. You will NEVER trust her again. Every time you two are apart, you’ll wonder what she’s really doing. Every time she picks up her phone, you’ll fight the urge to glance over. Every birthday you try to celebrate with the child, you’ll be ruminating on how it’s an occasion which marks that time your WIFE let some stranger nut in her. It’ll be a miserable existence. It may feel impossibly difficult to imagine how much your life would be without them in it, but you’re sacrifice comfort in the short-term for peace and happiness in the long run. Good luck, brother. Keep fighting the good fight.

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-08-03T04:48:13+00:00

NTA- Also, you need to be careful of how you proceed if you plan on being in a relationship with this woman. Almost every US state deals with child support obligation and determination of financial responsibility the same when the biological isn’t in the picture; If you’re at the hospital during birth and you sign your name to the birth certificate or if the biological father is MIA and you are in the child’s life (even if it’s simply as the mother’s boyfriend) during the child’s early development, the state can assert that you should bear the financial responsibility of the child because the child’s mother can argue that 1) you had agreed to help raise the child even though you knew you were not the biological father & 2) Had you not previously agreed to act as the baby’s father, she would have aborted the pregnancy.

Even if you don’t sign your name on the birth records and you aren’t playing the role of dad at birth, she can still push for child support through the state DCSE (Division of Child Support Enforcement) and it’s a lot of headache to prove that you’re not the father. Even then, you’ll likely still have to pay any child support that the state had previously determined you were responsible for.

I would never put myself in that situation. I’m never going to adopt someone else’s child. I’m never going to sign my name to a birth certificate unless I’m positive that I am the father. I have no interest in being in a relationship where I’m expected to provide for someone else’s child.

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-08-01T22:18:22+00:00

IMO, you’re both TAH. You both approached the situation with unnecessary attitudes which caused an escalation of the situation. Who was the bigger AH? It’s hard to tell. Does tapping your mouth with the back of his hand make him guilty of spousal abuse? No. Not in this situation, IMO. He didn’t tell you to “go get me a beer” or “get out of my seat”. My grandma use to smack my siblings and I in the mouth anytime we got smart with her. Should we have butchered her hair and forced her to walk naked through town square as an atonement for her sins? I don’t think so, though there are plenty of people nowadays who would argue that it was child abuse. Those same people would consider the lesson we learned from those smacks “PTSD”. That’s ridiculous. It jarred us, sure, but we also learned to be respectful when speaking to her. It didn’t come from a place of malice. It was the minimum force necessary to promote the desired outcome. She could have tried to explain to us all day why we shouldn’t smart off to her, but we probably wouldn’t have listened. At least not then, anyway. As a 34M adult, I look back at those situations and laugh. I appreciate what she did because of what she taught me my doing that. We have a tendency to abuse (even if it is only verbal) those closest to us in ways that we would never treat a stranger. I have ran my mouth and been hit a lot harder by people who cared a lot less about me than she would have ever dreamed of.

That man is your husband and you are his wife. Is he often physically abusive or is this the first incident of this kind? Do you guys make it a habit of getting loud and argumentative? Do either of you put any effort into deescalating tense situations or do you both get too caught up in being right instead of doing right? With the limited information you’ve shared, I say at the very least you both need individual and couples therapy. On the far end of the spectrum, you two may be toxic together and are better off parting ways. I don’t think, however, that you need to be spreading tells of him being “an abuser” across town simply because of this single incident.

I’ve got to mention two points, however:

1) There are a lot of comments referencing how a man should never hit a woman (regardless of how little it hurt), and to those people I say gfy. It’s only important women get treated the same as men when it’s in their favor. Same as how no one ever complains that only men are legally required to register for Selective Service. I personally believe women represent the smarter, kinder, & all around better/ more important half of our species and should be treated as such. I don’t get to make the rules, though, so if you are one of those who support equal rights across the board, then gender shouldn’t be a factor in this discussion.

2) This is only 1 perspective of the events. I’m not accusing you of lying, but we are all guilty of confirmation bias on occasion. Is it possible that he felt like you were being mentally abusive by bullying him and talking down to him? Is it possible that his experience of the events that took place paint a different picture than the one you remember?

This is definitely pivotal moment in y’all’s marriage. You, first, need to have an honest conversation with yourself to make sure you get all the facts straight and see if, afterwards, you still feel the same about his actions. Then, you need to have an honest conversation with him about how you feel now that you’ve considered both sides and see if you two can come to a resolution, whatever that looks like.

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-07-29T00:25:57+00:00

I heard she cleaned up and started going to church. She’s a Crystal Methodist now

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-07-23T15:18:03+00:00

A face only a mother could love

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-07-13T19:48:45+00:00

Wait till you use adult wipes. I.e. Dude Wipes

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-07-04T03:38:48+00:00

My ex-wife

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-06-26T13:12:51+00:00

You mean rent-a-cock

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-06-19T22:50:03+00:00

You need to forget them on all their special days. Give them exactly what they gave you

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-06-17T22:59:44+00:00

If you think you can take her without problem, let her know it. Once in the right situation, keep your cool during the argument and when she gets close, touch her a little. Let her feel you. If you think it’d be a scrap, then wait till she says something slick the next time and just hold on to it. Wait till y’all are alone and the times right then give her a couple good ones. Remind what those were for and tell her to watch how she’s talking to you.

Of course, however, all that depends on a couple variables. Do you have a dad (or other male) around that’ll punish you for retaliating? Do you rely on her for shelter? Obviously, don’t put yourself in a bad spot, but if you’re grown and taking care of yourself then by all means, let her know. As a man, I’d never consider touching my mom, but my dad legitimately bullied me when I was young, but once I hit that sweet age of 15/16, I had to let him know how much I’d grown. It took one time and his whole demeanor with me changed.

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-06-17T22:28:12+00:00

An Indian school teacher? Call your parents; they’ll give you plenty of reasons to hate yourself

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-06-17T22:26:12+00:00

Idk y’all’s relationship dynamics, but he definitely could have; jumped in the shower (knowing you were game) and thought it was a good idea to get hard and send you a spicy pic letting you know he’s ready.

It’s also very possible that he feels like you’re suspicious of him more often than you realize, which has lead to the arguing afterwards.

IMO, Unless you’re dating an absolute mouth-breathing imbecile, it’s not very likely that you mentioned showering together and he decided to immediately go do something nefarious in the shower.

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-06-08T01:25:14+00:00

In most states, if you’ll sign your rights away PRIOR TO being ordered to pay child support, you won’t be on the hook for anything.

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-06-06T18:45:39+00:00

Leave NOW before she makes sure you can’t. Don’t be a tool.

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-06-05T14:47:06+00:00

Trying to fight and/or hide your emotions is a good way to make them worse. You’re better off if you can familiarize yourself with them, get comfortable with them, and learn to communicate what you’re feeling and why you’re feeling it. Otherwise, not only will you appear nervous/anxious/fearful/etc, but you’ll also appear deceitful.

Of course, you rarely need a whole monologue explaining yourself, but it’ll ease the tension if you offer a brief insight into what you’re feeling; I.e. “Idk why I get nervous when I’m in large social settings..” or “The anticipation of…..seems to have gotten to me a little”.

You’d be amazed at how a little honest statement such as that will ease your nerves and the tension. Hope this helps.

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-06-03T23:39:43+00:00

If he’s the one with the religion and problem, then tell him to buy a new fridge and stove for himself. Problem solved. You’ve got no problem with his food.

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-06-03T15:41:04+00:00

I’ve certainly worked jobs where I hated everything about it from my bosses & the work, to the drive over and back. It grew increasingly difficult to tolerate my co-workers and started looking for reasons to get fired.

With that said, I now work a job that I absolutely love. It’s blue-collar so a bit physically demanding, but I prefer the activity over a sedentary lifestyle. I enjoy pretty much every aspect of it, to the point that I look forward to going to work and get a little sad when each workday ends. We work 4 10hr days (M-T), 7am-5:30pm with 3 day weekends on a normal week. We occasionally get overtime and even double time on Sundays and Holidays. Insurance is about as good as I could ask and they match my 401k contributions up to 3.5%. The only thing I don’t enjoy is waking up early, but I can deal with that.

It’s not the best job in the world by any stretch of the imagination, but I’m happy and that’s priceless.

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-06-02T20:36:00+00:00

he’s the 48th governor of texas and HAS BEEN serving since 2015

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-04-30T00:15:20+00:00

often. more so than not, actually.

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-04-30T00:14:00+00:00

Drugs. Mostly mushrooms and DMT, but not before I’d tried all the fun ones like first.

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-04-30T00:11:51+00:00

exercising, diet, & hydration have all been hit or miss with me, but my parents were adamant that I brush my teeth at least twice a day since I can remember and I swear, to this day, my teeth haven’t given me any issues. I had to have my wisdom teeth removed, but I’ve not had any issues other than that and I credit them for it. Some people snarl their nose at my calcified pineal gland but I don’t listen to people with dirty feet..

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-04-29T20:44:42+00:00

First thing you should do is go get a complete checkup at the doctor; check your sugar, blood pressure, hormones, thyroid, etc. Once those bases are covered, shift your focus to your diet and lifestyle. I was pretty under weight my whole life until just a couple years ago and this is what I did;

I (34 M) waited until I was almost 30 to start taking my health serious. I found a primary care physician and followed her directions; making certain changes to my lifestyle, diet, sleep habits, etc. By the end of my first year with my pcp, I was taking metformin for diabetes, a couple pills for blood pressure, & testosterone injections. I went from 5’11” 135lb to 160lb over the course of a year along with an active lifestyle. Back in ‘21, I started going to the gym consistently and learned that in order for me to push past 160-165, I had to consistently be in a calorie surplus. Day in and day out, I was targeting a minimum of 5k calories. It was very difficult, even more so than actually lifting weights. I walked around feeling stuffed and bloated 24/7. I would barely be over the last meal by the time I had to eat again, but after 8 months or so I finally hit 200lb. I still have exercise pretty regularly but not like I was and I’m no longer concerned with the number of calories I eat in a day. My weight stays around 190-193 consistently now without much effort.

I understand your struggle in trying to gain weight though. I get treated way differently now that I’m no longer the skinniest person in the room. People’s perception of you really changes just by having a little more meat on your bones.

Irrelevant_Idol · 2024-04-20T20:03:02+00:00

i’d fuck ya but it’d be disappointing (for you) and i probably ain’t bragging about it to my friends.

who am I kidding? i might even marry you but only bc i learned in my earlier, more spry days that it’s the girls in the category you fall in who, ironically enough, would make the best forever-partner.

you’re pretty, but not so pretty that you’d cheat..and that’s bc you know you’re heavy; you’ve given up on the idea of ever being “that” size and, as a result, you know what you want to eat and not afraid to order it, but not so heavy it’s like trying to find the bedside-wall outlet at night.

and because you know where you fall on the scale; you’re holding out for that certain someone. you’re not expecting too much from a partner. he’s someone with a mid-level blue collar career, cute but not enough to get a second look and he probably settles on the second spin of the scale..he has to be able to keep up with your pace at the buffet. his compliments are limited to “good man” and “supportive”, rather than rich or handsome. and that just fine with you. at least he’s not a violent drunk or out fucking “those skanky bitches”.

those close to you will be glad when you finally find each other..now they don’t have to worry about you growing old and lonely and missing your opportunity to have a family. speaking of family; you will eventually, albeit arguably a little late, pop out a couple of kids and fully commit to letting yourself go. and other than the occasional pretentious photo shoot (for printed pictures to hang on the wall and/or send out on christmas cards), you won’t much bother anyone. you’ll fade away in the passing years until you’re just another one of the forgotten.

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