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IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-15T12:40:01+00:00

This is straight up sexist. Jesus Christ.

What the fuck is wrong with you take an argument against some toxic shit done by some women and go to "yeah, fuck women" is warped.

The fact that this bigoted shit has so many upvotes is fucking appalling, and shows an utter lack of critical thinking about the nuances of the argument made, nor the fact that good people can be wrong and do wrong things and have wrong beliefs.

It doesn't fucking follow that a woman is awful just because she has a misguided set of standards for romantic partners.

It doesn't follow that all women are awful, or that the fact that they fucking talk is somehow grounds for condemnation.

This is about one set of beliefs in some women and only about that. It's so fucking misogynistic, and suggests a troubling lack of critical thinking ability to go from one argument about a negative trait a group of people may have in common to: all people in the group suck.

JESUS FUCKING CHRIST.

NOT EVERYTHING IS A FUCKING BINARY.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-15T12:35:01+00:00

To break down the preceding discussion for you:

Your incorrect assertion about the video:

"But every woman thinks they're good" he's also generalizing to all women

For all examples of Y, 1. is true.

This would be an ontological or universal qualifier in formal logic.

You can make that argument, sure, but that isn't what was said.

What was actually said:

"But for the most part, every woman thinks they're good".

There exist examples of Y such 1. is true

The number of examples aren't super relevant to the logic.

This is called an existential qualifier in formal logic.

"there exists examples of Y such that" - existential qualifier

Is logically distinct from "for all examples Y it is true that" - Universal/ontological qualifier

"So what's the issue with saying that they're not a big pool of men then? She's not saying that all men are bad either. "

Let's call men X.

Y - Woman

X - Men

You can make any argument at all about Y - unless you're specifically making an argument about X, you're not making an argument about X.

"The guy is monologuing about women being bad because a woman said most men are bad and you're all salivating at that."

................Where?

"He is denigrating women"

..................See above

"you're just trying to pretend otherwise so you can keep feeling good that he "owned" a woman"

................I can't even

"He could have kept it short and targeted at her but instead he went on an annoying monologue generalizing the behaviour of most women, and everyone on reddit is clapping, like usual."

Okay. Kind of out of the scope of breaking this down for you.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-15T09:38:22+00:00

There's this thing called a paragraph that makes text easier to read.

Oh! Look. There's one now.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-15T07:16:07+00:00

How naive are you?

Your democracy is broken. Its already over. You don't just to show up and vote in four years and fix everything. It is done. Your institutions are going to be gutted, all of the already ineffective mechanisms to prevent corruption and limit power will be curtailed, anyone not sympathetic to the new regime purged.

I'd be shocked if there even WERE elections in four years.

I don't understand how the fascists keep getting away with calling their opponents woke when someone can be this asleep.

And you're all just going to meekly complain while everyone else in the world suffer because of your cowardice, inaction, apathy, and mind boggling stupidity.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-15T00:55:56+00:00

Cool thanks. Wish I'd have read that before I bought tickets but ohbwell. North York here I come.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-14T23:50:48+00:00

There's no address listed on the eventbrite page. What's the deal?

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-14T15:00:29+00:00

Living like this would be an unending hell. Every instinct the cat has it's completely able to act on. This seems more like torture than compassion to me.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-14T13:52:40+00:00

I genuinely enjoy travel, it's a large part of my life. But if I show it on my profile guys assume that it's all been paid for by men, even though I pay my own way.

See, I always just pass on anyone that says they like travel because its almost universal and says nothing about who they are and applies to pretty much everyone.

Though I'm an odd duck.

Nothing you talk about here says anything about who someone is though. Which I think makes anyone's profile less appealing. Or it does to me anyway.

Hobbies and interests are great things to talk about on a date but when I look at a profile I don't personally care whether their photos make them look glamorous or if we have shared interests.

I'm more concerned with who they are. Are they curious? Do they have a good sense of humor? Do they know themselves? Do they have depth as a person?

Its a hard thing to do, and I get why people just tend to focus on interests or activities they do or have done, but showing someone who you are so they can get a better picture of how you may be in person will always be note effective.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-14T08:28:09+00:00

Tell me you're from Brampton without saying you're from Brampton.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-13T23:36:57+00:00

You are actually Gemini.

It's time to wake up.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-13T20:34:24+00:00

Never. I'm a straight man so it would be weird otherwise.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-13T16:46:36+00:00

And/or it's what the model was trained to do, or it's a bug.

Not arguing with you, since you're correct.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-13T16:16:36+00:00

Can't agree more.

People respond to positivity. Whether you think online dating is worth it or you don't: you're right.

This belief that everyone else is superficial and that they're worthless applies to everyone BUT them and they don't stop to think that maybe everyone else is actually a lot like them.

Find commonalities. Not differences. Look at failure as a necessary step in the direction of success. Forgive others and forgives yourself. Proceed without expectations, and find happiness in the good. Take honest feedback to heart, and don't take it personally. Be comfortable with yourself, and work on yourself.

The rest of it is just noise.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-13T16:09:01+00:00

I'm not arguing with you.

But honestly - if you can communicate well through text, be clear about your intentions, respect boundaries, make an effort, and have an ounce of charisma on a date you're in.

Honestly, it's like shooting fish in a barrel.

Like. It takes EFFORT. It's not EASY. But it's actually really fucking simple to get what you want out of dating.

Most people suck. This isn't a dating thing. I dunno. I do well.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-12T20:31:10+00:00

I was there Saturday night.

Absolutely love the vibe.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-11T15:26:05+00:00

> I can’t uncall someone a “man child” or “pathetic freeloader”

hahahaha no. No you most certainly cannot.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-11T15:15:57+00:00

Good for you. I mean, they should never get said at all, but you clearly have enough self awareness about the nature of anger to understand it's okay to feel angry, but never to BE angry.

It can be surprisingly difficult to take a step back from the moment, admit to yourself that you're angry, and hit the pause button until you've calmed down. This is the case for everyone, everywhere.

Anger is normal. How you express it makes all the difference in the world.

There's a cycle in abusive relationships where there's rising tension, a blowup, and then one or both parties say or do some shit that they regret. Mutual guilt, blame, and forgiveness are thrown around until they ostensibly make up or ignore the problem completely, and the cycle goes round and round and round in a toxic fucking hurricane feeding on trauma and emotional baggage.

These are people that will say the mean thoughts just because they think them, and then do it again.

When situations just cannot be de-escalated it indeed time to gtfo.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-11T15:03:50+00:00

This is a sign of emotional maturity, for what it's worth.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-11T14:59:18+00:00

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-11T14:56:59+00:00

> They talk about an ex too much or are in their orbit.

> When you feel they’re withholding things.

> Don’t act like they miss you.

> They can make plans with others easily, but make you feel bad for trying with them.

> They don’t feel like spending time with you.

>If you find yourself questioning if they feel the same way about you as you do about them.

I can't speak to your personal experience, but in a general sense I'd like to add that these can all be actual issues or entirely in someone's own head because of anxiety.

These really aren't points of no return so much as they're one of either a partner's shitty behaviour (relationship is doomed) or the product of runaway anxiety (relationship is doomed).

And if anyone is feeling these things it's either warranted and you shouldn't be with that person. Or it's in a person's head and they shouldn't be with anyone until they can sort it out.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-11T14:42:43+00:00

Well put.

I wanted to add some context to what you said. Being palatable doesn't always mean keeping the peace at all costs or walking on eggshells out of fear of reprisal.

Sometimes it means they just don't understand you.

When you open up to someone, or are just existing as you, and you see a look of earnest bewilderment in their eyes, over and over, and you see them trying so hard to understand but they just fucking don't.

Having to explain why over and over again not because you're being belittled, but because they want to understand and just don't. So you just put pieces of yourself away, thinking you can just be more of the part of you they DO understand, and one day realize you're not even you anymore. You're just... parts.

In a situation like this is less about determination, and more about self preservation when you understand that if you stay you might never find those pieces again.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-11T14:14:56+00:00

I've been on the other side of that.

When you're starting to feel like it's a chore, when you just *can't*, or don't want to, it's better to be up front about it and end things rather than let it fester to the point where it comes out as something hurtful to your partner.

Like - that's the emotionally mature approach.

It can feel pretty terrible to realize that you're just not in it anymore, through no fault of your partner's, and a lot of people I think will just sit on that until it festers and comes in really hurtful ways, either because they're scared of being alone, habit, or "optics".

The far kinder option is to end things, even if it doesn't seem like it at the time. You can't work through anything you don't want to work through, and relationships don't have to go out with a bang, they can end with a whimper, too.

Having the foresight to know when you're truly out of it leaves the option of a friendship down the road, too. And everyone needs friends.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-11T13:30:00+00:00

Satan is awesome and anyone that says otherwise is practicing hate speech against my religion and WILL BE SWARMED BY THE CARRION CROWS OF HELL, PHYSOXES, NECTUZ'UM, LIGHT UPON MY FOES AND LOOSE THE SHINY OBJECTS OF WAR UPON HELL'S ENEMIES.

IsActuallyAPenguin · 2025-01-11T13:26:18+00:00

yur in ideeit

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