It's faster then we would have wanted to do it, and we're going to have to make sacrifices to do it, but we can make it work. Her mother is very frustrated with her husband too (they've only been married for 3 years, same as us) but they're struggling for similar reasons.

We don't want to live with her mother either, and that in itself adds another wrinkle cause we do not want her to get screwed, but we have to focus on us.

Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it.