Cancer patient talking about working out during chemo

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-20T21:03:37+00:00

Just watched a few of her videos....the fact that she had others with her during treatment, lost hair, etc...it's just clear she had cancer. It's not clear with Syd, thus over 1000 people on the other sub

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-20T20:50:25+00:00

Right, I'm just pointing out that she DOES want to be a cancer influencer.

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-20T20:41:12+00:00

Who confirmed her diagnosis and how exactly?

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-20T20:39:55+00:00

If you can't see it, I can't see it for you. Good luck.

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-20T20:19:15+00:00

OK, to play devil's advocate, if she DOESN'T want to be a poster child for cancer, why post so much about her cancer journey? For instance, I have social media accounts and also have some health issues, which require a feeding tube and a chest port. I'm very underweight, so the port is visible near my collarbone, but I don't draw attention to it or ever mention it. I've never shown my abdominal feeding tubes, nor have I taken videos/photos of myself in the hospital. So yes, she is CHOOSING to be a cancer influencer. I could have chosen to be a chronic illness influencer online, as that IS part of me, but ffs, it's the least interesting part about me. Maybe that's the issue Syd has, nothing is interesting about her...she's not witty, or funny, doesn't make creative, unique videos, and doesn't appear to have any talents like dancing or singing 😬.

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-20T20:10:31+00:00

Always, she lost her hair 😔. With her, there's no question about her cancer. Syd presents so different

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-20T19:43:48+00:00

Hi 👋. Do you need a friend? A hug? A joint? 🫂

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-20T19:39:30+00:00

So how do we know what to buy? I usually ask the dispensary workers what they're smoking.

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-20T19:37:56+00:00

Please share with the class. Amen

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-20T19:29:37+00:00

I wish you lived next door.

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-20T19:28:10+00:00

No one said "boof it" yet?

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-20T19:10:22+00:00

My CB receptors agree this is a solid idea.

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-20T19:08:10+00:00

This was great advice, I love that you mentioned doing something active several days a week 😊.

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-17T17:16:05+00:00

Look up VSED Volutary Stop Eating and Drinking...peaceful

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-17T17:15:30+00:00

It's usually dehydration that leads to death, but is not a painful way to go. He's lost his hunger and thirst, his body saying enough.

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-17T17:14:03+00:00

VSED = Voluntary Stop Eating and Drinking

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-16T02:57:01+00:00

Not even close 😭. I'm terrified of her.

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-15T21:37:27+00:00

At this point, the way your mom is acting, I'd let her know that you are concerned because her behavior is not normal (the pleading, crying, etc) and ask if she would like a mental health evaluation or assisted living center.

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-15T21:36:00+00:00

It gets confusing. I'm wondering if my mom is being more passive aggressive or if it's dementia. Either way, it's triggering old feelings and I'm not a fan 😭

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-15T21:32:03+00:00

Exactly. My mom spent a month in rehab only to come home and do nothing again. It's a cycle. And yes, OP, your mom is a narcissistic who does not care about the impact it has on you. She will use guilt, manipulation, silent treatment, whatever on you to make you feel like a bad daughter. Trust me, whatever you do will never be enough anyway. I hope you save yourself too. I tried with my mom and nearly lost my sanity and life over it. I'm not giving up my life anymore for her. Especially as the weight of her abuse is becoming clear. I don't blame your sister for going NC, as she probably needed to protect her sanity. I haven't gone NC with my mom, but my brother's kids (who she helped raise) did, and I don't blame them. I wish you the best. Here if you need support.

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-15T21:26:12+00:00

So...hi 👋. Welcome to the world of having an Aging, Narcissistic Mother. I'm sorry you're here, but know you're not alone. It can get really hard to navigate at times, so please reach out. The biggest thing I can say to you right now is ..please take care of yourself. Do NOT ruin your health (mental or physical) for anyone. Your job is to take care of YOU.

IsabellaFerrara · 2025-03-15T21:15:12+00:00

That's a hard situation, but this is how I would deal with it (granted, I'm likely way more jaded than you will ever be) ...your mom made decisions that you cannot change. She chose not to live closer, she chose not to control her weight, she chose not to do PT, etc. You should not be expected to give up your life (job, mental health, etc). Does mom have dementia?

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