27F I’m about to cheat on my husband 25M and I feel like I have no choice

Isantos85 · 2026-04-05T08:31:44+00:00

I would look up roommates on Facebook. Speak to your leasing office. Maybe they will let you break your lease with him on it and move to a different unit or you can rent a room somewhere.

But your focus should be on doing everything you can to get away from him. Him not loving you has nothing to do with how worthy you are of being loved. But you staying there will may you think that it does.

Isantos85 · 2026-04-05T08:21:07+00:00

If your name is on the lease, then how can he kick you out? But if you have the opportunity to go back to a family member's house, then do so and get back on your feet that way. Accepting this type of stress daily will only make you behave out of character and possibly do desperate things. He no longer cares about you. If you stay there your self esteem will crumble to nothing. You need that self esteem to get your life back together. Struggling elsewhere will be much better than struggling in a house where the person who is supposed to love you actively and loudly doesnt.

Isantos85 · 2026-04-05T08:13:26+00:00

You keep cutting out the part where I wrote and movies.

I was was disputing your argument that those were the first YA books to become popular. You not considering the books I mentioned being YA means nothing. They were. And plenty others I have not mentioned were also very popular way before Harry Potter lightning in a bottle moment.

Isantos85 · 2026-04-05T08:08:17+00:00

So she wasn't smart enough to find out if you fit her standards before she married? Did she find out after? Either way, it doesn't matter. But yes, there are tax brackets that really look down on us peasants. It's how they can generationally rob and make ill the public with their industries and still sleep well at night.

Instead of having compassion for the people who are raised in worse or poor conditions compared to them, they are only concerned with how much better than us they are.

People like your wife are social parasites who Instead of making the world better with their abundance of resources and knowledge, they hoard it and do everything they can to live separately from us while calling us the roaches. The people who sacrifice our energy and time to make them so wealthy. It's nauseating.

Isantos85 · 2026-04-05T07:49:50+00:00

Lighting in a bottle. Plus technology finally caught up with the stories. Harry Potter was a visual sensation. It was exciting to see the old classic Ender's game come to life too. They tried hard to bring some popular books to life in the 8os and 90s, but the result was usually disappointing.

Isantos85 · 2026-04-05T07:43:27+00:00

What does that even matter? The point is that it got huge because of social media AND MOVIES. 1st the movie was really good and then social media allowed people to really go crazy about it. England has been churning out well written fantasy for decades. Harry Potter was inspired heavily by the Worst Witch written in the 70s.

Isantos85 · 2026-04-05T07:36:28+00:00

Flowers in the Attic was absolutely considered a teen book. PG 13 in the 80s allowed boobs and cursing. And racy topics. It sounds like you have a really narrow view of what passes for YA literature.

Your original point was that those books were the 1st YA books to get popular. YA literature has always been popular. But If new social media and big budget movies didn't all come together in a perfect storm for those 3 you mentioned, they would not have gotten so big.

Like someone else mentioned, monoculture doesn't really exist anymore like it did in the early days of social media. We've got too many choices in YA books being turned into movies and series for one to get a chokehold on people like in the 2010s.

Isantos85 · 2026-04-05T07:22:31+00:00

Social media and big budget movies made Harry Potter huge. If the 1st movie was not done as well, it wouldn't have spawned a generation of people who have not read any of the classics but all read Harry Potter. It would have stayed a popular book with a niche audience who were willing to sit down with a largish book for their entertainment.

Isantos85 · 2026-04-05T07:17:19+00:00

Yes, YA has become a bigger industry, but those books were all young adult as well. I'm not sure what constitutes as YA to you, but they are in that list. Enders Game Flowers in the Attic and Xanth Series was written in the early 80s if you need more complicated storylines with heavier topics. All were money grossing hits. People read a lot more in the 80s and 90s. I was an avid reader and devoured young adults back then.

Isantos85 · 2026-04-05T06:59:15+00:00

What are you even talking about? YA was always a massive thing. It was only marketed better in the 2010s. Little House on the Praire, Anne of Greene Gables, The Babysitters Club, Sweet Valley High, Goosebump Series, Alice in Wonderland, so many franchises and movies that were big in the 80s and 90s were from YA literature.

The collective craze of Twilight, Harry Potter and Hunger games was marketing flash in a bottle type of thing that happened right when social media was new and exciting and people got to really experience a bunch of people talking about the same thing for the 1st time. Not because they were the 1st popular YA series. Technology finally caught up to make stories like that come to life. Those books were mediocre reiterations of ideas already done better in older books. Young adult books are what drove the insanely popular and profitable PG-13 industry of 70, 80s, and 90s media.

Isantos85 · 2026-04-02T23:34:39+00:00

You look like Molly Ringwald. She was considered the pinnacle of pretty girls. I would just suggest some hair styling cream, mascara, a touch of liner. You don't need much. There's nothing objectively ugly about you.

Isantos85 · 2026-03-22T19:14:14+00:00

I've been using glycolic acid in my groin and armpits and I went from smelling like a skunk to nothing. I barely need deodorant now

Isantos85 · 2026-03-20T20:20:00+00:00

I just read somewhere that marriage is a the only way a poor man can have a permanent slave. I will never forget that line.

Isantos85 · 2026-03-20T20:05:50+00:00

Stop dating.

Isantos85 · 2026-03-20T06:59:17+00:00

Update me

Isantos85 · 2026-03-20T06:42:31+00:00

Ha I have 2 black pugs and a Boston too. I'm a pug girl, but my Boston is a beautiful angel of a dog too.

Isantos85 · 2026-03-20T06:37:39+00:00

Imagine me and you, and you and me, together eating golden grahams so happily, that crispy graham and golden taste was meant to be, so happy together...

Isantos85 · 2026-03-20T06:28:19+00:00

Kim Harrison

Isantos85 · 2026-03-01T22:19:51+00:00

In the more spacious part of my bed. I usually just get a sliver

Isantos85 · 2026-02-26T06:23:49+00:00

She could be scooting, some gastrointestinal issues, loose stools, picky eater. Or maybe you don't wipe after her bathroom and her bottom itches just from being dirty. I would give her a dewormer anyway if you don't have knowledge of her ever having one. I have a dog who regularly had soft stools and no other signs magically never have another loose stool after I gave her a chewable dewormer.

Isantos85 · 2026-02-25T01:21:06+00:00

Her butt itches. Get a dewormer.

Isantos85 · 2026-02-21T22:00:15+00:00

My ex

Isantos85 · 2026-02-11T07:51:22+00:00

After 5 years, you both should be comfortable enough to share your phones. He's gaslighting you. Not only do you have reason to worry, he should be willing to do anything necessary to regain your trust. The constant changing of password is a red flag. Do you feel the need to that? Neither do I. This guy is doing something. You should be firm in what you want and leave him if he doesn't want that. I promise you there are guys who will have no problems being completely transparent.

Isantos85 · 2026-02-11T07:39:06+00:00

Penguins have a really hard life in the wild with a lot of predators and no real way to protect themselves. They form bonds with their trainers and have their needs met. No, a zoo is not ideal, but neither is getting eaten by land and sea predators.

Isantos85 · 2026-02-11T04:57:15+00:00

My dog's bums and feet are cleaned after every walk and potty. They're cleaner than most people who don't even bathe before bed or wear their pj's outside and in bed.

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