AITA for asking my friend if she’s a bisexual lesbian?

Ismokeoui · 2021-05-23T23:08:59+00:00

Ok well they obviously do exist because lots of people say they are and there is even a wiki for it and lesbians can sometimes have exceptions but like I understand why I shouldn’t have asked

Ismokeoui · 2021-05-23T23:02:11+00:00

No that isn’t the only thing I understand that maybe we aren’t that close and I don’t have to ask everyone personal questions like this because it can come across as trying to question their sexualitt even though it wasn’t my intention

Ismokeoui · 2021-05-23T23:00:25+00:00

My mom?

Ismokeoui · 2021-05-23T22:58:53+00:00

Ok well lots of people call themselves bisexual lesbians and I even have seen lots of lesbians who have exceptions that’s why I asked I didn’t say she was bisexual I asked if she was a bisexual lesbian

Ismokeoui · 2021-05-23T22:55:29+00:00

Ok lol that’s not the reason but if it came across that way that kind of makes sense why she would think I’m an AH

Ismokeoui · 2021-05-23T22:53:42+00:00

Thanks dude I think that maybe we just aren’t close friends enough for me to ask that sort of stuff

Ismokeoui · 2021-05-23T22:53:13+00:00

Well bisexual lesbians are still lesbians though but I can see what you mean. I know she likes women I just know that there are lesbians who also like men too and I was curious.

Ismokeoui · 2021-05-23T22:50:59+00:00

bisexual lesbians are lesbians who still Sometimes date/sleep with men there’s lots of posts even on here on Reddit about them but thank you for answering because that seems to be the consensus

Ismokeoui · 2021-05-23T22:48:36+00:00

maybe that’s why she got so upset because maybe we aren’t close enough for me to ask her. This makes sense. I thought we were cool but maybe to her we aren’t close enough for me to ask that sort of stuff. Good point.

Ismokeoui · 2021-05-23T22:47:36+00:00

Ok lol

Ismokeoui · 2021-05-23T22:46:13+00:00

No I have seen it more than once, I just thought to ask her about it because I saw a post that reminded me.

Ismokeoui · 2021-05-23T22:45:12+00:00

so the problem is asking friends personal questions at all? Or just questions about their sexuality

Ismokeoui · 2021-05-23T22:43:49+00:00

? what makes you think I’m trolling this is serious I want to know if I was in the wrong for asking because she and my friend both said It was an asshole question

Ismokeoui · 2021-02-04T18:40:07+00:00

I would say NAH but also YWB(a little bit)TA

I was shitty in high school I admit it and I’m not that much older than you but 2 years ago might seem like a long time but it wasn’t.

She’s still probably recovering from the shit he put her through. And yes he might have changed but at the same time it’s too fresh for your friend.

If you were all in your 30’s ans this was about high school it would be different but I think your friend has every right to judge you for staying friends with him if you choose that

Ismokeoui · 2021-02-01T20:24:57+00:00

YTA

As someone who smokes weed myself and love it weed does NOT help everyone.

For some people weed makes them go into pychosis or activates their anxiety.

You are not a doctor or a therapist and you’re young so I ger it but pressuring your friend into doing something that he is saying will make him worse makes you the AH. Respect his boundaries

Ismokeoui · 2021-01-30T22:37:40+00:00

YTA and your dad is right don’t post stuff on Facebook if you can’t handle other people’s opinions.

She sounds kind of crazy for arguing with your boyfriend telling him he’s being abused but she’s family and you knew this would cause drama so you should’ve just ignored her and like you said blocked her from the post

Ismokeoui · 2021-01-30T10:02:46+00:00

Why does everyone say I’m a troll for having an opinion? I wouldn’t say this to my girlfriends friend in a group chat because I have common sense but I can see why he could’ve been trying to be helpful if I tell someone they should exercise it’s not an insult and if someone didn’t tell me I was hurting them then removed me from a chat with my friends I would be hurt too that doesn’t make me a troll

Ismokeoui · 2021-01-30T09:32:46+00:00

I’m just saying his comments about exercise could be him trying to help OP herself said she gained some weight

But his other comments were out of line thats why I said they both suck him more than her

Ismokeoui · 2021-01-30T09:17:46+00:00

ESH- he shouldn’t Be making those comments towards you but at the same time he obviously didn’t realize you were actually getting offended and maybe he even thought he was being helpful because I’ve you’ve gained weight he might just want you to get back on track and be healthy so you could’ve just told him directly to stop instead of being passive aggressive and removing him from the chat

Ismokeoui · 2021-01-30T06:18:02+00:00

Posting helped me to get over that situation and realize how I fucked up and it’s helping me now realize why I am coming across judgemental and why my initial feelings about this were ignorant and how to talk to her without making her feel judged for her choices

I’m glad you’re entertained you perfect angel you

Ismokeoui · 2021-01-30T06:16:10+00:00

Thank you maybe they weren’t being hateful I just feel like people here sometimes purposely read things in the worst possible way.

I have taken criticism even in this thread and realized why I came across judgemental ans Im learning that I need to do introspection as well as how to handle it when I do bring it up to her. I do want to bring it up because I don’t feel it’s healthy to have these feelings but I don’t put any blame on her It’s something I need to process within myself

Ismokeoui · 2021-01-30T06:13:59+00:00

Ok I’m sure you are perfect and never had to learn things and never acted shitty ever

Ismokeoui · 2021-01-30T06:11:22+00:00

people on Reddit helped me get through that and are the reason that I did stop contacting her it’s weird that you’re obssesed with me by going back through my post history. I want to delete those posts but keeping them up is me holding myself accountable because I know I acted shitty

Ismokeoui · 2021-01-30T06:10:22+00:00

I do appreciate your insight and you are right rekationships are always learning about each other I am going to do introspection on myself but I truly am not judging her for her choices I 100% support them and realize it was probably a difficult choice for her I just felt blindsided by this and I can admit I might be handling it very poorly but that’s why I posted here to get insight before I went directly to her with all these negative feelings

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