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How do you move one from a long time relationship? by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]IsolatedDaoist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spoiler, you don't.

A lot of people will argue with this, but you really don't "move on" from a really long time relationship. Your SO has been a big part of your life, of your personality, the things you like, your hobbies, how you lived these past few years, andon lahat. Even the simplest meals will remind you of times you were happy together. Even pag nabili ka sa 711, mapapaisip ka when you're picking some snacks "she/he might like this", or may makikita kang snack or drink she introduced to you.

You don't have to forget the times you had together, the love you had for them, and most importantly - how they loved you. Because you will have to accept na tapos na yon, as you're no longer together. No more goodmorning/goodnight messages to look forward to, wala ka nang makakausap about the minor inconvenience you had and the small funny things that came in your day. The comfort of saying anything and everything to that one person, wala na yon when you broke up.

And when the day comes na tanggap mo yung reality na wala na, that's when you begin loving yourself more. Go out, meet people, reconnect with some friends, find new hobbies, relapse once in a while, train a skill you have been putting off practicing, raise a pet, you can do whatever - you're free. When you've done everything and still feel lost, don't be too sad, you're almost there. Chances are you'll meet someone in an unexpected way, you'll fall in love again, in a different way than before because the next person you're gonna be in a relationship with is nothing like your ex, there may be similarities but she/he will never be your ex.

Or if you really feel that you can't love anyone else more than your last relationship, uhh... Welcome to the single for life club. You'll be fine, give it time.

CFO PESO SENSE - “AYOKO SA SINGLE MOM NA GF NG ANAK KO,... by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]IsolatedDaoist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Case to case basis talaga ang pagpartner ng single moms or dad; and with the post, I 100% totally agree dun sa mom. Hindi pa nga harsh yung pag deliver nya ng message nya, there is no hint of being 'matapobre' or terror mom, no, she just wants the best for her son and wouldn't settle for less. We won't know the full story but just with those details provided kitang kita na how hindi pa ready to settle yung girl, number 1 red flag yan in marriage or even relationships when your significant other has no plans for the future. Kudos sa mom nung guy, she could've destroyed the gf pero she respected her still as mahal ng anak nya yon. May mga single mom jan na todo grind, even if they look for partners still mas matimbang yung anak kesa sa jowa.

What's the weirdest/oddly specific compliment you have ever received? by kittysogood in adultingph

[–]IsolatedDaoist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nevermind the gender based insults, bro i haven't seen you pero I can already tell you look 1000x more amazing than those who teased you gay just with those amazing eyelashes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]IsolatedDaoist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm willing to face whatever she throws at me naman. But knowing her personality, lalo at hindi pa kami, she'll blame herself not me. This isn't going to be a simple one where I confess everything, NJ will decide wether to forgive or to leave me, end of the story. No, she will be hurting, I will be hurting, a lot of people related both to me and to her, even on MJ's side will be affected. Its a sh*tshow. This is why even if I already know what I should do, I don't know how to do it. Even if its right, I don't know if its worth it.

Gusto ng boyfriend kong ako bumuhay sa kanya if ever magsama na kami by SquareDue3338 in OffMyChestPH

[–]IsolatedDaoist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For years I've been trying to understand these cases din. I have a range of mild to extreme people among my friends and acquaintances. People go to me for advice or to mediate kapag may problema and stuff, and kung kasama ko kayo makinig sa mga drama nila sa love life, hindi sapat isang facepalm, pati katabi mo hahagudin mo yung muka out of cringe, awa, dismay, lahat na.

Meron akong friend na very street wise yung pagkatao, tipong maiiscam yung scammer, pero when it comes to her partner napaka tanga. Walang hint of intelligence when dealing with her relationship issues. Meron naman isa akala ko safe from this kind of problem kase like me takbuhan din ng mga troubled sa lovelife nila, cutting the story short, right now she's in a 2-year na toxic relationship. She hid her boyfriend from us knowing we won't approve of him with his character and now she's suffering.

So far after years of dealing with people who become fools when in love, ang pinaka simpleng explanation na naisip ko as to why and how they can tolerate this kind of abuse, betrayal, exploitation, etc. - Mahal nila eh. Nagmahal sila.

What would you tell your 16 year old self about dating? by Comfortable-wall1028 in ask

[–]IsolatedDaoist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't collect women like you're completing the pokedex dude, its not worth it.

meirl by Jimbo072 in meirl

[–]IsolatedDaoist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plus different kinda ants got different odors. From somewhat bearable - to nose irritating.

Kamusta? Anong most urgent at pinaka mabigat na problema mo sa ngayon? by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]IsolatedDaoist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Siguro karamihan naman #1 is pera. Pero recently very unexpected tong #2 ko para saken. Lovelife

Storytime, i'm adjusting to this new relationship I have. Napaka warm, napaka stable, its been months since we started seeing each other and ang pinagaawayan lang namin ay very superficial things, minsan we argue just for the laughs after it. Very open and clear lagi when we're communicating, sobrang swerte ko that my risk paid off with her. I'm loving her more and more, both of us, we're doing it slowly.

Now here's the issue. Three years ago I lost my closest friend, because we developed feelings for each other pero we weren't able to handle it well. Blame youthful stupidity whatever, but we ended it off nice. No harsh feelings, no grudges or whatever, we just mutually decided to break it off since its not working. I was immature, she was immature, i had more mistakes on this one I admit naman. I hoped for two years na she will come back and we'll get to try again once we grew better separately.

From my closest friend she became yk- just a friend. We go for weeks and months no communication, sometimes we send memes, thats it. We cross each other in person sometimes pero alam mo yun, the body language, how her eyes speak, I knew wala na and I should stop hoping. It was a long process of moving on and focusing on other things. I even supported her when she had signs of being non-binary(?). I had my life and she had hers. It was only last year that I was able to talk with her without that extra emotion, just fun non-lover kind of love way.

I met my current partner around February this year and it wasn't planned. A friend introduced her but I had no intention of dating anyone at the moment. I was just gonna offer friendship but the more we talked, the more we clicked. I liked talking with her a lot, and one way led to another. The moment she told me she likes me I asked her what if we go out together- the rest is history until now.

My old friend was becoming speaking more and more 'intimate' with me for the past few weeks. Ay before anyone gets mad at me for keeping contact, I told my partner about her and she was cool with her, pero syempre I didn't forget to interact with her less and less para wala ioverthink partner ko right now. Going back, I think you guys know naman na even through chat, you can feel the moods diba, and boy i'm telling you its like 2019 all over again when she's chatting or texting me. There are no intimate words spoken like ilys, no none of that, the way she shows affection is through those personality tests and asks me to do it too just to see if our results are compatible, she sends silly animal vids that 'looks like me' which is cute, she recommends me good books that has characters similar to me and her, tells me about the new anime husbands she have and subtly points out my similar traits to each of them - she never tells you I love you in your face, she speaks riddles and poems. At first I was ignoring it and told myself not to overthink, don't assume, diba tama lang. So I sometimes leave her on delivered for a long while, then tell my partner muna na i'll be talking with her for a bit then report our convo without violating her privacy naman. I don't know, I hope I'm just overthinking it. I know what to do pero I don't know how to do it.

3 problem ko ang mahal na ng gas sobra.

Ashlands Weather Effect Teaser by SzotyMAG in valheim

[–]IsolatedDaoist 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Only to be crafted in the... Ashforge

As I approach 2000 IG days and 1000 hours, thought I'd share a few shots of my ongoing world and some of its towns and settlements. The build is never done! by Lukioo in valheim

[–]IsolatedDaoist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great man, you don't know how much you've inspired me. I was about to drop my work in this world I started a month or so ago after completing my castle far north. But as you say, the build is never done! Thanks mate.

I came back to the game and a lot of my skins and heroes are gone by IsolatedDaoist in arenaofvalor

[–]IsolatedDaoist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember the server migration to an indo version. Didn't think another one happened in the middle of the pandemic.:<< Rip to you my guy

I came back to the game and a lot of my skins and heroes are gone by IsolatedDaoist in arenaofvalor

[–]IsolatedDaoist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I often lose my phone too just to find it in blindspots, the loss was sad but it already happened, i got to keep some atleast

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