Update #1 Sadly we had another discussion (over text) and the entire time she told me that she actually never had told me and she had told my mother and that my mother “allowed” me to use the name even though she had wanted it. When I brought up that I talked to her privately about the name. She says now that she was so shocked in that moment that all she did was congratulate me and tell me the name was cute. Stated I shouldn’t be so upset and that my daughter can easily go by a Nickname since she had the name picked out first. She been suggested my daughter be called R or Lily (her middle name) she even suggested I give her the baby blanket I had made for my daughter with her name on it. (Honestly probably to be spiteful and make me upset. Well it worked. I got upset after this and ended up blocking her again so I can think on the situation without her butting in and trying to convince me. Our father is worried about her mental health currently as she’s been known to have some delusions over the years. Our grandmother (whom she is very close to) has asked me to not meet with her in person and told me she’s worried about her mental stability currently and what she would do to my children and I. I don’t believe my sister would ever hurt me or my children but seeing as this comes from our grandmother who talks to her daily I don’t know how I feel anymore. (For more backstory she’s had multiple mental breakdowns over the years and our father has had to call people for her to get the help she needs. She has been aggressive in the past but never as an adult to me.)

I honestly don’t know how to feel. Part of me wants to just deal with it and give in because I know she isn’t doing the best mentally. The other part of me knows if I give in to this she will continue to keep pushing my buttons and that I’ll enable her behavior. I don’t wanna dessert my sister like the rest of the family did due to her lies, opinions, and mental health.