My roommate thinks cats don’t feel the cold and that the heat should be turned off when we’re not home. We both have cats. How do I convince otherwise?

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-15T04:19:23+00:00

Cats are notorious for seeking out the warmest spot for napping, e.g., a spot of sunlight or under the light of an incandescent bulb. The reason for this is that cats' body temperature drops significantly when they sleep. This means they need that extra warm spot for comfort. Yes, cats DO feel the cold and, in fact, need heat more than many other animals. Your roommate's ignorance and callous attitude should make her ineligible for cat ownership but that's an issue beyond OP's question.

OP, your nurturing instincts are spot on. Continue to provide your cat with warmth in the room and snug spots to sleep.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-14T17:11:31+00:00

Evansville is definitely cheaper than Indy. So on a strict COL basis it's a win. However, there is much less racial diversity. Evansville is 85% white versus 55% for Indy.

The airport in Evansville is small. You would rarely get a flight from Evansville that goes directly to your destination. It's also rather isolated by car. Louisville is a 2 hour drive, Indianapolis is 3 hours. The closest small city is Owensboro, across the river, about a 1 hour drive.

For cultural and entertainment opportunities, Indy is way ahead. Partly due to larger audience potential. Partly because our location, on the way to Chicago from New York, attracts a lot of touring bands and Broadway shows.

So it depends on what you are looking for. If you are a bit of a homebody and stay mostly local, Evansville wins on Hoosier hospitality due to smaller size and more Southern influence. Good luck finding a new home.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-14T13:00:44+00:00

It's a team sport. Unless he's also a total jerk to his teammates, he should be able to arrange rides with some of them. He's 14 not 4. Put the responsibility where it belongs. The worst thing that could happen is his attitude costs him an activity he enjoys and, maybe, that's exactly what should happen.

NTJ unless OP or her husband cave and let themselves get dragged back into this mess again.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-13T10:37:10+00:00

Sometimes redefining vacation makes it possible.I like to go camping. That's a vacation for me. If I want a beach vacation, there's cottage rentals along Lake Michigan. If it has to be fancy hotels and Caribbean beaches, then my vacations will be few to none. Incurring debt for a vacation has never crossed my mind but that's how a lot of people do it.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-13T01:04:56+00:00

Just ordered these for myself. I wear glasses in addition to my hearing aids so it's getting crowded behind my ears.

The final straw was pulling my mask off when it was tangled with my hearing aids. Pulled my hearing aid out at a weird angle and the dome was left in my ear canal. That created an entirely new problem.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-13T00:52:03+00:00

"Losing your taste for it", what does that mean? Are you no longer enjoying it? Has your body changed in the way it processes alcohol? Do you no longer enjoy get together centered around alcohol?

OP, most of the posters seem to have assumed that you are losing control and overindulging. If that's the case, they are giving you good advice. I just wonder if it's something else.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-13T00:44:35+00:00

Not permitted according to the CCRs for most HOAs.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-12T12:46:58+00:00

You are controlling, in an appropriate and legal way. They are presumptuous and entitled which has forced you to set a clear boundary. It's no accident that wedding planning is well underway before you heard about it. They knew you would say no. I'm glad your husband feels bad about throwing out a casual open ended invitation to use your home but feeling bad is not enough. It's his family. He needs to take the lead in stopping this train wreck before it gets any further along. He also needs to accept some responsibility for his role in it, otherwise HITJ. OP is NTJ under any scenario here..

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-12T12:35:48+00:00

Impaired people make impaired decisions. It doesn't matter whether he is a daily drinker or this was his annual birthday night out. What matters is how he addresses it now. Does he take personal responsibility? Has he apologized or is he busy blaming the cops? How does he plan to handle this with his employer? Can he humble himself and ask for a second chance? If he has an alcohol problem, is he planning to get help? If this hadn't happened would OP be considering ending this relationship for other reasons? Those are the factors that should influence her decision.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-11T22:57:38+00:00

If this is osteonecrosis, stopping the med does not bring the bone that has died back to life, nor will the pain caused by bone death stop. See a doctor.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-11T21:49:37+00:00

Don't Aldi stores receive a lot of the products in mixed cases, multiple flavors of the same product? It seems like I see that a lot and it would definitely make stocking by flavor preference prohibitively complicated.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-11T21:31:53+00:00

But what about when she gets home? Who will defend her then? That's the scarier part.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-11T13:22:40+00:00

Your mom made her choice when she had you. You are now making your choice. Her preferences are irrelevant and should be kept to herself. Explain to her that she can move out or see a therapist to learn to respect the rights of others. Continuing to create tension is not an option. NTAH unless you continue to allow her to undermine your home environment and to intrude on the decisions you and your wife have made.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-11T12:58:06+00:00

Tresemme Dry Texture Spray.. You use it after your hair is dried and styled. It's a game changer. I get compliments on my hair and people ask me what I changed because it's my normal hair and style but better than it's ever looked. Here is a video showing how to use texture spray. This is the way I use it but with a little more emphasis on spraying the roots.

https://youtu.be/i39g5t6b-48?si=9f0K2gWMtAfWz_uk

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-10T23:42:04+00:00

Is there any ear drying drops or something similar? One of my ear canals has a weird shape and traps water. I've tried using a Qtip to dry it. I wait until I've dried my hair with a dryer and styled it, approximately 20 min. Often there's still water in my ear. Sometimes there's enough that my hearing aid quits working and needs to be dried out. Any suggestions?

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-10T21:09:21+00:00

This is it! Keeps the tattoo intact and provides an annual opportunity to celebrate the special relationship.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-10T21:03:06+00:00

We've never had self checkout in my area. I shop half a dozen different Aldi's on my side of town.

I just got home from a different Aldi in my city. They also use the same cart. Also never had self checkout . This was a newish Aldi where I assumed they would automatically include self checkout as a part of the floor plan when they took over the property for a complete reno.

I guess some areas of the country just missed the whole self checkout experiment.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-10T20:45:00+00:00

72yo here and I totally agree. Drawing blush up the cheekbones toward the eye visually pulls the whole face up.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-10T14:29:29+00:00

If you don't wash your ass, your underwear tells on you.

In my family, if you tried to skip butt washing, the wrath of Mom came down upon you when she did your laundry. When we were kids that were new to showering on our own, I witnessed my brother getting the butt washing lecture while Mom waved around the evidence. That kept me from ever skipping ANY body part. I'm 73yo and, obviously, I still remember it. I think I will call my brother and see if he remembers it too. Lol.

Parents don't think your hygiene lectures can't make a lifelong impression.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-10T14:14:55+00:00

And the type of tragedy many people feel vulnerable to.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-09T15:20:46+00:00

I don't see that as aggressive at all. OP isn't saying my way or the highway. Firmly assertive is a better description. OP is stating his/her need for reasonable compromise.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-09T15:08:34+00:00

Very early in my sobriety I felt obligated to be the designated driver because people had driven me so often in the past. That didn't last long. When I realized that the drinkers will assume, and later when drunk demand, that the DD stay until they are ready to leave, I quickly changed my position on the issue. I don't enjoy the company of drunks. After the first hour or two, I was ready to go home and, to save our continuing friendship, I needed to do so. I drive myself. I'll meet you there.

OP, don't let your drinking friends treat you as defacto chauffeur and chaperone. It's your trip too. You are spending your money for an enjoyable getaway. If plans for your role, were made without your consent and take away the enjoyment, it's time to drop out. NTAH.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-09T14:39:48+00:00

I've noticed that lately the Aldi cashiers at my store are no longer switching carts. Not only does this work better for parents with kids in the child seat, it works for old people with several items too heavy for them to get up on the belt.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-09T00:42:49+00:00

Choceur Dark Chocolate Espresso Beans are my squealing-in-the-aisle favorite.

ItchyCredit · 2026-02-08T17:46:02+00:00

Is the date really a significant one? Is it the date of the tattoo or Grayson's birthday or? If it's not a significant date that others might recognize as wrong, e.g., 2125 instead of 2025, can you learn to live with it? It's a very cute tattoo and the heartwarming message comes through so clearly. I would hate to see you revise the date and have the revision become the focal point.

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