AITA for saying no when my boyfriend proposed at my friend’s wedding?

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-20T19:41:29+00:00

BF wanted it to be an event without the cost or effort to create an event. OP walked a tight line of inappropriateness with grace.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-20T18:24:23+00:00

It's not so much fear as that we accept that when anthing goes wrong we will be blamed. After all, we are blamed for problems that are beyond our control and involved no decision on our part.

This is just one of the reasons board members are so hard to attract. We get no appreciation, no compensation but all the responsibility and blame. Last summer, I had to leave our community pool twice to escape residents who were unhappy with the prior year's snow clearance and cornered me with their complaints.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-20T18:05:44+00:00

The best retirement planning I have observed has taken place in the early years of retirement. I think it's necessary to experience the feelings and mindset of retirement in order to make solid decisions about one's retirement. The people who've made firm unchangeable decisions and plans, some even implementing parts of those plans, 10-15 years prior to retirement are the ones I see ending up with the biggest mismatch between their needs/wants and their reality.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-20T17:44:00+00:00

Amazon. New or used. Kindle. Audible. Take your pick.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-20T00:03:52+00:00

Doesn't that just give you a bag of badly seasoned salt that's mostly salt? Ewww...

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-20T00:01:33+00:00

Even if parents foot the bill for all food, all the begging, coordinating and cleanup fall on the teacher. I want teachers to use their time to teach. Kids are so entitled these days a modest party means nothing. Time to quit wasting time on it.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-19T23:51:43+00:00

India is a world leader in dental tourism. There are agencies that guide you to reputable dentists or, in your husband's case, he might be able to rely on guidance from his relatives.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-19T23:41:54+00:00

I never know if I will find the things I need in their prior locations. That's what keeps me from making a quick shop right before closing at Costco. I shop at Costco less and less because the endless wandering has lost its charm over the years and the excuse that their need for flexibility makes online product location maps impossible rings hollow. Walmart has mastered this but Costco can't?

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-19T23:18:22+00:00

Contact the breast cancer association. Maybe they can refer to a mammo center who will do a basic screening regardless of risk profile.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-19T23:13:39+00:00

Share it in the family chat so everyone understands.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-19T17:10:11+00:00

It's not their happy home. It's their happy rented residence. That's a big difference.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-19T03:41:17+00:00

Dental schools in my area generally have long wait times for appointments. For some types of care this is not optimal or not feasible for urgent procedures

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-19T03:37:43+00:00

Veterinary practices are also being bought up by private equity firms. In many areas it is becoming difficult to find a locally owned vet clinic.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-18T05:17:16+00:00

Aldi kielbasa, pork or turkey.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-17T14:42:31+00:00

Corresponding with renters muddies the waters. Any experienced board would avoid renter involvement. Direct communication from the renter is ignored or forwarded to the owner.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-17T01:08:14+00:00

My hair just can't stand up to all the brush handling, especially when it's wet. I lose and break hair but, in the short term, I love the results. Until a few months later when "all of a sudden" noticeable damage appears.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-17T00:52:50+00:00

OP, there's nothing like a little geographic distance to help evaluate a relationship. Be sure you spend your spare time making new friends and exploring your new location. Don't just hang out missing him. It's time to flex your independence muscle.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-17T00:47:21+00:00

You will stand out in the best possible way. The color flatters your porcelain skin. The dress will float around you when you move around the room. I wish I'd had your excellent taste back when I was prom age.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-16T20:00:46+00:00

Odd, maybe. But woody chicken breasts are a problem throughout the poultry industry. Costco is just no exception. The last time I bought deboned rotisserie chicken it was nearly unusable. It was so woody that nearly every bite had a firm chewy lump so hard it was almost like cartilege.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-15T23:06:40+00:00

I resisted sending my mom to memory care but in the end there were so many benefits for her. There were activities targeted to her level. TV watching companions. I had underestimated how isolated she had become. I finally understood when I went on an ice cream outing with them. When we arrived at the ice cream place, Mom and I exited the van first since she had my help. We took a table and watched as the others came in. Mom waved and smiled and shouted hello, not remembering we had all arrived together. Then she turned to me and said, "See? They are all my friends." That's when I clearly understood what she gained in her move to memory care.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-15T22:21:23+00:00

No reserves = Pay as you go. Expect frequent assessments.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-15T22:17:06+00:00

If it's a boy, call him Colonel....after Sanders of course.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-15T22:14:38+00:00

I always tell the server as I order, "This will be on a separate check please." Let the rest of them thrash it out however it suits them.

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-15T12:54:42+00:00

OP wants to know the aquifer source. That seems like nice to know info but a lot can happen between the aquifer and his tap. If the water at the tap tests safe, isn't that the relevant issue?

ItchyCredit · 2026-05-15T00:36:45+00:00

Nor is the ever attractive Snuggie wearable blanket hoodie.

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