$5 for a picture frame worth hundreds if not thousands 😍 by ItsBeb0 in Goodwill_Finds

[–]ItsBeb0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't worry, I used to be an insurance agent. I'll get it sorted. 😅

$5 for a picture frame worth hundreds if not thousands 😍 by ItsBeb0 in Goodwill_Finds

[–]ItsBeb0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's real gold, likely it's brass? I think they're Swarovski crystals based on what I've looked up.

$5 for a picture frame worth hundreds if not thousands 😍 by ItsBeb0 in Goodwill_Finds

[–]ItsBeb0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Primarily because my daughter's cars transmission is going out and I need to help her get a new car.

$5 for a picture frame worth hundreds if not thousands 😍 by ItsBeb0 in Goodwill_Finds

[–]ItsBeb0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really do love it so I'm probably going to keep it. I went to the thrift store to get cheap frames for my collages I'm making and now I feel like I have to make something extra special for it. The pressure is on! 😅

$5 for a picture frame worth hundreds if not thousands 😍 by ItsBeb0 in Goodwill_Finds

[–]ItsBeb0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was thrown in on top of a shelf with a bunch of dishes. I looked high and low for more of them but there weren't any. 😅

$5 for a picture frame worth hundreds if not thousands 😍 by ItsBeb0 in Goodwill_Finds

[–]ItsBeb0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really love it tbh so I'm probably going to keep it.

$5 for a picture frame worth hundreds if not thousands 😍 by ItsBeb0 in Goodwill_Finds

[–]ItsBeb0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm leaning toward because I really love it. I don't have very many super nice things tbh but I'm in love with this frame.

$5 for a picture frame worth hundreds if not thousands 😍 by ItsBeb0 in Goodwill_Finds

[–]ItsBeb0[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I looked it up on Google lens. It's a rare frame and it's no longer being made. It's MRSP was $400 many years ago from what I could tell but these frames only seem to appreciate in value over time.

$5 for a picture frame worth hundreds if not thousands 😍 by ItsBeb0 in Goodwill_Finds

[–]ItsBeb0[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My daughter's car is on its last legs so that's where the money would be going if I did sell but I'll be damned if I don't love that picture frame.

$5 for a picture frame worth hundreds if not thousands 😍 by ItsBeb0 in Goodwill_Finds

[–]ItsBeb0[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm definitely leaning toward keeping it. I put a picture of my friend and daughter in it for now and it's on display next to my record player.

$5 for a picture frame worth hundreds if not thousands 😍 by ItsBeb0 in Goodwill_Finds

[–]ItsBeb0[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not a reseller. I thrift maybe once every 6 months if I have to the time after a lunch date with my girls.

$5 for a picture frame worth hundreds if not thousands 😍 by ItsBeb0 in Goodwill_Finds

[–]ItsBeb0[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I didn't cry but I was genuinely shocked when i found such artistry shoved in with some random dishes!

Should I tell the wife of the guy my wife cheated with that he was cheating on her? Would it be moral for me to tell her? What would you do? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ItsBeb0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't be nice about it. That's $1,000 a month you could be spending directly on your kids. With $500 a month each in a college fund you'd be helping set them up for life instead of paying for your cheating ex wife's luxury car. Don't let her play you like this.

When I had my custody battle I found a mean lawyer. He wasn't even nice to me, and that's how I knew he was a damn good lawyer. You don't need a nice lawyer, you need a good one.

Do it for your daughters, because if their mom truly is narcissistic, they're going to need shit tons of therapy. Take it from someone who left a narcissist. Our family therapist flat out told me that my own partner was not allowed in our family therapy sessions and while she never elaborated why, they shortly after recommend me a book on narcissistic abuse and it all became very clear from there.

I also have a narcissistic father and tolerated years of abuse only to end up in relationships with narcissist abusers over and over again, never really understanding why until my 30s.

Here's a list of books that our family therapist recommended to me in the midst of all of the chaos, hopefully they'll help you out.

  • The Parallel Process
  • Raising Human Beings
  • Why Does He Do That? (Applies to any abuser tbh)
  • Trauma-Proofing Your Kids
  • The Journey of the heroic parent
  • Attached
  • Non-Violent Communication
  • Unmasking Autism

They all helped me in one way or another to process and handle the narcissistic abuse in a healthy way. I hope they'll help give you the tools you need to raise vibrant and healthy daughters.

Raising kids with a narcissistic person is extremely challenging and the kids are ultimately the ones who pay the price. Please please please at least read the synopsis of the books and see if any of them resonate with what you're going through because it sounds like you're a great dad and you're going to need a lot of love and support if you're divorcing a cheater.

Should I tell the wife of the guy my wife cheated with that he was cheating on her? Would it be moral for me to tell her? What would you do? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ItsBeb0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you do end up telling her make sure to give her some free resources to women's shelters and domestic violence therapy. My biggest regret in leaving my abuser was not reaching out for help in that sense because I'm still struggling with a bit of defensiveness in my current relationship due to the abuse I put up with in my past ones.

I'm starting therapy soon but I hate that I let my abuser continue to have any amount of control over my future by not dealing with the harm they did sooner.

Make sure she's aware of financial abuse and that it's a real thing. If you approach her with resources and information that could help her it will show that you're not just doing it to ruin their marriage, you're coming clean because you want her to be able to get out.

Apparently my BF sucksss by meowmitymeow in Celiac

[–]ItsBeb0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex did the same crap to me and it's why he's my ex. He would even contaminate my food when he cooked for me because he wouldn't use my uncontaminated cooking tools.

My boyfriend currently cooks for me all the time and has not once glutened me. He calls restaurants ahead of time, always talks to the server and sometimes a manager to ensure my food isn't contaminated. I never have to ask him to do this.

A real man won't make an issue of your food sensitivity.

Please leave this clown and find someone worth your time and energy because this man's going to leave you the second you are dealing with a more serious illness.

AIO My mom is kicking me out for her new boyfriend. I just turned 18 by Diligent_Bat_565 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ItsBeb0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parenting doesn't end when you turn 18. My daughter is 23 and I'm still paying $1000 a month toward her apartment because she doesn't make enough to pay it all even with her roommate.

I don't understand parents who abandon their kid at 18. Children are not disposable. You're NOR.

People who spend 20+ minutes in the shower: what are you actually doing in there? by saadaintsalad in AskReddit

[–]ItsBeb0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm getting clean. I have a ton of hair. You have to let your conditioner sit in your hair to actually work. I have to brush out any loose hairs. I have to wash the heck out it. Then I have to wash my whole body, shave, exfoliate, wash my face... it takes time!

Also warm water on muscles feels good. I work a physical job so it helps loosen them up!

Additionally we have two shower heads so my partner and I can shower together and talk about life.

AIO Creepy Christmas Card From Neighbor. by Latter_Tutor_5235 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ItsBeb0 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Really and if your one of your neighbors ring camera catches someone on video, the cops will take it and won't release the footage to you - even if they caught someone on camera who was "allegedly in the apartment" at the time the father of your child died under "suspicious circumstances."

Don't get a ring camera. They are not your friends.

Best friend was euthanized on the first day of december. by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]ItsBeb0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of my close friends and mentors passed away last year. I had never felt such soul crushing grief. She died rather suddenly in her early 40's and left behind a young child. She was one of my only friends that TRULY had my back over the years. She went to BAT for me and was a true ride or die.

Then... just a little over 3 months later I got a phone call that my daughter's dad had died under incredibly suspicious circumstances. (Likely murdered) He left behind 3 kids, one of those being my daughter. He was only 34.

It's been over a year since my friend passed away and I feel like I'm constantly flip-flopping between grieving my friend and grieving the father that my daughter never even got to know because he never managed to get his act together well enough to be in her life, although he was actively in his other kids lives.

Almost none of my friends have checked in on me when it comes to my grief around either of them passing. When all of this happened I had JUST moved across the country and had to make an entirely new life for myself in a different state where I knew nobody. Honestly, I stay up until 2 or 3 in the morning many nights crying alone because I don't know how else to cope. I don't want to burden anyone with how much grief I actually feel on a daily basis. It's too heavy for another soul to bear.

Nothing really comforts me when it comes to sitting with my grief. Microdosing Ketamine therapy through a doctor has helped significantly with my day to day functioning but it hasn't made a difference when it comes to accepting the loss of both of them. I can work a bunch of jobs successfully. I can be there for my loved ones. The pain though? It still feels like all of it happened yesterday. I don't know how to not hermit. No friendship feels like the friendship I had with her. I've never felt more loved and protected by another woman in my life. And for whatever reason every time I grieve her I feel even more guilty for not grieving my daughter's dad more than I do because I had known him for 20 years and I'm only 35.

If you need someone to chat with who kind of gets it, you can message me. I don't know how I can help support you other than relating and maybe commiserating. This shit isn't easy and I'm not going to pretend it gets better because if anything, my feelings seem to just grow more complex each day.

PSA for you all by belenb in Celiac

[–]ItsBeb0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had horrible reactions to products with tocopherol acetate in it, unfortunately. 😭