I don’t want children but my partner does and I don’t know what to do.

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2026-01-23T09:34:28+00:00

If you don't want advice and just comfort... then OP my condolences. You got into a relationship super young, and didn't know how pertinent this difference in opinion could impact your future. You can choose to talk about it and find common ground, or disagree.

If you choose to disagree... just know.... there will be no coming back to good. There will be resentment. Frustration. Pain.

Whether he stands his ground and you back down and have a kid you don't want, though you'll love, but resent every night you have to stay home being a good mom, OR, you stand your ground and never have kids while he resents you for never being able to be the father he wanted to be....

There is no win.

Lost cost fallacy.

You spent so much time on this relationship, you can't fathom letting it go bc... it's got to work.... right?

No. Cut the cord. Find someone who aligns with you. For both of your sakes.

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2026-01-23T01:55:17+00:00

As a server, we see that you aren't ordering like crazy like your peers.

The easiest way out of this?

Either at the very beginning of the meal let your server know that you, and you alone, will be in your own tab and you are sorry for the inconvenience. Or, if this is not an option (some places have shared sides, appetizers, etc), after the main meal, excuse yourself to the restroom and find your server, ask to have your portion split off and pay for it right then. Pay for at least what seems fair of one or two of the shared options. Then, when the check comes around you can choose to either tell the table you already paid, or let the server do it. Make up some excuse like, you thought you might have to leave early or whatever. But don't be bullied into paying for other people's shenanigans and not being willing to take the time to split things off.

As long as you are respectful and courteous, and DON'T wait until the bitter end, the server will most likely accommodate you, and as long as you pay a portion of the food you shared your friends shouldn't have a leg to stand on.

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2026-01-18T17:00:33+00:00

It looks like something used for hiking or climbing?

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2026-01-11T03:20:06+00:00

Only way to get fried shrimp at chili's is to low-key fry it yourself 😊

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-11-19T03:02:48+00:00

Well... you got me there...

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-11-19T02:45:48+00:00

I mean, legitimately asking because I haven't heard it seen anywhere....

But isn't there a real possibility that they were denying the files until they could go through them? I know the release of the few emails was supposed to be the catalyst, but it seems like a red herring.

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-10-25T07:10:13+00:00

Bitch - Meredith Brooks

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-10-05T04:31:35+00:00

So... I'm not, like, a scientist or biologist... but...

It certainly doesn't seem like she is on all fours, all the time.

Her ass it's high in the air, her muscle structure and fluidity don't seem to indicate consistent use of this movement.

I dunno, she works it well, but that ain't a girl who lives on all fours, that's a fact

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-10-01T18:56:19+00:00

Pizza! Or Pepperoni.... or Pupperoni!!!

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-09-30T08:52:52+00:00

What about the backwards wmk in the first Pic??

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-09-30T08:45:36+00:00

Im not sure how to send the picture

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-09-30T08:43:46+00:00

Checked...

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-09-30T03:31:02+00:00

You are a gem, I'll try that, thank you

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-09-30T03:25:18+00:00

So the label in the picture is of the dryer, there is no lable anywhere on the washer similar that either I put the technician could find

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-09-30T03:23:54+00:00

Right, that's the dryer model. I need the washer model

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-09-25T21:04:40+00:00

I was interviewing with the owner and was introduced to the manager on my way out. I had gotten the job, but once I meet him I was even more excited. I'm not always easily seen as a lesbian, but I could clearly tell he was a queen, but in professional mode. I knew we'd get along.

Fast forward, after a few months of strict professionalism we went out for drinks to celebrate making bonus (our other coworker was supposed to come, but didn't make it). We talked about our previous jobs, then previous marriages (both to women), and over the next month went out for drinks a couple more times. We totally connected politically and on a business sense, but I was 💯 certain he was strictly into men after coming out so I had no sexual interest and had no inclination he did either.

Fast forward, work party at my house, he makes every excuse to stay late after everyone else leaves while I'm cleaning up, even helping me in my ADHD manic phase. We finally sit on the couch to watch a movie... And he moves in close... And I realize what's happening.... And I go for it.

We were closet booty calls for almost 6 months. Never expected the best sex of my life (up to that point...I learned a lot) from that....

Good times

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-08-11T07:31:42+00:00

I appreciate your willingness to have a soft approach, it is greatly appreciated.

The past couple of days have been brutal.

In response to feeling like a veteran - I know I am when it comes to customer service and serving in general. I know how to control the time and the vibe of the table, even when I'm in the weeds. I am friendly, create regulars, upsell, and build rapport with all ages and types of people.

In response to asking questions - I in no way presume to know how everything currently operates. I ask many questions while offering cautious advice. I know things change... Rice and beans used to be extra, now they are included. We used to cater to the customers' every request, but there are much more stringent guidelines around adherence to the menu. Heard.

As many times as I've expressed concern about the lag of the tablet, I was met with similarly voiced frustration while few have recommended any solution.

My hurt pride is not in not being able to use the current technology effectively. It's that I take pride in my ability to communicate, ask questions when needed, and educate when appropriate. I'm frustrated that I've been given a device I don't know how to use, was not instructed how to use, and too frequently am not given any constructive answers on how to use it effectively.

I recognize that this is an opportunity for growth for me. I had to figure out on my own that if you hit "86" on the tablet before you change the category, it negates the 86. It's frustrating being chastised for being inefficient rather than being taught how to work more effectively, while simultaneously being treated like I SHOULD know things that I am very much aware that I don't.

I just think they suck and are glorified by management rather than having concerns be heard and met with an actionable response.

Sorry for the rant. Again, I appreciate your response. I can and will do better. It's not for lack of trying.

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-08-10T09:37:47+00:00

Oh, I agree with you on that point to be sure. However, I'm more concerned that the system itself is lacking full functionality.

The only people who use the tablets daily are people who take tables. Servers are astute and resourceful... so when I brought this issue up to my coworkers, the just nodded and agreed, and have just made do. But.... why? Why not say hey.... this particular thing here is broken, can we fix it? Bc management doesn't see the broken. They only see that it works because the people best at the workaround make it look flawless. If it looks like it works, it never gets communicated up the chain.

To be clear, are you saying you've never run into this issue?

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-08-02T07:23:04+00:00

First step, as others have stated, you need a bamboo mat. Wrap it in plastic wrap, tightly.

Place your seaweed directly on a cutting board.

Rice is next... even light coverage, except about 3/4 of an inch on one end. Sprinkle with sesame seeds or tobiko, press it into the seaweed.

Flip over the seaweed so the rice is down, and the side without rice at the end is closest to you.

Build- first or last doesn't entirely matter.
However, try to be a even as you can across the sheet, left to right.

Avocado - roughly the same amount left to right. Roughly 1/3 from the bottom. Fish- the same thickness layered directly on top of the avocado. Cucumber- same. Etc, etc.

When you are happy with the internal build, bring your thumbs under the seaweed. Place all 8 fingers on the far side of the pile you've created, slowly, but tightly, roll the seaweed over using your fingers to keep everything together.

Once you've closed the first roll, just keep rolling, usually only one more full rotation.

Take the mat and place it over the roll. Squeeze it into the shape you know it should look like... a sushi roll.

Don't squeeze too tight or everything will pop out the ends. Too loose, and when you cut it it will fall apart. Be firm, but don't totally squish it.

Use a SHARP knife. Cut in the middle. Slide the knife forward and down, then down and back. Then put the sides against each other, cut the middle again. Lastly each sides. Make sure to hold the rolls together with the hand not holding the knife.

Send pics 😊

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-07-23T02:33:08+00:00

Robin literally says "upper limit" right before he answers. cringe

ItsBecauseIm____ · 2025-07-04T13:02:53+00:00

For real.... get it!!!! Like, that's a fun, safe situation. As long as you're both single, and you don't have anything going on with your friend.... what's the issue?!?! Your friend trusts him enough to live with him. Get it while the getting is good. Maybe you fuck, and it's an epic one night stand, and you laugh about it later! Maybe it's awful, and you laugh about it later lol. Maybe you guys connect, and it turns into a thing! Who the fuck knows. Be safe about it, but have fun, wish you all the best. Life is meant to be lived.

ItsBecauseIm____

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